How often should you see your SO

How many days a week should you see your SO?

  • 1-2 times a week, if that.

    Votes: 31 32.6%

  • 3-4 times a week.

    Votes: 43 45.3%

  • 5-6... shoot... every day you should see him!

    Votes: 29 30.5%

  • Only when its time to color (lol)

    Votes: 3 3.2%
  • Total voters
    95
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One of my friends sees her man every week or so, maybe twice a week...

I on the other had struggle to go a day without this man LOL

I have friends that are compatible with a guy, but they avoid his calls for 2 days just cuz they don't want to reach some kind of quota of seeing him for that week...

So ladies, how often during the week should you see your SO when you're dating or together? And why did you choose this answer?
 
While dating, we saw each other very often. We worked for the same company. :) As far as 'dates', a few times a week.
 
When I was dating I wouldn't see a guy more than 3 times a week. I remember my mother saying you need to give a guy a chance to miss you. I did this with all my BF's except the 2 I lived with (one of those being my DH).
 
I voted for 3-4 times a week when you've been together for a while.
Definately not every day...he'll just take you for granted. :sad:
 
FlowerHair said:
I voted for 3-4 times a week when you've been together for a while.
Definately not every day...he'll just take you for granted. :sad:
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when i notice he is getting comfy i just all of a sudden get really busy lol
i don't like to play games but it works

"boo why u busy right now... i need to see u..."
then he's cooking for me and rubbing my feet instead of whatever misbehavior he was up to :lachen:
 
music-bnatural-smile said:
when i notice he is getting comfy i just all of a sudden get really busy lol
i don't like to play games but it works

"boo why u busy right now... i need to see u..."
then he's cooking for me and rubbing my feet instead of whatever misbehavior he was up to :lachen:
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:lachen::lachen::lachen:

Unfortunately, my SO lives in Cali and I'm in MD :wallbash:, so when we get to see each other, we spend as much time as possible together! But when we were going to the same school, we probably saw each other 3-4X a week :grin:
 
I voted 1-2 times a week, with a strong leaning toward 2. If a couple is in the beginning stages of dating, it can be overwhelming to see each other more than that. Plus it helps you maintain distinct lives so you're not dependent upon the other person. It doesn't hurt that absence often makes the heart grow fonder.
 
I'd say I was a once during the week, and twice during the weekends kinda girl. I never wanted to be all hiphugged with someone 24/7....
 
I see mine once a week, but we live in different states.

Even if we were closer though, it wouldn't be more than three times a week. As much as I might care about a dude, we need to have separate lives. He needs to miss me... plus he can "earn" the right to see me daily when he marries me. :D
 
I don't know if there's a minimum or a maximum. I think it all depends on the two of you and your schedule. I see my SO 5 to 6 times a week but previous SO's were lucky if they saw me more than once a week.
 
Depends on the couple. I don't believe in rules. See each other when it's convenient and leave it at that. Even in a marriage there can be a such thing as too much togetherness. As long as you both have busy, productive and sometimes separate lives, who cares if you see each other every single day if that's what works for you and your situation?
 
Ya know even though I've been married for a while. My husband has always worked weird hours. So even though we have only gone 4 days in 13 years where we have not seen each other. We do go days without spending time with each other. He works Sat-Mon, leaves at 4:20 am and makes it home 8:00 pm daily. We don't get to spend any real time together on the weekend. He called me this morning and told me he missed me and will be home when I get off. I know what that's all about but I was still happy to know he misses me.
 
As much as you want, as much as you can.

We live an hour away, he works day and I work overnight and have a kiddie so I can do once a week or every other week. It works out fine for me as we make the most of our time when we are together and have tons to talk about.

When I was childless and had an intown boo..I would see them like at least 3 times a week or so but not everyday.
 
Good topic, OP. Did this have anything to do with my blog? :giggle: I'm at the point in my new relationship where I want to see my boo everyday! I know it's not practical, so I don't push to see him everyday. :sad: Right now we see each other pretty much every other day during the week, and every day during the weekend (Fri, Sat, Sun), with occasional "sleepovers" (at most once a week).

I like the idea of giving him a chance to miss me, and I think it works, so I don't want to jinx it. I think it also makes me cherish our time together. Things seem to be good right now. I don't feel like I'm smothering him. But it does take a lot for me to hold back on my desire to see him everyday! :ohwell:

ETA: I honestly think that's where things went wrong with me and my ex. We saw each other everyday and slept together every night (until things really started going downhill). :nono: I think we basically got sick of each other, while also becomming very dependent on each other - a very dangerous combination. :nono: So this time I want to do things "right" and hope that things will end up better than my last relationship...
 
