Have you ever told a stylist she damaged your hair?

[locabouthair]

Usually when a stylist damages my hair usually by overprocessing it, I just never go back without an explanation.

But recently, I discovered my nape is broken off really badly. And I can tell it's not normal breakage. It most likely due to her not rinsing out the relaxer well.

Would you go back to the stylist and tell her that?

if you've done it before how did she react? I can't imagine this going well at all

UPDATE!!!!

I went to her today and I told her that she didnt wash it out properly. And she said I should have came to her right after it happened and she would have given me a treatment. And she asked why I waited so long to come.

I said " I understand what you are saying but when I saw the damage I wasnt going to ever come back but then other people said I should tell you. So i decided to come.

" I told her I havent has a perm since then". She said it's breakage from my scarf and coat. I said "no this is chemical breakage, not regular breakage. You didn't rinse out the relaxer well." I told her, "Miss, yes I should have came to you sooner. But I am not asking for any money. I just came here to tell you in the future to be more careful, so hopefully this wont happen to anyone else. This will take me over a year to grow back. " Then I walked out.

Here's a pic of the damage.

That is NOT regular breakage. That is overprocessing.

It is growing back a little though. I think the scalp massages might be work. Hopefully it will grow back faster I expect.

People wonder how someone could be on this site for more than a year and make no progress, this is why.

 

[It~Can~Grow]

NO, even after I saw a barn full of hair shedding off another customers head.

I just stopped going. I don't think I was concerned about the confrontation - she just won't believe she/they (subject matter experts) had anything to do with your problem.

It must be 'us'. I can hear it now..."I told you to stop wrapping your hair so much...you needed more oil...you needed more sleep" the list is endless.

I think we don't say anything because of doubt on behalf of the stylist

 

[Dposh167]

Heck yes...i told her straight to her face...

i knew something was up cuz i started seeing broken sections all over my head. if u pulled a section of hair away from my head u could see a whole section of broken hair.

I knew that it was b/c of her using the smallest toothed comb to put my relaxer in and then combing it thru. afterwards there's a whole clump of hair along with relaxer in that comb.

so i told her one day (the sec before she put the relaxer on)..."you know...i dont know why some people use small toothed combs to put relaxer on. all its gonna do is damage my hair."...so she gave me this 'who do u think u are look' and proceed to apply it with her fingers

 

[Kurlee]

I need to make some "JUST SAY NO" to stylists buttons and sell em.

 

[crazydaze911]

I need to make some "JUST SAY NO" to stylists buttons and sell em.

i love that idea! but i dont know if i can walk around freely in the bx with one of those

 

[tiffers]

I need to make some "JUST SAY NO" to stylists buttons and sell em.

Can we get some t-shirts, hats and bumper stickers, too?

 

[Kurlee]

i love that idea! but i dont know if i can walk around freely in the bx with one of those

 

[HAIRapy]

I say no. Unless you're gonna sue her or something because what good is it gonna do? She just gonna say it's something you did. I wouldn't go back to her anyway 1 because of the breakage and 2 if I tell her, I'd be afraid she'd do something vindictive to my hair- and I'd catch a case LOL So, I say all that to say, leave it alone. Find another stylist.

 

[Cleve_gryl]

Heck yeah!!! My last visit before I fired him. He had burned my right temple off my last touch up . So, I pointed it out!! I said, you burned off my temple Man!! He said no, sometimes when clients hair gets longer the weight pulls on the hairline . Fa real doe?!

 

[LongHairDreams]

Never mind.....

 

[janeemat]

This happened to me twice with a stylist I had been going to over 10 yrs. Just as you said, it was due to not properly rinsing out the relaxer. I brought it to her attention twice because I wanted her to treat it, which she did and both times it grew back nicely. Well, in 2005 it happened again. Not just in the back but all throughout my head. She applied a demi color the same time that I got my relaxer. It was damage city after that. Since then I have read up on demi and it states to wait at least 3 wks after your relaxer. That's the year that I left her and decided to take my hair care in my own hands. I found the forum in early 2006 and have not had any major setbacks since.

