Ok so...at first I was thinking..."Dang these LHCF women are some uppity broads" and I was going to have to disagree with you all buuuuuuuuut I got to really thinking.
I grew up in the hood, AND the house was a fixer-upper, and I will tell you that I would not wish that on my worst enemy.
I was blessed to have two parents that were highly invested and involved in me and my siblings success in life. They did not have a lot of money, but they fought tooth and nail to keep my sister, 2 older brothers and I out of the streets. Drive-bys were a daily occurence on my block.
There was a crackhead commune 3 doors down from my house, police were always raiding a house, we came home on multiple occasions to find our front door kicked in with our house ransacked and belongings missing, and if we bought expensive electronics, we had to sneek them in through the back door at 2am.
Now...it took my father over 16 years to renovate the whole house. With 4 kids and a wife, it was nearly impossible to do it any quicker. During this renovation, we had every animal/rodent/insect infestation known to man. I'm talking roach infestation, mouse infestation, an occasional rat would make an appearance, gnat infestation, waterbug infestation, centipede infestation, spider infestation, squirrel infestation, bird infestation, sometimes the neighborhood possums would drop by to hang out, fly infestation, moth infestation, bee infestation, ant infestation, and cat infestation. Yes! even random stray cats would find their way into the house and terrorize us.
So here I am, luckily, a well adjusted adult with a college degree and a career (as with my other siblings). My family and I are able to laugh about it now, and we have a good time reminiscing on the constant adventures, but would I have chosen that life if I could. HELL NO! When you are a child going through it, it was not fun at all.
I decided that you all are not uppity (LOL), and are dead on with the advice given. Homegirl needs to run for the hills, and let this man find someone who will love that hood life.