i made the thread b/c i was bored, and i dont really care about the responses b/c i talked to him and we resolved my issue.Why make a thread about your issues and don't want to hear the responses???
Deep down you know old boy is up to no good.
KIM
Very interesting comment since most ladies who commented are in relationship or married, rather than bitter or alone. He probably does not want you sharing details because other men/women with more life experience will shed some light on the scenario.
I want to echo that you were not being "insecure" or an "idiot" for wondering what the heck was going on after 4 days of not hearing from your SO.
I talk to my husband at least once a day, everyday, and his job entails working with highly sensitive microphones that pick up vibration of cell phones.....but he still makes the time to call me. I don't ever call him when he's at work in the studio but you can best believe that my phone is ringing if he's running late, going to be late for dinner or late whatever we had planned.
I also don't call him when he's spending time with his son (if I am not with them) but even then he is still calling me and I speak to my stepson. The only time DH's cell phone is off is when is at home with me and that is because his son can call the house phone.
It is impossible for me to imagine going 4 full days without contact with my husband and there is absolutely no rational reason that he could give me for not making contact.
So long as you're okay with the situation, so be it. However, don't discount age & life experience.
not everybody married is happy (i can attest to that)...and i also can attest to even if he calls you all day long, he still can be doing dirt. he can be callin to tell you he loves you and will be late, while he waitin on the next chick to come out the bathroom...been there tooIf I listen to y'all i would end up alone and bitter. Maybe this is why he dont want me to tell our business. I see now lol.[/quote]
he dont want me discussing our business really b/c the minute he do something wrong (which happens in every relationship) i.e. a forgotten phone call, a forgotten anniversary..wanting me to spend time with him when he comes in town instead of my girls...some women are like leave him he is no good and blah blah blah.
listening to y'all would have my back up, and when he text me tonight, be all hot with him. im not tryna go there and im not bout to have him get hurt out there b/c of some nonsense
you cant imagine going 4 days without talkin to your husband that is fine, he aint my husband and i already told him to spend time with his fam. if i did not trust what he was saying i would and could call him mom and check. but what is a relationship without trust. especially since we are in two different branches of the military and will have a long distance relationship.
anytime he goes and spend time with his fam/daughters we wont be talkin especially his daughters, b/c he dont get to spend enough time with them already and how would i look taking time away from them.
when we are together it is us, me and him and noone else. I had to remind him to call his mom, to let her know he had made it by me and that was the last day he was there.
im sure sitting in the hospital waiting to see if your brother is going to have to have emergency surgery is more fun, enjoyable and interesting^^^Exactly...what the heck...?
I am not in a relationship in the moment due to the "busy" excuse. It's a blanket term for "involved in other activities that I find more fun/enjoyable/interesting/ect. than you" hmmph!
it came b/c i have NEVER felt like this with anyone before, not even my ex husband...if he did not call me, it was whatever...anybody else that i have been in a relationship with if they did not call after about 3 days, i was out and on to the next...i always kept a team on the bench so to say, so it was no skin off my nose to end the friendship/relationshipLMAO @ this whole thread. If you're so 100% secure in your relationship, why did you even doubt at all through those 4 days? Especially when you told him he didn't need to call you and to "holla at you"? Listen sister, if you really do feel confident in your relationship, that's great. But don't try to convince US. You're the one who started the thread saying you felt played. That feeling didn't just drop from the sky.
Often our first instinct is the correct one.
thanksand if you think a man is lying all the time regarding not being about to contact you, i feel for your husbandThe lies men tell....and the excuses we accept as the truth because they make us feel better. Truly unbelievable. Good luck OP.
we dont live in the same town...so when we meet up it is our time...if we lived in the same town it would be different...but if i have only 4 days with you, im not bout to share you with anyone else...especially since after you leave me you are going to see them, not happening at all.idk, i feel like that's one thing you should not have to worry about in a commited relationship. my husband is also in the army and when he is away, he finds time to call me at least once a day.. even if he has to call me from a friends phone.. and if he didn't, i would assume that he couldn't. no offense, but i was on that omgomgomg is he gonna call stuff in highschool. now that i'm an adult in an adult relationship it's moreso, i expect him to call.. and if he dosen't, i will hear from him soon enough.
