He Followed Her Friend On Social Media, Petty Betty Or Nah?

Which is it?

  • Petty

    Votes: 10 55.6%

  • Concerned

    Votes: 8 44.4%
  • Total voters
    18
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FemmeFatale

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So your SO of two years decided to follow a close friend of yours that he's never met or interacted with.. She accepts his follow but doesn't follow him and neither of them say anything about it to you..Would it annoy you? Is it petty? Would you mention it? If so, to who?

Some context..

BF is turdish, hasn't cheated or anything but doesn't make you feel like a queen. He is very attractive and well accomplished

Close friend is facially gorgeous, a 10..body is a bit chubby, she is well educated and accomplished and single with no children. The trophy type for the most part.

You have 2 children from a prev relationship. Educated, employed, pretty w/ fantastic figure
 
Followed on IG or Twitter? Personally I am not into doing the kind of sleuthing that would bring this info to light, but I would think it's petty if someone brought that to me. He may think the friend is attractive, and I am sure he follows a lot of attractive women. The question is, if she mentions it what does she want to happen?
 
RoundEyedGirl504 said:
Followed on IG or Twitter? Personally I am not into doing the kind of sleuthing that would bring this info to light, but I would think it's petty if someone brought that to me. He may think the friend is attractive, and I am sure he follows a lot of attractive women. The question is, if she mentions it what does she want to happen?
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It's IG

To her, its about transparency and protocol. Plus friend feels like close friend is his type. She also feels like they never had any group outings, where do you know her from and why the interest?
 
FemmeFatale said:
It's IG

To her, its about transparency and protocol. Plus friend feels like close friend is his type. She also feels like they never had any group outings, where do you know her from and why the interest?
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So sounds like the crux of the issue is she's insecure and wants to question him about it. Once people start getting into the petty back and forth about who you're following on IG, IMO the relationship is dead in the water.
 
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Mortons said:
Men follow pretty women who post themselves on social media. It's to be expected
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Pretty much. And if she starts asking questions she will probably get her feelings hurt because she is already feeling like her friend is the dude's type. He may unfollow her friend but that won't stop him from looking. I look at things from the resolution perspective, so that's why I am wondering what she wants to happen in this scenario.
 
FemmeFatale said:
Late 20s early 30s
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First, they're too old for this level of foolishness :nono: Secondly, I don't trust a man over 22 on social media for personal reasons. Brand building or social activism are fine w/ me. Some people may think it's just me showing my age but human nature hasn't changed with the invention of the computer. Back in the day it was "liming" or hanging out on the stoop. After a while a man's got to give up on that mess. The wealthy people who run this country (except for Trump) aren't on social media. They're in boardrooms making deals and coming up with ideas. [/end rant]
 
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lux10023 said:
awwww shux...she wanted to know the reason he was following you? lol

she should've checked her boo not you....ugh
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Yea and I was a bit irritated that she actually took time out of her day and texted me yes. And it was like "girl I just peeped that __ is following you, did you know that"? I was like following me where? IG. I said oh, then he must like nails, me trying to blow it off. She came back like I don't get why he would follow you when he doesn't know you and we've never had pics together on IG. I said maybe he's trying to get his follow count up. That happened ALL the time when I was on FB.
 
I wouldn't care. And if neither of them said anything about it to me, then I wouldn't know it had happened. I don't keep up with who follows who on social media.

My SO recently informed me that you can follow people on fb now! I had no idea lol
 
That is exactly what I would do... I will make a joke about who he follows n if he brushes it off or get defensive. then ill start following his fine friends


MsYoYo said:
I'd be petty AF by going to follow one of his friends that I've never met. :lachen: :look:

How does she know that he followed her friend but she didn't follow him back?
Is she going through their lists or something?
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That would be odd. If I noticed, I would bring it up with him and tell him that I find it inappropriate. Given that I barely notice these social media shenanigans though lol.

Anyway, a guy I know did this a couple of years ago. He declared his love for me :rolleyes: and added me on FB. Feelings weren't mutual. So he began liking all my pics and commenting on my radiating beauty :rolleyes:. Anyway, my friends are worse than I am, they began commenting after him telling me I got a groupie, fan etc. I'm not sure if he took it as they being friendly, but he began sending them friend requests and they began messaging me telling me to tell him to stop that ish. Long story short, I told him that he was being weird, blocked him from viewing my friend list, timeline and gave him minimal access to my pics.
 
Social media has really complicated our lives huh?

Would it be weird? Yes. Would I say something, probably not, unless I just asked (tilting my head to the side, assuming an innocently curious tone) "Why are you following XYZ?", "Oh! Ok, no problem...I assumed it would bother you for me to follow a couple of people on your list so I haven't but if you don't care then cool!" Yup, it may be passive aggressive but I think men have too many double standards.

But I'm sure if we had been together for 2 years he would already know how I felt about boundaries, friends of the opposite sex, etc. So this wouldn't be an issue.

But anyways...I don't friend/follow certain people. My friends "baby daddy" sent me a friend request. No thank you. They are not a couple (though we've met a few times). I don't want to friend anyone who I may later have to un-friend due to someone else's drama. I'm glad DH doesn't do social media. I like it that way.
 
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