God Didnt Want That To Happen-ForAnyone That Has Ever Been Abused, Mistreated or Hurt

[chicacanella]

Hi everyone,

may each of your days be blessed. I was trying to figure out (and maybe God will tell me why it happened to me) certain things that happened in my past. I think he has already told me because at one point, I was confused about what actually happened and didnt' happen because I was a hard sleeper. But anyhow, it had to do with childhood circumstances (from 11-14) that shouldn't have happened and also men of my past.

No one or not atleast anyone I know believes they had a perfect childhood but there are just some incidents that can really effect the child even years into adulthood. BUT God...heals all wounds. I used to think for a long time: "Why did this happen to me?"; What would make him choose me?; When did he start to look at me this way? ;What was wrong with me to make him choose me? ;Was there anyone else?"

But Jesus told me that He's sorry that this person did what he did and that's wasn't God's will. I mean of course it wasn't but as told by someone else who prophesized over me, there were sprits (evil) involved. I believe they were talking about this person and not someone else but that's really the only thing I can conclude that would make someone do that.

So for anyone who has ever been abused or hurt in anyone, God didn't want that to happen. And as He is healing me from past hurts, He can also heal you by Jesus stripes. I'm just believing that He'll bring me to a point of no more guilt, shame, wondering why, crying or anything like that. I just believe that and I want you to know that He doesn't want us to feel like this and if we just submitt and let Him do His work, He'll bring it to pass. He'll keep you in perfect peace if you keep your mind stayed on Him.

 

[hopeful]

Re: God Didnt Want That To Happen-ForAnyone That Has Ever Been Abused, Mistreated or

Thanks for your post. There certainly did have to be something evil present for those terrible things to happen to you. The person who should feel guilt or shame is the abuser, not you, it was not your fault at all, like you said you were between the ages of 11-14, still just a child. Please keep praying and seek counseling and read books about survivors.

 

[chicacanella]

Re: God Didnt Want That To Happen-ForAnyone That Has Ever Been Abused, Mistreated or

Thanks for your post. There certainly did have to be something evil present for those terrible things to happen to you. The person who should feel guilt or shame is the abuser, not you, it was not your fault at all, like you said you were between the ages of 11-14, still just a child. Please keep praying and seek counseling and read books about survivors.

Yeah, I just see it as the enemy using people. I just think about some of the things he has done and no, I don't feel comfortable around him. But see back then, I didn't even know that if I didn't feel or want someone not to even hug me then I didn't have to let them do that. And the way these abusers do it are so sly that the victim or those around them might not catch it unless prompted by The Holy Spirit.

Please, watch who your children are around and always pray, pray, pray.

I mean, I thought about counseling but what would they counsel me on? I jus don't know really what they could say that I don't know already.

 

[hopeful]

Re: God Didnt Want That To Happen-ForAnyone That Has Ever Been Abused, Mistreated or

Yeah, I just see it as the enemy using people. I just think about some of the things he has done and no, I don't feel comfortable around him. But see back then, I didn't even know that if I didn't feel or want someone not to even hug me then I didn't have to let them do that. And the way these abusers do it are so sly that the victim or those around them might not catch it unless prompted by The Holy Spirit.

Please, watch who your children are around and always pray, pray, pray.

I mean, I thought about counseling but what would they counsel me on? I jus don't know really what they could say that I don't know already.

The right counselor, one who is experienced with working with survivors of child abuse, and someone you feel comfortable with, can help you move forward more quickly. Talking things out aloud can be very therapeutic and you may have many breakthroughs in understanding what happened, how it has affected you, and how to move forward. But you may not need or want to see a counselor. It's just a suggestion if you find yourself stumbling, replaying the past over and over in your head, feeling depressed, low self-esteem, unable to trust men, etc., etc. I personally think a combination of things works best in resolving the pain from abuse.

 

[*Michelle*]

Re: God Didnt Want That To Happen-ForAnyone That Has Ever Been Abused, Mistreated or

I agree and thank you! I would elaborate but I'm too tired...be back tomorrow.

 

[*Michelle*]

Re: God Didnt Want That To Happen-ForAnyone That Has Ever Been Abused, Mistreated or

The right counselor, one who is experienced with working with survivors of child abuse, and someone you feel comfortable with, can help you move forward more quickly. Talking things out aloud can be very therapeutic and you may have many breakthroughs in understanding what happened, how it has affected you, and how to move forward. But you may not need or want to see a counselor. It's just a suggestion if you find yourself stumbling, replaying the past over and over in your head, feeling depressed, low self-esteem, unable to trust men, etc., etc. I personally think a combination of things works best in resolving the pain from abuse.

Well she beat me to it and got me started...lol!

I use to feel as though counseling wouldn't/couldn't help. Well as long as I felt like that I was right. I changed my tone, went for a year and made conscientious efforts to not be a victim. And most importantly to forgive (for me this was the hardest part). Just recently (a few months ago) I was able to do just that and now I AM FREE!! Praise God!!

I'm praying for all of us survivors and those that love and support us...cuz trust me they need it too! (((HUGS)))

 

[paradise79]

Re: God Didnt Want That To Happen-ForAnyone That Has Ever Been Abused, Mistreated or

He is so good...My prayers to you and other survivors. Yes, He will relieve your pains and heal your hearts. Thanks for sharing.

 

[Luxlii]

Re: God Didnt Want That To Happen-ForAnyone That Has Ever Been Abused, Mistreated or

I will keep you in my prayers. I love my "sisters".