What's a spat?
I mean yea, me getting irritated and making my irritation known, or vice versa? Maybe one every week or 2. How long does it take to make up? About 2 hours.
I can't stay mad very long - takes up too much energy.
People who hold grudges?
I began to say how it wasn't fair that he suddenly got upset out of nowhere. Why was he mad? Because of the WAY I said to put the garbage away. Whichever way that was...
Depends.
Arguments that's he's either initiated and/or fueled? I'd say he iniaties one about every two YEARS. It is when I have done something that hurts or disturbs him more than usual and he must air his hurt.
Uh, arguments I've started? About two per DAY.
I usually ignore a few of his calls for the next day or so, and by Day Two I have relented.
I notice that he and I get into more spats when I'm PMSing or ovulating. It may sound sexist but it's true. I get really hormonal and mean and I start arguments over the stupidest things. He's not very argumentative, and neither am I. But when I'm raging, it's a wrap. He mostly tries to buffer the situation and calm me down. I usually end up apologizing because I'm usually wrong. LOL. But other than that, we're cool.
When So and I was at our worst, we argue for three and half years straight. We have been together going on 12 years. I think we know the ins and outs of each other. When you are getting to know someone you have to learn the bad side along with the good side so you know how to handle it all. Does that make sense. My SO and I are back in-love with each other because we just got over seeing each other at our worst and now we are back to basic. The basic is what make us love each other so much that we make it through the hard times. It's been plenty of times we both just wanted it to end but we both knew we can make each other happy, if we can just get pass the hard times. I hope this helps. Being in and maintaining a relationship is no joke. The hard time will determined what the relationship is worth.