Have You Ever Had a Man "Strung Out" on You?

[MissMeWithThatIsh]

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Was he strung out from the moment he met you?
Was it after the sex?

Do tell... but keep it ... acceptable for most of the audience on here.

Oh, and uhm, how do you KNOW if he's strung out?

 

[nappystorm]

4 that I can think of:
With two of them, I was their first relationship and people have a problem letting go of their firsts, I guess
1 was a crazed stalker so if not me it probably would have been someone eles.
1 is fairly recent. I honestly think it's because he hasn't hit it. From what I gather, he's used to girls throwing themselves at him and I'm just like "meh".

All these dudes (except the stalker) will and have gone above and beyond just to make me happy. No one is hitting it and all will drop everything if I call even if it's been months.

 

[ThickHair]

Nope, not at all. I always wondered what does the woman do to get a dude strung out. I figured it out, it is the dude usually.

 

[Skyfall]

yes and I don't why, I wasn't that nice to him, maybe that's it when your not very nice to them cuz it's the same way with my mom all these men will do anything for her but they never hit it and she isn't the nicest to them...........hmmmmmmmmmm

 

[MissMeWithThatIsh]

Nope, not at all. I always wondered what does the woman do to get a dude strung out. I figured it out, it is the dude usually.

LOL, that's something else I've been wondering.

I think I might have had some men fixated on me, but I think I attract that on purpose on some level ...

My first serious BF wasn't "strung out" he was just effin' bonkers. Period.

 

[ChasingBliss]

Yes I have, but I never think it's me. I think it's them...their personality. It's probably certain things about any woman that can make them weak and strung out. It's usually a turn off...never an ego boost.

 

[MissMeWithThatIsh]

Yes I have, but I never think it's me. I think it's them...their personality. It's probably certain things about any woman that can make them weak and strung out. It's usually a turn off...never an ego boost.

I think that's an interesting view point.

I would say some men seem to have an issue with getting crazily attached, or it could be otherwise. Sometimes a guy just isn't screwed on straight, other times, he is, but *something* twists him.

 

[BKVincy]

yes

from my experience the guy had a SERIOUS ego...it was all about him thinking that he threw it on me and I wasnt intrested..

I think it was the thought of how could I dare not want him

truth be told the sex was amazing,...A.MAZ.ING

but it was too soon, he was to thirtsy for it after he blew my back out I was pretty much done...Im soo about mental connections and his lack of patience was a real turn off

he called and text me for 5 months before he gave up

 

[BeautifulFlower]

Yes I have, but I never think it's me. I think it's them...their personality. It's probably certain things about any woman that can make them weak and strung out. It's usually a turn off...never an ego boost.

Yeah, I have. I think all men have the capacity to be strung. It comes from them really wanting a woman they can not have or does not need them. Typically it starts from the beginning. But sometimes its after sex, but thats only if he really wanted you from the beginning. I wouldnt recommend sex as a strung mechanism because alot of men still have the I have conquered mentality. You knows strung when he's doing everything to impress you, calling you just because, and will be most patient with your mess.

I agree with bolded. I am attracted to strength and the behind-over backwards and take it stuff is such a turn-off

 

[joytimes10]

deleted... went back and read context of what it means to be "strung out" and so then no!

 

[ThickHair]

Yes I have, but I never think it's me. I think it's them...their personality. It's probably certain things about any woman that can make them weak and strung out. It's usually a turn off...never an ego boost.

For some woman it is an ego boost and they string the guys along then when they want to get rid of him, dude turn into Super Stalker and some woman act like they didn't do anything. The mess will get you killed. I don't play with no one's affection because some people have very short fuses and you don't know who has the long fuse and who has the short one.

 

[Starian]

Yes, but he was a nuts. Like a can of cashews, nuts.

 

[ChasingBliss]

I think that's an interesting view point.

I would say some men seem to have an issue with getting crazily attached, or it could be otherwise. Sometimes a guy just isn't screwed on straight, other times, he is, but *something* twists him.