 

[honeybadgirl]

one stylists that i had been going to burned my hair out in the back!!!! she didnt tell me...of course. one day i was feeling my hair back there and felt this burnt up piece and said what the hell?!?! she did it, i wasnt curling my own hair then. i didnt say anything though. i just let it go. dont know why i didnt.

 

[Blessed_Angel]

Heck yes...i told her straight to her face...

i knew something was up cuz i started seeing broken sections all over my head. if u pulled a section of hair away from my head u could see a whole section of broken hair.

I knew that it was b/c of her using the smallest toothed comb to put my relaxer in and then combing it thru. afterwards there's a whole clump of hair along with relaxer in that comb.

so i told her one day (the sec before she put the relaxer on)..."you know...i dont know why some people use small toothed combs to put relaxer on. all its gonna do is damage my hair."...so she gave me this 'who do u think u are look' and proceed to apply it with her fingers

Please tell me how using the comb damages the hair? I've heard this before....and I'd like to know how and why.

Thanks

 

[glamazon386]

No.... I just didn't go back.

 

[freshlikemoi]

Heck yeah!!! My last visit before I fired him. He had burned my right temple off my last touch up . So, I pointed it out!! I said, you burned off my temple Man!! He said no, sometimes when clients hair gets longer the weight pulls on the hairline . Fa real doe?!

LMFAOo0o0o0o0o0o....I can't believe he said that. Chile, I just fell out my chair.

 

[ChanelNo5]

Yup.

How bout this past Sunday when I was sectioning my hair I discovered a spot broken down to the root, which I attribute to some type of chemical damage. I called her on her cell about it. She was just askin me describe it and she would have to see it to know what caused it. Shoot, I don't care if the superbowl is on and you at at a party about to eat hot wings.

 

[locabouthair]

Yup.

How bout this past Sunday when I was sectioning my hair I discovered a spot broken down to the root, which I attribute to some type of chemical damage. I called her on her cell about it. She was just askin me describe it and she would have to see it to know what caused it. Shoot, I don't care if the superbowl is on and you at at a party about to eat hot wings.

The same thing happened to me on sunday too!

Thanks for replying ladies. I guess I should try to practice self relaxing again.

 

[Moroni]

one stylists that i had been going to burned my hair out in the back!!!! she didnt tell me...of course. one day i was feeling my hair back there and felt this burnt up piece and said what the hell?!?! she did it, i wasnt curling my own hair then. i didnt say anything though. i just let it go. dont know why i didnt.

Well I told my stylist that my hair smelled burned on the way home, and in a few weeks, I could see the damage. Of course, the answer was, "There's no way a ceramic flat iron can burn hair." HA! Can you believe THAT??? I think the relationship has got to end, though, because I can tell things just aren't on the up-n-up as of my last relaxer, and if I don't trust you, there's no way I'm going to let you in my hair!

 

[SUPER SWEET]

Usually when a stylist damages my hair usually by overprocessing it, I just never go back without an explanation.

But recently, I discovered my nape is broken off really badly. And I can tell it's not normal breakage. It most likely due to her not rinsing out the relaxer well.

Would you go back to the stylist and tell her that?

if you've done it before how did she react? I can't imagine this going well at all

I told a stylist that my sides were breaking from the pulling and tugging. I went back to her because I liked her as a person. Unfortnately, she was offended and acted diffrent. So I just went to another stylist at the same salon that I thought would do a better job. And she did

 

[locabouthair]

I'm venting again. I've NEVER had nape problems like this. i wanna curse her out so bad. But I know it wont do any good. She just say it's my fault knowing very well by looking at my nape you can see it's chemical damage.

Ladies it's broken off really badly. I know not all are bad but I hate stylists right now.

