Sorry I just needs ome help, I am devastated and my SO is upset for me too because I fear I have double processed.
Whats making me more upset is now that I have stopped talking to one of my closest friends (for other issues) I realised I texlaxed my hair for her because she would ask me why dont I relax it and bring ignorant speech into my house.
I was OK with the first process as it was hardly noticable but reduced to poof but my "friend" couldnt notice and kept on at me to relax every time she saw my fro so I did again with JFM softener, I now have started shedding, have split ends and a bald spot.
The came round shortly after I had it done and forced me to try flat iron on a really high temperature even tho I said no 10 times, asked me to relax it over and over and made allusions to nappy hair. I should have been stronger but having two girls with 3b/c natural telling me to relax had me doubting my natural beauty. At one point she gave me such a disgusted look towards my hair I will never forget and implied my boyfriend would like me better with straight hair even though he didnt want me to process.
Cant stop crying, should I transition or cut it out and be done with it??? How do I become stronger over others opinions next time?
Whats making me more upset is now that I have stopped talking to one of my closest friends (for other issues) I realised I texlaxed my hair for her because she would ask me why dont I relax it and bring ignorant speech into my house.
I was OK with the first process as it was hardly noticable but reduced to poof but my "friend" couldnt notice and kept on at me to relax every time she saw my fro so I did again with JFM softener, I now have started shedding, have split ends and a bald spot.
The came round shortly after I had it done and forced me to try flat iron on a really high temperature even tho I said no 10 times, asked me to relax it over and over and made allusions to nappy hair. I should have been stronger but having two girls with 3b/c natural telling me to relax had me doubting my natural beauty. At one point she gave me such a disgusted look towards my hair I will never forget and implied my boyfriend would like me better with straight hair even though he didnt want me to process.
Cant stop crying, should I transition or cut it out and be done with it??? How do I become stronger over others opinions next time?