The background.
She- raised upper middle class
He - decent family, but lived a hard life - ie. Hood, always had to struggle
HE has gotten a deal on a house in the hood. They are planning a wedding- yes she has the ring.
The house needs ALOT of work, but he has the skills to make it happen.
He is getting it ready, and made the commitment to the house without discussing with her.
The house takes her away from work (much longer commute), and she just deosn't feel safe in that neighborhood. She asked why he would make such a large decision without her consent ( I agree). He thinks she is not allowing them to pave the way for a better future ( they can save money).
But she is not happy with the area. He's mad, she's pissed and about to call it off. Her concerns of not feeling safe or it being inconvenient is falling on deaf ears. He's almost trying to force her to move in although she states she is not happy.
I saw the house ya'll. It has bars on the windows. I myself have never lived in a house with bars on the windows ( thank you Jesus, i have had a blessed life).
Is she lacking vision or is he asking too much? Why would he ask her to downgrade her lifestyle for him? Would you do it? BTW these are folks in thier 40's, not kids.
P.S. One of the cars has been broken into and robbed of the radio and misc change over the July 4th weekend while away.
She's scared and about to break it off. He's gotten too far into it to back out now. She is resentful because she feels she is being forced to do something she would not have chosen for herself.
Thoughts?
She- raised upper middle class
He - decent family, but lived a hard life - ie. Hood, always had to struggle
HE has gotten a deal on a house in the hood. They are planning a wedding- yes she has the ring.
The house needs ALOT of work, but he has the skills to make it happen.
He is getting it ready, and made the commitment to the house without discussing with her.
The house takes her away from work (much longer commute), and she just deosn't feel safe in that neighborhood. She asked why he would make such a large decision without her consent ( I agree). He thinks she is not allowing them to pave the way for a better future ( they can save money).
But she is not happy with the area. He's mad, she's pissed and about to call it off. Her concerns of not feeling safe or it being inconvenient is falling on deaf ears. He's almost trying to force her to move in although she states she is not happy.
I saw the house ya'll. It has bars on the windows. I myself have never lived in a house with bars on the windows ( thank you Jesus, i have had a blessed life).
Is she lacking vision or is he asking too much? Why would he ask her to downgrade her lifestyle for him? Would you do it? BTW these are folks in thier 40's, not kids.
P.S. One of the cars has been broken into and robbed of the radio and misc change over the July 4th weekend while away.
She's scared and about to break it off. He's gotten too far into it to back out now. She is resentful because she feels she is being forced to do something she would not have chosen for herself.
Thoughts?
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