Getting over the "fear"

[hnntrr]

Alright ya'll, so I am going to confess something.
I am getting scared of doing my hair.

Now to preface this, lemme just say I was a beast to my hair last year (only washing every 2 weeks, flat ironing 2-3 times a week, protein conditioner every 2 weeks (no dc) color and heat and heat and no moisture and miraculously, I still went from TWA (relaxed) to albeit really damaged, grazing SL between Feb-Dec...which is pretty decent.

Now that I am natural, and doing my hair and its healthy...I am so scared that if I over manipulate it its gonna start to break off and it wont grow. I don't know why....my hair withstood a lot more than that and still grew really well. So I don't know why I have this fear now.

Has anyone experienced this? How did you get over your fear?

All this came about because I am trying to figure out if shingling my hair 2-3 times a week is too much manipulation...I am really hoping my hair will blossom natural but....for some reason this angst has rooted itself in me. HELP!

 

[Ladely]

Sometimes I'm afraid to switch hair styles because I'm afraid that as soon as I change it or try the new style, it won't work for some reason, especially while it's short. Then I'd have to walk around with crazy hair until I could get it done properly.

Then, I realized that my hair is growing, it isn't breaking like it used to, and the styles looked great once I actually did them. I was like "well, allll riiigghhhtt!!!! "

 

[MileHighDiva]

I don't know anything about shingling, but if you keep your moisture/protein balance aka elasticity in check, you should not have to worry about breakage.

 

[vtoodler]

hnntrr

Why were you doing a protein conditioner every two weeks?

 

[hnntrr]

hnntrr

Why were you doing a protein conditioner every two weeks?

Cause I didn't know there was a difference between a moisture conditioner and a protein conditioner. So I used Redkin Extreme Repair everytime I washed my hair because it was breaking haha... This was wayyyy before I joined LHCF.

 

[Guinan]

Dont be scurred just like MileHighDiva, said, keep ur moisture & protein in check and you should be fine. I used to be scarred to wear my hair out too. Now I'm like who cares. If it's gonna grow it will grow. Maybe start off wearing or trying out a new style every so often so you can see how you hair likes it. I decided to only PS once a week. Start enjoying ur curls!

 

[Duchess007]

I have this fear as well, especially when you hear people talking about setbacks. So far, my regimen has been to DC overnight on Friday, cowash Saturday morning, slather on a leave-in, and air dry overnight (in bands). And then I style (either twist or braid) on Sunday. I wear my hair in that style Monday-Thursday and wear a twist- or braid-out on Friday. So my loose hair only sees the light of day once a week, but that's enough for me for now, because I don't feel my hair is at the length where it's super flattering on my face. I'm APL.

I'm too scared to try a WNG, but that's mostly because I think it will "change" on me when I'm out of the house and it's too late to fix! LOL

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