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karezone

karezone

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Do you all ever have those moments when you see someone elses hair that looks so beautiful, shiny and healthy and then you look at your own and realize how bad your hair looks in comparison their hair. Then you feel bad because you think that your hair doesn't look like theirs.
 
Sorta i do get envious of alot of the 4a/b natural heads and styles i see, but i know it will take me SOOOOOO long before i can even attempt some of these styles after transition because i would need AT LEAST 10 inches of hair-wahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh...then i make myself feel better by reminding myself that they also had to wait a while as their own hair gained length so i just calm back down and continue stalking their hair
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It is just that if I could find a hat to wear because in comparison to their hair, mine just can't compete and it also seems like when I was doing bad things to my hair, it grew faster and longer. For a while I have been considering going back to that because I actually saw results then. I did not have any damage until I started having the relaxer combed through to the ends.
 
Karezone, girl, I know exactly what you mean. When you're just walking through the mall and you see this girl with long, luscious hair in the middle of her back, all you can say is *wow, wish that was me.* Look on the bright side, us ladies who weren't born with that *growth spurt* we can actually appreciate our hair and most of all, we know how to take care of it!! This board is so helpful that before you know it, you're going to be that same girl with beautiful long hair walking through the mall while other women stare at you. The difference is that you worked for yours and no one can take that away.
 
When this type of situation happens to me, I just tell myself that my hair will be at that day soon but it will look better!
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karezone said:
It is just that if I could find a hat to wear because in comparison to their hair, mine just can't compete.

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but you know what?? someone is thinking the very same thing about your hair--that they want it
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like i'm TRYING to transition i guess and people will say stuff like "if i could keep my hair thick like yours with a relaxer, there is no way i would cut it off" -- meanwhile i'm drooling over other peoples natural hair--girl, it's a cycle
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I hope this cycle is over soon because I feel rather unattractive at the moment. I think that I am going to make arrangements to have my hair braided and at least then it won't be out looking bad.
 
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karezone said:
It is just that if I could find a hat to wear because in comparison to their hair, mine just can't compete.

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but you know what?? someone is thinking the very same thing about your hair--that they want it
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like i'm TRYING to transition i guess and people will say stuff like "if i could keep my hair thick like yours with a relaxer, there is no way i would cut it off" -- meanwhile i'm drooling over other peoples natural hair--girl, it's a cycle
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jainygirl, that is so true.
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I need a good method to kick the cycle. I've transitioned three times in less than ten years. I would love to just be happy in one place.
 
I am that way with my aunt sometimes. Her hair is a type 4 and when she hotcombs her hair it is almost to her waist.
 
Oh yeah, I know exactly what you mean. I do that alot, probably because I don't take care of my hair as well as I should. It's especially hard when you come out of the salon looking sooo fly and the next week when you wash your hair you look nothing like that salon day. I also find that if I feel like my hair doesn't look good, I don't look good no matter what I wear or what I do. I know I shouldn't do that but that's how it is.
 
It happens to me also. I would love to have hair thats past my bra-clasp thats straight and silky smooth. I get discouraged, but when I think of where my hair was and how much my hair care habits have improved I feel better. I think about it like this...that person who has lovely hair may have horribe hair care habits. So guess whos actually got the advantage? You do. This board is a wonderful place to come to when you get discouraged!
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I used to have hair envy but not since I found this board. Now I'll see other people with healthy,long, thick hair and try to figure out what products they're using and if they stretch out the time between relaxers, if they're natural but press, or if they don't use heat at all,lol. This board has definitely got me thinking about hair in a different way.
 
yeah I do that too. I find myself staring at peoples hair sometimes. One time I even followed this woman around the store just to check out her hair.
 
karezone, This is going to be off topic, but I just wanted to say thanks for listing the rollerset procedure, and
the Bargello vitamin regimen on your site.
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I have heard a lot of talk about it here, but I had no idea what it was exactly. Looks like I take a number of the vitamins already.
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Thanks I try to keep information that people are always looking for and I am glad that you found it helpful.
 
Ladies imagine this, this is based on a true story.....

