Does he do this often?Or is this a new thing?
Ok...i see where dis is goin.... *lightin up my newport one hunnert puff*
Lemme tell u what he doin. He's playin dat dumb ole *** psych game. Psychin u out, havin u going crazee playin dumb mind games (i.e., packin his stuff, putting it in da car knowin damn well he ain't got no where to go...it's cold outside and we are jive like in a recession...aint nobody housin nobody now cuz we too close to Crimmus and here we barely ate at Thanksgiving), accusin u of cheatin on him when he knows damn well u ain't, accusin u of havin men textin u all hours of the night, and you feedin right into his game. See, its just a matter of time before he's caught in his sh__t, and trust, it won't take long. *takes anotha drag off da newport*
Botton line to dat is, he's takin da focus off of him, and puttin it on u so he can go out there and do what he wanna do. Flippin da script. He tryna find a reason to have a reason to step out (i.e., askin u if ur cheatin, startin arguments, not speakin, and all dat otha dumb stuff). He knows das ur best friend textin u...and das da reason/loophole he needs to step out.
Somebody got his nose wiiiide open and he tryna find a way out to blame u in a sense cuz he feelin guilty (i.e., startin arguments, not wantin to take da chirren to school, comin home late, his cell phone ringin off da hook, etc. u get da picha). All that not takin his kids to school, etc is some bullshiggidy. Anytime a man changes his program, somethin is up. Chile, I done been der, done dat. Yall had a nice lil routine goin on, now some chick done came thru n put salt in da game.
Now, as for you....you don't owe him no explanation cuz he already know wassup and so do you. Whatchu need to do is stop *scuse me...gotta take anotha puff* feedin into his bull and get ur control back. First, stop explainin urself and turn ur phone off durin da day. When yall home, and he starts askin u dumb shiggidy, don't even answer him. Be nice. Uh huh....das right...be nice to him. Don't change what you do. If he steps out, let him and when he comes back in, don't ask him where you been, u smell like perfume, cigaretts n puddi...dont say none of that,cuz das da kinda reaction he wants. Get up n take da chirren to school...they urs too, cuz if he leaves, u gotta take dem anyway... I know u think i'm crazy, but see men are dumb and they usually dont dummy up til they around 40s....seriously. When you do this, now he gonna sit back and try n figa out what's wrong witchu, and what ur up too.....in other words, he's gonna get scared cuz ur not reactin the way he wants u too.... this road is all too familiar to me. I wish it was me he was playin dis mess on. Thats when da slip up will come. All you gotta do is sit back and let it come to you without even sayin or doin anything. Men dont know how to cheat without gettin caught. Trust me on this one. Plus he young too???? just from what I read, he aint even playin it right.
Then again, I could be wrong. Maybe he just young dumb and fulla kumm... Stop lettin him emotionally drain you and givin him what he wants.....a reaction. We as women are too smart for this. This is sooo classic and old. All u gotta do is think and get ur respect back.
I hope Im wrong...
My $0.02
Once, I did receive a text at 2am....lmao. I didn't mention it. Didn't answer it and my SO didn't say a word. Fast forward a couple days later and he's, "are you interested in someone else?" Gotta keep em on their toes. Sometimes fools get drunk and drunk-text at unGodly hours. oh well.
Uh, that is NEVER ok. I'm so sorry.Gemini - I hope I didn't sound too harsh in my last statement, and I know it hurts like hell. But I just hate to see these men take advantage of sistas (I have a daughter 19) and play with their emotions. But for this, please don't get upset and react on emotion. I would advise any woman that when in a crisis such as this...never react on emotions. Rather, take some time out and think what is best for you and your daughters, because you all come first.
Just the other day, I was listening to this song that goes something like....*clears throat* ./'./'./' i broke the windows in ur car ./'./'./' and I remember thinking dayum....but then as I listened to the lyrics, and being a woman who has been in bullshiggidy relationships, I could kind of understand....being open minded as I am because men play on womens' emotions. Now when I heard this other song....lions tigers n bears, i was like awww hell nawww......
Again, for the sake of your daughters, don't react on emotion. Anytime we react on emotion, we wind up making the wrong decision.