 

[amwcah]

I told a stylist that my sides were breaking from the pulling and tugging. I went back to her because I liked her as a person. Unfortnately, she was offended and acted diffrent. So I just went to another stylist at the same salon that I thought would do a better job. And she did

I'm surprised by that. Normally, they won't cross that line. Its like a stylist "honor code" or something.

 

[hopeful]

I'm venting again. I've NEVER had nape problems like this. i wanna curse her out so bad. But I know it wont do any good. She just say it's my fault knowing very well by looking at my nape you can see it's chemical damage.

Ladies it's broken off really badly. I know not all are bad but I hate stylists right now.

((((Hugs)))) I've been where you are many times when I was relaxed. So many stylists mess up in this area for some reason, it's like how hard can it be to really rinse that area well? Don't make no dang sense at all. I would suggest the following:
1. Never, ever go back to her again.
2. Baby that hair like nobody's business, keep it really conditioned, moisturized and oiled and try to leave it alone as much as possible. It will grow back.
3. From here on if you go back to a stylist be a **** about the nape, even if you have to ask to see a mirror to be sure all that relaxer is completely washed out, for real.
4. I wouldn't get the nape relaxed again for awhile, I would wait about 6 months if that's possible.

I'm not a big fan of stylists either. I know there have to be some good ones out there but I think I've only met one in my lifetime that treated my hair like silk. A lot start out pretty good, but eventually get lazy or greedy. Keep your head up.

 

[OrangeMoon]

No, she probably just thinks I don't have the money to get my hair done and I don't care. I'm still pissed because she did stuff on the sly and I was none the wiser because, I had three consecutive sew-in's so alls he did was take it down, wash and condition and I didn't know she had cut my hair in spots. Only when I took my hair down myself did I see what had been done. I'm better now but if I see her, I will tell her. Trust!

 

[MissMeWithThatIsh]

WTF at some of this madness I'm hearing.

I WISH a stylist would tell me some off the wall type stuff like "Hair weighs down and snaps itself off?"

...I'd be like, well, "sometimes my wallet gets heavy and the money JUST doesn't come out..."

 

[locabouthair]

((((Hugs)))) I've been where you are many times when I was relaxed. So many stylists mess up in this area for some reason, it's like how hard can it be to really rinse that area well? Don't make no dang sense at all. I would suggest the following:
1. Never, ever go back to her again.
2. Baby that hair like nobody's business, keep it really conditioned, moisturized and oiled and try to leave it alone as much as possible. It will grow back.
3. From here on if you go back to a stylist be a **** about the nape, even if you have to ask to see a mirror to be sure all that relaxer is completely washed out, for real.
4. I wouldn't get the nape relaxed again for awhile, I would wait about 6 months if that's possible.

I'm not a big fan of stylists either. I know there have to be some good ones out there but I think I've only met one in my lifetime that treated my hair like silk. A lot start out pretty good, but eventually get lazy or greedy. Keep your head up.

Thanks hopeful. Yeah I started doing nightly scalp massages and moisturizing.
I'm definitely not going to relax the nape for a while.

WTF at some of this madness I'm hearing.

I WISH a stylist would tell me some off the wall type stuff like "Hair weighs down and snaps itself off?"

...I'd be like, well, "sometimes my wallet gets heavy and the money JUST doesn't come out..."

 

[Lindy]

I've been going to the same stylist for many years and just recently I started going to get my hair done on Saturday because due to a job change, I couldn't make it during the week any more. Saturdays are busy in the salon, so the "assistant" had to relax my hair... Well, after two consecutive times of her doing my hair all of a sudden my hairline started breaking off really badly, and now I've even noticed a chunk of hair at the top that is shorter than the rest of my hair, and my hair has thinned out soooo much from how it was before

So..... the last time I got a touchup I made sure that I went on a weeknight after work, but that ****** was there, and I surely marched right up to my regular stylist as soon as I walked in and saw her, and asked him "Umm, YOU are going to be doing my hair tonight, RIGHT??" and I let him know that my hairline was breaking ever since she did my hair those two times... Of course he tried to tell me that maybe it was my color or something else, but I was like "no baby... I've done everything the same, so, that's NOT it!!" I don't know if he said anything to her after I left, but well... he knows the deal now... that woman will NEVAH touch my hair again!!!