this woman gets relaxers for years and experiences years of damage and heartbreak and tears due to MAJOR damage from the relaxers, and eventually ends up resorting to weaves just to feel good about herself when she looked in the mirror. But one day she decides "no more" and that she was going to break the cycle. she took the weave out and didnt relax anymore, during that time she discovered that her hair grew in lush, thick, and healthy without a realxer in it. She discovered that she loved pampering her hair and watching how it paid her back for it. and that she didnt have to feel bad about her hair anymore, because even though it was still very short and had some damage it was growing in healthy. it was as though all the years of relaxing and weaves she just really didnt know her hair actually grew in healthy. it seemed as though it just grew out her scalp damaged. she once again after years had hope. as soon as she got some legnth after nursing it back to health she did the most likely thing (although it was the stupidest), she relaxed it again. and soon saw that all that lovely, lush healthy hair she worked so hard at to have was now broken down, damaged and breaking all over the place again....so she had to take what she remembered from the previous months and start ALL OVER , inch by slow inch to get new healthy hair again....the damage looked and felt intolerable and her heart was broken that she again did this to her hair...but it was just a matter of time....but for her it was a LONG LONG time...years passed, she looked in the mirror every single day waiting to see if the ends of her hair touched this mole yet that she said "once my hair touches that mole i will be happy" she prayed, yes she believed God would help her hair to grow faster, it was all she wanted, she was in a new relationship with a man she loved and he had beautiful hair , so she felt insecure and worried about his attraction with all the damaged hair on her head...luckily he saw past her hair to her heart...but still she longed to have him be TOTALLY attracted to her and she knew this included her hair, she waited inch by inch, month by month , year by year....FINALLY the only relaxer left was on the very ends only , and her boyfriend took those ends and cut them off, she cried because she had just got it long enough to look decent in a pony tail...now she would have to wear a bun for again. but the orange looking fried hair was finally gone. so she waited again inch by inch and month by month and wore that bun faithfully...the next thing she knew she went and got her hair done and was amazed that she could reach back and touch the bottom of her hair ...so she did it over and over and didnt care how it looked ...her boyfried was in AWE of her hair , that look on his face was all she wanted all those years....it was a moment of true glory....so she reaches a point where she is finally happy with her hair. she doesnt worry over it anymore, fuss over it much, she knows she can do it however she wants , and be happy with it..it was a long time coming and she was enjoying it. then a few years later one morning she does her hair as usual to get ready for work..then notices ALOT more hair coming out than usual....she decides she wont worry about it because worry will probably make it fall out more...but she worries anyway...the next morning the same thing....and the next...she see clumps of hair in her comb and on the sink...she cries ALOT.. and realizes its coming out so fast that she can already see thinning....she is scared to even touch her hair..she cant stand to see all that hair come out of her head everyday, more than she can bare really. every day it was the same thing...she went to doctors , and they called it alopecia...she was devastated....this cant be she thought....she prayed yet again to her God who she prays to about EVERYTHING else , figuring if he said he counts the hairs on his childrens heads..he must be counting how much she is losing...because at this point its half the thickness it was. and for some reason the doctors didnt seem to care , all they asked is if it was coming out in patches....it wasnt, it was falling out all over. then one night , thinking in just a matter of a couple weeks if it continued she would be bald for sure, her child came up to her and prayed over head of hair...she cried even more. BUT she noticed the next day, a little less hair, and every day after a little less came out. she took vitamins faithfully and the doctors never did come up with an answer as to why it happened....the hair FINALLY stopped falling, but she was left with half of her hair thickness, and had little hairs sticking up all over where it was coming back in...she eventually had to get a big cut because of the thin ends, she didnt even want to see the hair on the floor, she went from past bra strap to above shoulder legnth again, years of growth gone , that easy. she was disheartened but VERY THANKFULL she didnt lose it all and she COULD grow it back again...realizing she might not have been so blessed and many do deal with total hair loss or some permanent hair thinning....how could she not be thankfull....she thought of the time it would take to get it back to where it was...and she just didnt care how long it would take..she was thankfull she still had the hair she had......God has a way of letting us know the things he wants us to know.....ladies in the end its only hair!! dont let it break your heart or make you feel envy or disheatened, be thankfull for what God has given you...remember there is always someone wishing they had the hair problems you might have because you have hair to worry over!!!

this true story , is my story.
Iris
 
That's a very powerful story, thanks for sharing. And boy did The Lord answer your prayers because your hair is stunning! Thanks for the inspiration
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That's a very powerful story, thanks for sharing. And boy did The Lord answer your prayers because your hair is stunning! Thanks for the inspiration
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Thank you, and girl from the things ive been through i deeply appreciate every single compliment and every single strand on my head.
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nice story! thanks for sharing!
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Thank you hairlove. i know its long lol, but just wanted to share how things can very easily in the blink of any eye almost, be put into perspective.
 
Thanks for sharing your story. Even though I feel my hair will never be as beautiful or as long as yours you have given me help. YOUR HAIR IS THE BOMB!!!!
 
"When this type of situation happens to me, I just tell myself that my hair will be at that day soon but it will look better!"

Brit you said JUST what i be thinkin. LOL. Even those i see w/longer hair maybe a bit past their shoulders, it dont grow any longer thats cause they prolly not knowin how to care for the hair to retain length. Most of them wear their hair out and down in wraps where its always exposed and gettin chewed up all the time cause of it rubbin against the material of their clothing.
 
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Thanks for sharing your story. Even though I feel my hair will never be as beautiful or as long as yours you have given me help. YOUR HAIR IS THE BOMB!!!!

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thank you gurl....nobody's hair has to be as long as mine to be BEAUTIFUL....i really never thought my hair could look this way either...so ya neva know!?!....its healthy hair thats beautiful and the fact that your here on the forum learning all you can and applying those things is half the battle...the rest is just time.
 
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adrienne0914 said:
yes, sometimes i still do...

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hey Adrienne!!
sometimes you still do what? have envy?
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please explain.
 
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