Well, when you said to the OP, "Please date one who has dated BW before," I know that's your recommendation, but if I'm someone considering IR dating, hearing that comes off as as being pretty darn near factual to me... and it seems that there's no acknowledgment that there could indeed be WM who haven't dated BW who would still make great partners for one. If the OP is relatively young, it's highly possible that she'll meet an equally young WM who hasn't had the opportunity to even consider dating a BW... so he automatically gets kicked to the curb because he hasn't?
Or like I mentioned with the other side of things, there are some WM who think they know all about BW and are then quite surprised when I have to tell them that we are indeed different and do not all fit a certain "mold," so to speak. Some WM have gotten on my cot dayum nerves using what a past black woman told them about black people to determine how he's going to interact with me.
As for the Yaki, I think that's what he was talking about!
And I've probably messed up a few WM for the next BW they date, because they're gonna wonder why they don't get her hair wet everyday... after all, Bunny was black and she did it!
As for the sex thing, I always say that many black men will sleep with a black woman and never go past that point either for a serious relationship... half the posts on this forum usually involve this dynamic with two black people!
I'm just sayin', if you want to rule out the white dudes who only want a sex thing with a black woman, just don't sleep with them on date #2 or whatever when they start pushing for it... it's not all that hard really to figure out which men want you for sex and which want you for you.