What you do is absolutely nothing. Take care of those girls, because as I said before, anything done in the dark will come to light and you really don't have the time or energy to be taking a ride on that emotional rollercoaster. You'll mess around and blow a brain fuse tryna figure out who he's messing around with...not worth it. As state earlier, just be yourself and save yourself from the emotional havoc and don't react to his stupidness. What I'm sayin prolly doesn't make any sense to you now, but as you get older, and look back, it will.
Besides, last I checked, we were on dis hea forum tryna grow some hair or take care of da lil we got....puleez dont have a major stress set back and let dis bama make u go bald from all dis hea worriation n flustration....
Ok...i see where dis is goin.... *lightin up my newport one hunnert puff*
Lemme tell u what he doin. He's playin dat dumb ole *** psych game. Psychin u out, havin u going crazee playin dumb mind games (i.e., packin his stuff, putting it in da car knowin damn well he ain't got no where to go...it's cold outside and we are jive like in a recession...aint nobody housin nobody now cuz we too close to Crimmus and here we barely ate at Thanksgiving), accusin u of cheatin on him when he knows damn well u ain't, accusin u of havin men textin u all hours of the night, and you feedin right into his game. See, its just a matter of time before he's caught in his sh__t, and trust, it won't take long. *takes anotha drag off da newport*
Botton line to dat is, he's takin da focus off of him, and puttin it on u so he can go out there and do what he wanna do. Flippin da script. He tryna find a reason to have a reason to step out (i.e., askin u if ur cheatin, startin arguments, not speakin, and all dat otha dumb stuff). He knows das ur best friend textin u...and das da reason/loophole he needs to step out.
Somebody got his nose wiiiide open and he tryna find a way out to blame u in a sense cuz he feelin guilty (i.e., startin arguments, not wantin to take da chirren to school, comin home late, his cell phone ringin off da hook, etc. u get da picha). All that not takin his kids to school, etc is some bullshiggidy. Anytime a man changes his program, somethin is up. Chile, I done been der, done dat. Yall had a nice lil routine goin on, now some chick done came thru n put salt in da game.
Now, as for you....you don't owe him no explanation cuz he already know wassup and so do you. Whatchu need to do is stop *scuse me...gotta take anotha puff* feedin into his bull and get ur control back. First, stop explainin urself and turn ur phone off durin da day. When yall home, and he starts askin u dumb shiggidy, don't even answer him. Be nice. Uh huh....das right...be nice to him. Don't change what you do. If he steps out, let him and when he comes back in, don't ask him where you been, u smell like perfume, cigaretts n puddi...dont say none of that,cuz das da kinda reaction he wants. Get up n take da chirren to school...they urs too, cuz if he leaves, u gotta take dem anyway... I know u think i'm crazy, but see men are dumb and they usually dont dummy up til they around 40s....seriously. When you do this, now he gonna sit back and try n figa out what's wrong witchu, and what ur up too.....in other words, he's gonna get scared cuz ur not reactin the way he wants u too.... this road is all too familiar to me. I wish it was me he was playin dis mess on. Thats when da slip up will come. All you gotta do is sit back and let it come to you without even sayin or doin anything. Men dont know how to cheat without gettin caught. Trust me on this one. Plus he young too???? just from what I read, he aint even playin it right.
Then again, I could be wrong. Maybe he just young dumb and fulla kumm... Stop lettin him emotionally drain you and givin him what he wants.....a reaction. We as women are too smart for this. This is sooo classic and old. All u gotta do is think and get ur respect back.
I hope Im wrong...
My $0.02
Gem, did he come home?
That's what's important. If you aren't happy, you will all suffer. Do not give this man your life and happiness.
LMAO @ top-lock his arse!!!Girl he set you up. Started an argument so he can have a reason to do him with no questions asked. Men are so simple.
This is why you only give them a key to the bottom lock......just incase you need to top-lock his *** out.
I dont know why you didnt just keep the peace and tell him, i dont think its wrong at all for him to want to know-and you had the same feelings when you found out he was texting, the same questions, I think you should just be real with him , just like if he was up texting in the middle of the night, you would want to know and you would want an answer
