Fine 4s
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Had a really good conversation with an oder couple about the freedom they give each other in their marriage. and before their marriage. While I agree in theory that one should have the god given right to live the only live they were given the way they CHOSE to, I don't FEEL OK with that just yet. Imposing 'rules' (or the lighter term boundaries) to the relationship make me feel better, gives me a (maybe false) sense of safety and control. They (mainly him) looked at me like I was crazy lol. Like all the crap that I've ready here or online or hear from others is utterly off and not about love but control and secretly I'm like that with certain close friends.
Oh and I brought up the Mike Pence thread too, you know the rule he 'claims' to have about not having dinner with any female unless his wife is present.
So my question is, how does one allow their partner to travel the world solo, go to that salsa dance club, hang out with their own friends without you, etc. without feeling threatened or like a doormat?
Oh and I brought up the Mike Pence thread too, you know the rule he 'claims' to have about not having dinner with any female unless his wife is present.
So my question is, how does one allow their partner to travel the world solo, go to that salsa dance club, hang out with their own friends without you, etc. without feeling threatened or like a doormat?