My SO lives within walking distance from me, so, it's nothing for us to just run into each other at random neighborhood places. We probably see each other way too much, like 5-7 times a week. I may have to start being like music-bnatural-smile and becoming insanely busy out of nowhere.
 
gabulldawg said:
Good topic, OP. Did this have anything to do with my blog? :giggle: I'm at the point in my new relationship where I want to see my boo everyday! I know it's not practical, so I don't push to see him everyday. :sad: Right now we see each other pretty much every other day during the week, and every day during the weekend (Fri, Sat, Sun), with occasional "sleepovers" (at most once a week).

I like the idea of giving him a chance to miss me, and I think it works, so I don't want to jinx it. I think it also makes me cherish our time together. Things seem to be good right now. I don't feel like I'm smothering him. But it does take a lot for me to hold back on my desire to see him everyday! :ohwell:

ETA: I honestly think that's where things went wrong with me and my ex. We saw each other everyday and slept together every night (until things really started going downhill). :nono: I think we basically got sick of each other, while also becomming very dependent on each other - a very dangerous combination. :nono: So this time I want to do things "right" and hope that things will end up better than my last relationship...
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I think theres nothing wrong with it depending on your personality type...
me and SO both love company, and each other's company...
sometimes we don't talk, sometimes we work, sometimes we tell each other stories...
and then we also can tell if it would be better if we just stayed home that day... we're usually on the same page with that
in my other relationships, we never synced up like that, but we tried to chill alot, and we clashed...

Cyd Chicago said:
My SO lives within walking distance from me, so, it's nothing for us to just run into each other at random neighborhood places. We probably see each other way too much, like 5-7 times a week. I may have to start being like music-bnatural-smile and becoming insanely busy out of nowhere.
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lol don't get it twisted, its like a day and a 1/2 of busy...
like on our grocery store fight day, i went home early "I'm tired"
The next day I DCed and watched my shows and cooked myself a grand meal... "I have errands to run."
The day after I woke up late and had stop by work for a bit... When I went home he was like:
"meh... can I pick u up? I made dinner"
Then we got up at like 5:30 and chilled til late :lachen:
And I usually do the calling... when I'm "busy" I wait for him to call...
He doesn't know I do this but it definitely works... it recharges the batteries lol
 
dlewis said:
Ya know even though I've been married for a while. My husband has always worked weird hours. So even though we have only gone 4 days in 13 years where we have not seen each other. We do go days without spending time with each other. He works Sat-Mon, leaves at 4:20 am and makes it home 8:00 pm daily. We don't get to spend any real time together on the weekend. He called me this morning and told me he missed me and will be home when I get off. I know what that's all about but I was still happy to know he misses me.
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OOOOOOH D got a booty call :lachen:
 
I only see him on Fridays, Saturdays and Sundays, we both have other things going on so it makes no sense to be Siamese twins all the time. Sometimes I see him on a Wednesday night if we both make it to church, otherwise see ya on the weekend baby :yep:
 
I live with him, and we still don't "hang out" daily. We sleep, eat, and work throughout the week lol.

Then I'm always taking trips or shopping, he's hanging out with friends.

So since we instituted a "date night," we definitely hang out that night, and maybe an additional 1-2 nights (or days, depending on work) per week.

I hope the way I explained it makes sense?
 
creolehottie said:
I live with him, and we still don't "hang out" daily. We sleep, eat, and work throughout the week lol.

Then I'm always taking trips or shopping, he's hanging out with friends.

So since we instituted a "date night," we definitely hang out that night, and maybe an additional 1-2 nights (or days, depending on work) per week.

I hope the way I explained it makes sense?
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We have date night too. Our kids use to always want to go with us. Now they say, "Moma and Daddy have to have date night so they'll stay married.":giggle:
 
prob 3-4 times a week. he & i were both very busy last year. right now, i dont see him since he is back home for break (saw him about a week ago though :)) i have more free time this year since im working less but hell still be busy... its good b/c i spent at least 6hrs a day with my ex and that didnt end well and i think part of it was b/c i gave him and he gave me too much of the others time
 
We live 2 hours away and my job involves a lot of travel (when I am in the office, it's in his city).

But we still manage to see each other 1-2 times a week and that is enough for now...But I have noticed that the weeks where we see each other 3 x, it's really nice :)
 
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