Yeah, that *something* twists him...and the first thing I think is dang, I wonder how easily you can be twisted by another woman. My ex and most guys call it *dyck weak*. To me, that's not good.

Yeah, I have. I think all men have the capacity to be strung. It comes from them really wanting a woman they can not have or does not need them. Typically it starts from the beginning. But sometimes its after sex, but thats only if he really wanted you from the beginning. I wouldnt recommend sex as a strung mechanism because alot of men still have the I have conquered mentality. You knows strung when he's doing everything to impress you, calling you just because, and will be most patient with your mess.

I agree with bolded. I am attracted to strength and the behind-over backwards and take it stuff is such a turn-off

Yep, me too.

For some woman it is an ego boost and they string the guys along then when they want to get rid of him, dude turn into Super Stalker and some woman act like they didn't do anything. The mess will get you killed. I don't play with no one's affection because some people have very short fuses and you don't know who has the long fuse and who has the short one.

Amen, Amen, Amen. I've seen it first hand.

 

[MissMeWithThatIsh]

Okay, say you meet someone... who you can tell is generally a level-headed individual. You know, from observing his and others' behavior, that he's usually "not like this" about a person... and for some reason, sexually or not, he seems to be going HARD for you.

Could it be possible that whatever it is, your personal essence - in general before sex - has him hooked? Do you know/remember what that "it factor" was that you had that drove him wild?


And even after sex, I'm sure it's more common for people to be twisted after GREAT sex, so I guess I'm concerned with learning more about the times when sex wasn't involved but he was really crazy about you as a person.... OR when it's an obvious combo of sex and the relationship/dealings you have with them period.


Is it how a certain woman carries herself? Like she is a prize... someone to be coveted after? I'm not talking about "oh teach me how to ride him into the sunset so I can play with their mind and heart" lol... but if you noticed your prowess DID affect them, you can mention that as well...

 

[ChasingBliss]

^^^ Ok I think I know what you mean now. I've experienced this type of relationship too. And the guy was pretty much how you described. He would tell me things like how sexy he thought I was, how I moved with "grace", how I talked, etc. He was very passionate about me. He'd tell me how he would see how other guys would look at me and it would make him even more proud that I was his. We always had great conversation and could talk about any and everything under the sun. He'd say stuff like, your beautiful, smart, funny and sexy...what a combo.

All of this was cute and attractive in the beginning...there was this feeling of it just being "too much" for me. He became possessive and I became turned off.

These types of attractions imo, always die down too. It's like it's sooo intense that it fizzes out...either with the receiver feeling smothered or the giver losing interest--usually because he found another lol.

But I also think it's how I carry myself. I do walk around like I'm a prize even when I dont feel like one all the time. It's a habit I created after having low self esteem as a teenager--another thread of course.

 

[MissMeWithThatIsh]

^^ Thank you!!! This is what I was looking for ! I definitely feel you on the "carrying yourself highly" even though you're not feeling hot to trot.

 

[phynestone]

I think you're on to something. Perhaps it's a combination of being into onesself along with throwing a wrench into the plans and ego of someone who always has someong jocking after them. It's intriguing to the one used to being pursued and this probably piques their interest into the other. Maybe that's why they go crazy.

It's definitely the je ne sais quoi that has some folks enamored. A soul connection, maybe?

This is a good thread.

 

[LadyPaniolo]

Yes, I have. Not a pleasant experience, as it is often followed by the wild-eyed jealousy, incoherent ranting and waiting in the bushes outside my door.

 

[JustKiya]

DH says he's strung out on me. Otherwise no....

 

[ChasingBliss]

I also call guys like this "women lovers". Now this is very very different from men who love to pluck women all the time. I'm talking about men who love women I mean the very essence of a woman and it's so attractive because they usually know exactly how to treat you. It makes you feel even sexier and you literally become more of what they desire, which heightens their desire for you even more. But I also think this is a double edged sword. I've stated before that you can become turned off by them....but on another note, when they turn off, it can affect you too. You become addicted to his attraction for you and you dont want it to end. I've experienced this too. When it ends, you feel like you've crashed into a wall. You miss it and it hurts.

