JinaRicci
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A cousin of mine who I love dearly met a man 10+ years her senior on the phone like a month ago. He called her randomly to discuss a business opportunity (which he never disclosed) and by the end of the conversation started asking her very personal questions to the point that she felt he was interested in her. Yeah...
Since he's white, she thought she could discourage him by telling him that she is black and has short hair (LMBO) but it didn't and he kept calling. Of course I was very vocal with my opinions on this- maybe too much so b/c she felt it necessary to lie when she went out with him for the first time. Afterwards, she found that she really liked him, he blew her away and was more than she expected. But she was very conflicted-not sure what to do.
Meanwhile, I kept asking her if he ever said where he got her phone number from- exactly which agency... still don't have the answer. Last weekend she went to his house and fell in love with it (which made my eyebrows go ^^) since all his decoration choices fit her tastes. While she was there she also met a good lady friend of his who hangs out a lot with him.. it made her more comfortable to meet someone who actually knows him.
Anyway, she keeps calling me with all the see-saw emotions that she's going through. This week she started off saying that he mentioned how little action he's had since his divorce to which I went "Whaaa.." and the conversation ended. These days, I really just try to listen since I don't want to continue giving my opinion.
I know that I'm a very analytical person and this would raise all sorts of flags for me but I also know that you can find true love in the strangest ways. I don't want to see my cuz hurt- she's gone through a lot but I really think this is crazy. I can't tell the future- no but this seems very obvious to me where it's headed. Need to hear some other views please.
Kinda long... but I would love to know what you ladies think.
Since he's white, she thought she could discourage him by telling him that she is black and has short hair (LMBO) but it didn't and he kept calling. Of course I was very vocal with my opinions on this- maybe too much so b/c she felt it necessary to lie when she went out with him for the first time. Afterwards, she found that she really liked him, he blew her away and was more than she expected. But she was very conflicted-not sure what to do.
Meanwhile, I kept asking her if he ever said where he got her phone number from- exactly which agency... still don't have the answer. Last weekend she went to his house and fell in love with it (which made my eyebrows go ^^) since all his decoration choices fit her tastes. While she was there she also met a good lady friend of his who hangs out a lot with him.. it made her more comfortable to meet someone who actually knows him.
Anyway, she keeps calling me with all the see-saw emotions that she's going through. This week she started off saying that he mentioned how little action he's had since his divorce to which I went "Whaaa.." and the conversation ended. These days, I really just try to listen since I don't want to continue giving my opinion.
I know that I'm a very analytical person and this would raise all sorts of flags for me but I also know that you can find true love in the strangest ways. I don't want to see my cuz hurt- she's gone through a lot but I really think this is crazy. I can't tell the future- no but this seems very obvious to me where it's headed. Need to hear some other views please.
Kinda long... but I would love to know what you ladies think.