zzirvingj
New Member
I don't frequent the relationship forum that often but I was reading another thread and it reminded me of a situation that happened a month or so ago.
My first boyfriend, my first and only love, we are still friends to this day. What is truly amazing about it is there was a point in time when we broke up that I never thought I'd talk to him again but that was years ago so things have changed and we are now pretty cool with each other....but that's it. I have no feelings for him whatsoever and I'm amazed looking back, that I was actually in love with this guy at one point.
Anywho, I was texting my ex once (he lives up north) and he was like "I want some sexy pictures of you." He is a real clown, and so I took it as a joke (cuz he knows there is no way he would ever get something like that from ME).
And jokingly said "Sure...just send me yours first and then I'll send you mine" 
And that was the end of that convo.
Anyhow, a couple of weeks later, he ends up visiting family in my town and we go out for lunch. I brought up that conversation and was like, "Who does that anyway? I mean, who's gonna text you naked pictures of themself?" Well lo and behold he hands me his phone and he has over a dozen naked pics of women that had been text-ed to him! And they were women he knew cuz I saw the names.
I mean, I guess I shouldn't be surprised but I really was...I mean, all these girls were butt naked and there he was showing me THEIR pics. When I told him I was disgusted he just shrugged like it wasn't a big deal. Well I guess if it's not a big deal for him to ask and not a big deal for the woman to send it then I guess I shouldn't take issue with it, right? What grown folks do is their business but I couldn't help but feel like this type of action is why some men objectify women so easily...?
My first boyfriend, my first and only love, we are still friends to this day. What is truly amazing about it is there was a point in time when we broke up that I never thought I'd talk to him again but that was years ago so things have changed and we are now pretty cool with each other....but that's it. I have no feelings for him whatsoever and I'm amazed looking back, that I was actually in love with this guy at one point.
Anywho, I was texting my ex once (he lives up north) and he was like "I want some sexy pictures of you." He is a real clown, and so I took it as a joke (cuz he knows there is no way he would ever get something like that from ME).
And jokingly said "Sure...just send me yours first and then I'll send you mine" And that was the end of that convo. Anyhow, a couple of weeks later, he ends up visiting family in my town and we go out for lunch. I brought up that conversation and was like, "Who does that anyway? I mean, who's gonna text you naked pictures of themself?" Well lo and behold he hands me his phone and he has over a dozen naked pics of women that had been text-ed to him! And they were women he knew cuz I saw the names.
I mean, I guess I shouldn't be surprised but I really was...I mean, all these girls were butt naked and there he was showing me THEIR pics. When I told him I was disgusted he just shrugged like it wasn't a big deal. Well I guess if it's not a big deal for him to ask and not a big deal for the woman to send it then I guess I shouldn't take issue with it, right? What grown folks do is their business but I couldn't help but feel like this type of action is why some men objectify women so easily...?
But IMO, to be fair, the men who feel they can make certain requests are right up there with the women who leap to fulfill them.
He would purposely include the painting or lamp or some identifying aspect of his living room in every pic so that his boys would believe him.
