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Have you lost friends over "hair" or see friends in a different light over LHCF?

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caribeandiva

caribeandiva

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I'm asking because when i told my "friends" I was growing out my hair when i first discovered haircare back in early '06 they all laughed and made fun of me. That made me seem them in a different light and made me realize other things about them that I'd been ignoring till then. I eventually upgraded them anyway. Thanks LHCF you helped me in more ways than one.

This happened to anyone else?
 
No
I never told my friends. I don't think they would tease me if I did.
And I cut my friend's BSL hair to SL in the 8th grade. She told her mom she did it and got in trouble.and we are still friends.

Sidebar: Sounds like your friends were a bunch of haters you didn't need to be around anyway
 
I have lost some friends because they are jealous as heck of me now my hair is slightly longer. It hurts my feelings, cuz I know that's the reason because some friends have told me I should cut it off or cut it shorter. They claim I would look better that way. It's sad. I look at myself and don't see anything that people could be jealous about but dang. They look at me and think..."She's a smart aleck. She thinks she knows everything. The only reason why her hair looks like that is blah blah blah blah...."

A durn shame
 
I'm sorry to hear that but those reactions are not uncommon. :nono: Contrarily, since I started my mission towards healthy hair, I've actually inspired a lot of my friends. It formed a bit of a mini-sisterhood and I even met a couple more people as a result. They admire the dedication, the money saved and the passion that I'm investing towards myself rather than hiding behind a weave for another 5 years. I think your friends will eventually come around on a more positive note. You're like me, I HATE negativity and I have a short tolerance for it; it's such a turn off especially from those who I call my "friends". But, hang in there girlie...at the end of the day you have to find the balance between accepting that ppl are entitled to their opinions/reactions and identifying who within your circle is giving you negative energy. Brush it off chica! You'll be fine. YOU'VE GOT LHCF!!!!! :lachen::lachen::grin::grin::grin::lachen::lachen:
 
My friends live for the knowledge that I pass on to them from LHCF. I get at least 2 texts/phonecalls per week about haircare.
 
nappystorm said:
No
I never told my friends. I don't think they would tease me if I did.
And I cut my friend's BSL hair to SL in the 8th grade. She told her mom she did it and got in trouble.and we are still friends.

Sidebar: Sounds like your friends were a bunch of haters you didn't need to be around anyway
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sad that it took hair to start opening my eyes to that fact. :nono:
 
For me, when I cut off my relaxed hair to begin my healthy hair journey, I had a 1 inch TWA and I had female acquaintances (work colleagues etc) say "Wow, you cut your hair, and it suits you so well". Now that my hair has grown to SL, thanks to this site, when I see these same acquaintances, they only stare at my hair and say nothing. So, we will keep on being acquaintances!
 
caribeandiva said:
I'm asking because when i told my "friends" I was growing out my hair when i first discovered haircare back in early '06 they all laughed and made fun of me. That made me seem them in a different light and made me realize other things about them that I'd been ignoring till then. I eventually upgraded them anyway. Thanks LHCF you helped me in more ways than one.

This happened to anyone else?
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Sometimes Caribeandiva, you think "friends" will get all excited about a goal you have set, or something that you want to do, but I have learned that with most people it takes seeing before the believing part. Then they want to be all up in your business after the fact when they see the fruit of your work, and you tried to share with them in the first place:rolleyes:...they can kick rocks.
 
When I decided to cut my relaxer off one "friend " decided to warn me that they didn't hang w/ ugly people. You know just an fyi for my sake
 
All the haters can kiss my booty...But - I have most people coming to me for advice/products/help........................................................
 
No, thank goodness.

I really don't think haircare is really THAT serious to us. With life to deal with, we have a lot of other topics to handle other than hair.
 
Precious_1 said:
Wow:perplexed...I probably woulda said "well I hang with you dont I?":lachen:some people will say anything
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LMAO!!-:lachen:
To OP- I really don't tell anyone about this site or my hair goals. If they have hair questions, I just give them simple answers like "don't forget to DC, moisturize, etc." I have found like another poster has stated-proof is in the pudding and ppl will notice a change in hair health and react positive (or say nothing at all). I also kind of know which friends I would share the stuff I know with and who I wouldn't not cause I'm hiding nething) but based off of their genuine interest. I haven't (and hope) not to have any negative experiences.
 
caribeandiva said:
:eek: She said that? She's got nerves.
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I hadn't cut my hair yet either. She was having one of her special let me put you up on game moments..If you cut your hair and you look crazy we can't hang.

I cut that stuff ALL the way off. I had maybe 2 to 3 cm of hair. Folks don't recognize that I love opposition. It only makes me go even harder.
 
No. I don't talk with friends about hair unless they genuinely want to know. I also don't announce my growth goals IRL, I let my hair do the talkin'. :grin:
 
Lost friends over hair? Nope. Actually, come to think of it, I made friends from hair. Being shy and not easily meeting folks, and being in an environment full of non-black people, I felt the absence of black people, esp. black women, in my life. I started a local natural hair care group mainly as a way to meet other black women, more than as a way to do more with my hair. It was only after that I actually got interested in hair care.
 
My hair was always long so I didn't lose any friends in the process. Plus most of my friends have long hair anyway. I did gain friends that are natural though. I also was able to inspire many people to go natural and take better care of their hair. My family (mostly male cousins) tried making fun of me and call me "nappy" but I didn't pay them no mind. I was on a mission and their broke a** weren't going to stop me LOL
 
I never lost any friends, but family and friends have asked questions about how I take care of my hair over the years.
 
I haven't lost any friends over my hair but my mother in law is always trying trying to elude to getting a weave, braids, relaxers, ect. I do like those alternatives but for MY hair it's just didn't agree with me. I love my napes and my hair hasn't been so healthy in years. And the freedom to go afro one day to straight (once I get a hood dryer) the next feels good. I take what she says with a grain of salt because she's lost most of her hair anyway. :blush:Not to knock her cause we do get along but how can you take advice from someone who's hair is bare to none? :nono: I just laugh and keep it moving.
 
naturalpride said:
I never lost any friends, but family and friends have asked questions about how I take care of my hair over the years.
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You hair looked fabulous when you straighten it. Could I use redken smooth down without flat ironing my hair and still get the straight look?
 
people don't care about hair like i do so i try my best not to discuss things like that with them. they think i'm crazy because i love shampoos and conditioners, but my hair is healthier than the majority of people i know. noone i know would ever consider going natural. well except two people i know that i inspired them a little bit.
 
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