I'm amazed at how well I am moving on with my life after being married for 17 years. We decided in March 2011 to get a divorce but he only moved out 3 weeks ago. The first 2 days he was gone were kind of hard on me. Other than that I am getting along well. I have joined a gym(I workout a few times a week). I have registered for school(I start in August). And next week I get my braces put on!!! The braces were a special gift to myself because I had them in HS and didn't wear my retainers. I have been needing braces back on my teeth for years but he kept coming up with reasons why we couldn't financially do it. So I'm wondering what you other divorced/soon to be divorced ladies are doing to get over your EX and move on with your life??
Getting Over it& Moving On....
- Thread starter kim
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I am not newly divorced but my emancipation happened when I received my decree, 12\07, on my birthday no less.
I physically cleaned my house, top to bottom, scrubed every surface he had ever touched. Moved out of the master bedroom, redecorated and made the house MY HOUSE. I didn't do all of this in one day, but over the course of 3 days.
I physically cleaned my house, top to bottom, scrubed every surface he had ever touched. Moved out of the master bedroom, redecorated and made the house MY HOUSE. I didn't do all of this in one day, but over the course of 3 days.
Thank you!!
*Happily Me*
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mannn, it took me a few years to get over it.
what helped was finding someone else who sparked my interest.
what helped was finding someone else who sparked my interest.
I thought I found someone last year, sadly I didn't. I keep hope alive though. I will get it right one day, no, I am going to say shortly.
Guitarhero
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Living life as normal...but I have some advice. It takes a long time to get over the things you don't realize are under the surface. They will appear when you least expect them to. Don't feel badly. Another note on healing, sometimes a partner (either the woman or male) will become more angry after a divorce and even after having a new partner themselves. Expect it because it surely can come. You might think they are over it and that things are progressing cordially but they might be seething with anger, jealousy and defeat. Sometimes, people will attack from out of nowhere, when you least need it. Sometimes, an event, an object, a sound or song might evoke a memory (good or bad) in your marriage. Expect that as well. Your healing isn't complete, even a year or 2 after a divorce. It takes years and if you've been married for as long as 17, it's going to take a little longer. Just make sure you get the rest, exercise and positive/spiritual support you need for the journey. Whatever you do, cut out negative people from your life and if friends and family suddenly or over time become aloof, do not feel sad. Remember who you are. Those quiet moments can be very healing.
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