Sorry lauren, if it's going off track...I just started thinking about all my experiences with this.

 

[MissMeWithThatIsh]

No Angel Face, you're turning this thread in the exact direction I'm trying to get it to go. I appreciate it!

 

[JFemme]

Yes, many.....


(kinda scary to reminisce)

We share similar experiences/ thoughts on this AF!!

 

[Eclass215]

All of 'em girl

No seriously though, the ones that have I think it was more of a conquest thing. When I was free and single and didn't want to be tied down, it seemed like they would do anything to be "The One". I think they saw it as a challenge and they would win a prize or something, so they tried to be the one that made me say - yes, I want you and only you!

 

[Soul♥Flower]

YES!! Every man I get involved with...I never understood how they could be so while I was very clearly so


...more details later.

 

[~~HoneyComb~~]

I don't know if it was strung out, but two come to mind in my early 20's (neither one I slept with).

Guy #1 worked for the same company I was with, he called me a few times, we had breakfast together before work a couple of times, I told him that although he was a nice guy, I wasn't interested in a relationship with him and he started crying on the phone erplexed.

Guy #2 was introduced to me by a relative--he started off being really smothering and it scared me a little. We had gone on a few dates, but again, I wasn't interested, I don't believe in stringing guys along, and I told him that it wouldn't work out. My relative told me that for a few weeks after I told him that, he was very sad and he rode around in his truck with a big teddy bear on the passenger side that was a replacement for me

Please keep in mind that I didn't have any physical contact with either of these guys so I didn't get it.

 

[Nayeli]

I don't know if it was strung out, but two come to mind in my early 20's (neither one I slept with).

Guy #1 worked for the same company I was with, he called me a few times, we had breakfast together before work a couple of times, I told him that although he was a nice guy, I wasn't interested in a relationship with him and he started crying on the phone erplexed.

Guy #2 was introduced to me by a relative--he started off being really smothering and it scared me a little. We had gone on a few dates, but again, I wasn't interested, I don't believe in stringing guys along, and I told him that it wouldn't work out. My relative told me that for a few weeks after I told him that, he was very sad and he rode around in his truck with a big teddy bear on the passenger side that was a replacement for me

Please keep in mind that I didn't have any physical contact with either of these guys so I didn't get it.

The bolded made me laugh out loud

 

[Damaged but not out]

Yup i attract the clingers, they love me with no encouragement ( in some cases heaps of abuse) for years. and of course im always attracted to the aloof ones....sigh

 

[Sosa]

I don't know if it was strung out, but two come to mind in my early 20's (neither one I slept with).

Guy #1 worked for the same company I was with, he called me a few times, we had breakfast together before work a couple of times, I told him that although he was a nice guy, I wasn't interested in a relationship with him and he started crying on the phone erplexed.

Guy #2 was introduced to me by a relative--he started off being really smothering and it scared me a little. We had gone on a few dates, but again, I wasn't interested, I don't believe in stringing guys along, and I told him that it wouldn't work out. My relative told me that for a few weeks after I told him that, he was very sad and he rode around in his truck with a big teddy bear on the passenger side that was a replacement for me

Please keep in mind that I didn't have any physical contact with either of these guys so I didn't get it.

What tha...?!

Did he show any signs of being mentally challenged? maybe sometimes acted a little off?
Strung out or not, I can't picture a man in his right mind doing that ....

The men our relatives try to hook us up with knowing full well that something is wrong with the dude

 

[CurlyMoo]

Yes I have had and currently have someone "strung out" on me. I've never had sex with them nor even kissed them. We have spent time together in a platonic friendship or friendship business type relationship. The last guy that was strung out on me did not take my ending the friendship very well.

 

[spelmanlocks]

DH was strung out when he met me. Initially, it was kind of weird but I ended up loving him. To this day, his friends tell me how they clowned him so badly because of how he acted. He wrote me a love poem every day for the first six months of us knowing each other, I have them saved in a book and its a ton of them. One of my friends had a class in college with him and was like, ya boy was talking about you all throughout class, what did you do to him. And honestly I have no idea why he was like that.