 

[daniemoy]

I've been going to the same stylist for many years and just recently I started going to get my hair done on Saturday because due to a job change, I couldn't make it during the week any more. Saturdays are busy in the salon, so the "assistant" had to relax my hair... Well, after two consecutive times of her doing my hair all of a sudden my hairline started breaking off really badly, and now I've even noticed a chunk of hair at the top that is shorter than the rest of my hair, and my hair has thinned out soooo much from how it was before

So..... the last time I got a touchup I made sure that I went on a weeknight after work, but that ****** was there, and I surely marched right up to my regular stylist as soon as I walked in and saw her, and asked him "Umm, YOU are going to be doing my hair tonight, RIGHT??" and I let him know that my hairline was breaking ever since she did my hair those two times... Of course he tried to tell me that maybe it was my color or something else, but I was like "no baby... I've done everything the same, so, that's NOT it!!" I don't know if he said anything to her after I left, but well... he knows the deal now... that woman will NEVAH touch my hair again!!!

The bolded is why I can't do some salons! When I get my hair relaxed in April if they try to pull that assistant crap, I am going to say no! I want the stylist!

 

[poookie]

not really, but she got the idea.

the last time i ever walked into a salon, (may 2007) i went in for a touch up. i'd stretched for 10 weeks, and this was before i knew how to care for my hair, so my new growth was very unruly.

- she combed through my dry hair with a rattail comb (even i knew then that tiny combs were bad news)
- pulled the relaxer way past my new growth
- after rinsing the relaxer out, she didn't use conditioner at all
- she never asked me what i wanted done to my hair-- she just assumed that i wanted a roller set.

and had the nerve to tell me my hair was damaged.

the straw that eventually broke the camel's back was when she whipped out the scissors and trimmed my hair WITHOUT ASKING. took off a good four inches, and also TRIMMED MY NAPE THAT I WAS GROWING OUT down to about 1" (from 4").

when she was done, i calmly asked her if she had asked me if i wanted my hair cut. i also informed her that i'm not a certified stylist, but even i knew better than to put relaxer on already processed hair. her dumb self couldn't think of anything to say. i walked out without paying.

 

[Suerte]

NO, even after I saw a barn full of hair shedding off another customers head.

I just stopped going. I don't think I was concerned about the confrontation - she just won't believe she/they (subject matter experts) had anything to do with your problem.

It must be 'us'. I can hear it now..."I told you to stop wrapping your hair so much...you needed more oil...you needed more sleep" the list is endless.

I think we don't say anything because of doubt on behalf of the stylist

Exactly why I don't even bother trying.

Cuz you can't teach anything to someone who knows it all

I hate that mess.

They will pay $2,000 to go to some seminar... but can't weigh some advice or info that a person with a headfull of long, thick, healthy-ish (lol) hair gives them.

 

[locabouthair]

UPDATE!!!!

I went to her today and I told her that she didnt wash it out properly. And she said I should have came to her right after it happened and she would have given me a treatment. And she asked why I waited so long to come.

I said " I understand what you are saying but when I saw the damage I wasnt going to ever come back but then other people said I should tell you. So i decided to come.

" I told her I havent has a perm since then". She said it's breakage from my scarf and coat. I said "no this is chemical breakage, not regular breakage. You didn't rinse out the relaxer well." I told her, "Miss, yes I should have came to you sooner. But I am not asking for any money. I just came here to tell you in the future to be more careful, so hopefully this wont happen to anyone else. This will take me over a year to grow back. " Then I walked out.

Here's a pic of the damage.

That is NOT regular breakage. That is overprocessing.

It is growing back a little though. I think the scalp massages might be work. Hopefully it will grow back faster I expect.