and then u guys cant answer your phones while you're with eachother? or choose not to, rather. idk.. whatever floats your boat.. but, i make it a point to keep some form of identity while i'm in a relationship.. not saying that you're not but, i perfer to remain as true to myself as possible.. and i'm not gonna ignore fam/friends when i'm with my man, just because. i think it's dangerous to be that enraveled into another human being, and that's coming from someone that's married. don't get too caught up.
thanksand if you think a man is lying all the time regarding not being about to contact you, i feel for your husband
we dont live in the same town...so when we meet up it is our time...if we lived in the same town it would be different...but if i have only 4 days with you, im not bout to share you with anyone else...especially since after you leave me you are going to see them, not happening at all.
and i usually talk to him everyday, sometimes twice a day depending on his mission that day
not everybody married is happy (i can attest to that)...and i also can attest to even if he calls you all day long, he still can be doing dirt. he can be callin to tell you he loves you and will be late, while he waitin on the next chick to come out the bathroom...been there too
he dont want me discussing our business really b/c the minute he do something wrong (which happens in every relationship) i.e. a forgotten phone call, a forgotten anniversary..wanting me to spend time with him when he comes in town instead of my girls...some women are like leave him he is no good and blah blah blah.
listening to y'all would have my back up, and when he text me tonight, be all hot with him. im not tryna go there and im not bout to have him get hurt out there b/c of some nonsense
you cant imagine going 4 days without talkin to your husband that is fine, he aint my husband and i already told him to spend time with his fam. if i did not trust what he was saying i would and could call him mom and check. but what is a relationship without trust. especially since we are in two different branches of the military and will have a long distance relationship.
anytime he goes and spend time with his fam/daughters we wont be talkin especially his daughters, b/c he dont get to spend enough time with them already and how would i look taking time away from them.
when we are together it is us, me and him and noone else. I had to remind him to call his mom, to let her know he had made it by me and that was the last day he was there.
KEEP YOUR EYES OPEN.
he dont want me discussing our business really b/c the minute he do something wrong (which happens in every relationship) i.e. a forgotten phone call, a forgotten anniversary..wanting me to spend time with him when he comes in town instead of my girls...some women are like leave him he is no good and blah blah blah.
listening to y'all would have my back up, and when he text me tonight, be all hot with him. im not tryna go there and im not bout to have him get hurt out there b/c of some nonsense
you cant imagine going 4 days without talkin to your husband that is fine, he aint my husband and i already told him to spend time with his fam. if i did not trust what he was saying i would and could call him mom and check. but what is a relationship without trust. especially since we are in two different branches of the military and will have a long distance relationship.
anytime he goes and spend time with his fam/daughters we wont be talkin especially his daughters, b/c he dont get to spend enough time with them already and how would i look taking time away from them.
when we are together it is us, me and him and noone else. I had to remind him to call his mom, to let her know he had made it by me and that was the last day he was there.
the reason why i dont want to take time away from his kids is b/c i have a stepmother...ever since my daddy introduced her to my sister and i, whenever we would go by him for the weekend, we would ALWAYS spend time with her and her family. we would sit in her mom's house ALL day EVERY weekend. I HATED it and with a passion...all i wanted was for my dad to take me and my sister somewhere where WE could spend time together by ourselves...i resent them to this day behind that messMy man would NEVER go 4 days without contacting me. He knows better and he would feel more at ease while away if he knows that his lady is doing well from day to day...even if it's only for a minute or two. He has more respect and adulation for me than to do something like that. I don't care whom he's visiting and how many other children he has outside of our relationship, some things are just unacceptable.
the reason why i dont want to take time away from his kids is b/c i have a stepmother...ever since my daddy introduced her to my sister and i, whenever we would go by him for the weekend, we would ALWAYS spend time with her and her family. we would sit in her mom's house ALL day EVERY weekend. I HATED it and with a passion...all i wanted was for my dad to take me and my sister somewhere where WE could spend time together by ourselves...i resent them to this day behind that mess
outta respect for his relationship with his kids, i choose to take the back burner b/c im the adult and i will get over whatever is bothering me. kids sometimes grow up and hold on to that resentment
b/c i just started trippin, lol...i still wanted to talk to him in the back of my mind, but i really did not want to take time away from his peeps.