The Lord is not supposed to be one's husband, at least not on Earth. The church needs to stop with that... 
(don't get me started, lol) The Lord is the only one that has never let me down so he is my husband until he sends me one in the flesh is all Im saying.
Gotcha... I'm responding to the part where you said, "Ladies, I think the Lord is our husband now." I know, I take things pretty literally (like the word "our"), but I never considered the Lord as my husband. He's my heavenly Father, most definitely, but He's not my husband and never will be.
I realize that folks feel differently, but I personally don't believe in that line of thinking.
[/B]I dont recall revealing enough info about the relationships mentioned in order for you assume these men had poor character.
You just said these men are liars and cheaters, so yeah, that's poor character. I wasn't talking about your relationships specifically, since you didn't mention those, but the relationships you described in your post all indicate that those men have poor character.
So... why do we consider a bad relationship an "investment?" 
Never said I did
You said it right here... "I never know when to walk away before investing years into it."
So do you mean to tell me that if Im in an overall good relationship and the first argument we have that does not include family, illnesses, etc. that he is not the right man for me and I should drop him? I understand the point u are trying to make but I dont totally agree.
An argument doesn't mean that the relationship is a bad one. People are going to argue. But there's a difference between the people arguing about say, a misunderstanding, and an argument that shows a fundamental problem with the man.
I haven't shared this on the board, but I'm going to do it now just because I feel ready to... and this post moved me to do so.
A long time ago, I was dating a guy and things were going great for three months. Then one day, he got upset with me and locked me out of his apartment. It was over the silliest thing... we should have just had the argument, figured out the problem and then moved on.
But the fact that he ignored my calls and then sat in his place while I sat outside knocking on the door? And refused to answer to teach me a lesson? Oh hell naw!
So I let him have it, but silly me forgave him after he begged and pleaded and gave me flowers and all that. Luckily, it ended three months after that, so the six months didn't take a lot of time out of my life and cause too much lasting damage.
My point is, THAT action was a situation that should have ended the relationship immediately. If we had just argued over the issue and hashed it out (in a reasonable manner), we probably would have been fine after that. But that was a BIG red flag as to the nature of his POOR character... and I would have looked foolish if I had stuck around much longer asking why is my relationship so difficult when I knew good and well at the three-month point that I had an a@@ on my hands.
God will see you through. He's a way maker. Have faith in his ability to chage you and change your circumstances. But know its never the way we expect which is the spice of life. This guy probably will not get his act together. Thats ok. When you finally get over it and move on (because you will because beautiful and deserve better), you look back and wonder why you wasted your time when God has given you so much more. Pray to God for change in your heart and a mate that compliments you in everyway. That will love you and someone you can respect and follow. I pray these things for you. Pray them for yourself as well.
It's very hard... 
At first, when I asked myself: "what am I afraid of that I can't really let this guy go??" I couldn't think of anything. But what you posted here and put so eloquently helped me to see that what you stated is EXACTLY how I'm feeling!!! 
