KimPossibli
Supergirl
How do you handle not being able to invite, close friends/ family to your wedding?
How Do You Handle Persons That Arent Invited To Your Wedding?
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Dee-Licious
Well-Known Member
Tell them it's a space issue (if it is), and you still value them, but they won't be able to share in that day.
KimPossibli
Supergirl
thanks for answering!
If you were a friend that was invited but a very close friend of both yours and one of the persons getting married was not. how would you handle it.
for clarity, this is a person, who both you and the bride enjoy their house virtually weekly.
you didnt realise that the person wasnt even told about the wedding until 3 days before the wedding.
you ended up making a very gauche mistake as a result of not knowing that information.
If you were a friend that was invited but a very close friend of both yours and one of the persons getting married was not. how would you handle it.
for clarity, this is a person, who both you and the bride enjoy their house virtually weekly.
you didnt realise that the person wasnt even told about the wedding until 3 days before the wedding.
you ended up making a very gauche mistake as a result of not knowing that information.
Browndilocks
Browndisha Brownie Sundae
It's not your responsibility to handle anything. That's between the friend and the person who didn't invite them. I wouldn't rub it in but I also wouldn't feel obligated to withhold details if asked. You made an innocent mistake and I'd apologize for the unforced error and leave it right there.
Chill in somebody's house every week and not even disclose the deets about the wedding? The shade...
Chill in somebody's house every week and not even disclose the deets about the wedding? The shade...
Dee-Licious
Well-Known Member
KimPossibli
Supergirl
I was so stunned. I actually apologised to the mutual friend.. but she said I had nothing to apologise for and kept saying she's not going to be pressed about it even though she is hurt.
I want to speak to the Bride, becuase I think she behaved badly (not only about this), but I was planning to wait until the end of the honey moon.
but may be you're right I should just mind my business.
We skipped like two weekends due to... wedding errands... only I guess only two of us were running wedding errands.. :/
Foxglove
A drop of golden sun
Unless you are paying for the wedding you shouldn't mention anything about who was invited
KimPossibli
Supergirl
yeah, thanks.
I'm glad I asked.
I feel super uncomfortable about this. but yeah.. this isnt my lane.
Browndilocks
Browndisha Brownie Sundae
I would not say anything right now, but I'd definitely confront the bride later on. She put you in an awkward position on purpose and unbeknownst to you. Not cool. She could have at least given you a heads up about what's going on since all of you spend time in the woman's house. Makes it look like she used you to deflect her shade.
KimPossibli
Supergirl
I want to clarify that my issue isn't that the friend wasn't invited but that she wasn't even made aware a wedding was occurring
Also this is some one she has known longer than me, someone I thought she was closer too than me at verging points as well.
Also this is some one she has known longer than me, someone I thought she was closer too than me at verging points as well.
Browndilocks
Browndisha Brownie Sundae
I get it. I'd confront her about putting me in an awkward position, not about why she didn't inform the friend. She has a right to invite/ not invite who she wants.
Really tho - how could y'all kick it every week and the wedding topic not come up? Like nothing at all? What group of friends does that? A wedding is a big deal. What in the world else were y'all talking about?
Really tho - how could y'all kick it every week and the wedding topic not come up? Like nothing at all? What group of friends does that? A wedding is a big deal. What in the world else were y'all talking about?
KimPossibli
Supergirl
girl, I know right, but the wedding was organized over a very short period of time.. and for a while I was trying to be very gentle, quiet because I knew she was stressed by not asking too many questions..
looking back I'm just trying to recall all our conversations to try to figure out happened.
I know I spoke as if the friend knew. which is how I ended up with pie on my face. but I'm trying figure out how it just never clued in.
naturalmanenyc
Well-Known Member
There is someone who posted recently about not being invited to a wedding. I wonder if it's the same wedding?
I suggest you stay out of it. You have no idea why the bride invited you and not the mutual friend and it's not your problem to figure out.
Let them hash out their own issues.
I suggest you stay out of it. You have no idea why the bride invited you and not the mutual friend and it's not your problem to figure out.
Let them hash out their own issues.
