Fine 4s
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I get distant, don't kiss, hug, hardly want to speak to him, super delayed text messages...I just go dead.
My male friends tell me this is not a good way to be. He tells me that from what he hears from his boyz, men want to know that in spite of the tough times, they will still be loved, still be desired and that the two emotions can co-exist. Although they don't want to date their mothers, they want that motherly unconditional love security. Just like momz would be upset that you broke her favorite dish but still ask what you want to eat. Does his opinion make sense to you? Have you observed the same?
Another example came from a gf of mine. She told me how she had been caught flirting with another guy over the phone. After she got off the phone her bf questioned who it was on the phone and told her very calmy how he felt about the interaction. Meanwhile they had plans to go away that weekend to some romantic location/hotel. She was so nervous that he'd cancel the plans. Do you know that after that man spoke his peace, he packed the car and they went off to have a lovely weekend. THAT would NOT be me. She would have had to go home with all that flirty flirty mess. LOL
This is very difficult for me. How do you ladies get upset? Or does the behavior match WHAT you're upset about?
My male friends tell me this is not a good way to be. He tells me that from what he hears from his boyz, men want to know that in spite of the tough times, they will still be loved, still be desired and that the two emotions can co-exist. Although they don't want to date their mothers, they want that motherly unconditional love security. Just like momz would be upset that you broke her favorite dish but still ask what you want to eat. Does his opinion make sense to you? Have you observed the same?
Another example came from a gf of mine. She told me how she had been caught flirting with another guy over the phone. After she got off the phone her bf questioned who it was on the phone and told her very calmy how he felt about the interaction. Meanwhile they had plans to go away that weekend to some romantic location/hotel. She was so nervous that he'd cancel the plans. Do you know that after that man spoke his peace, he packed the car and they went off to have a lovely weekend. THAT would NOT be me. She would have had to go home with all that flirty flirty mess. LOL
This is very difficult for me. How do you ladies get upset? Or does the behavior match WHAT you're upset about?