Flower Girls

Menina Preta

Menina Preta

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More and more, I'm seeing less flower girls and ring boys at weddings.

Did you have a flower girl or a ring bearer? If not, why not?

I may do a flower girl, but not sure about the ring bearer. I read somewhere that the only things that can upstage a bride are small children and animals, lol, so avoid both in your ceremony. lol.
 
They're all right if they are old enough to toss petals or walk without crying or wandering off instead of down the aisle. When I go to weddings, I'm the least interested in flower girls and ring bearers.
 
I could see not stressing about it if you don't have kids the appropriate age.

We had both (each age 5), plus a slightly older nephew (age 10) that passed out bubbles to guests.
 
I had 3 flower girls and 1 ring bearer. Ages 2, 3, 4, and 5.

Oh, and you're the bride. It's impossible to upstage you. Unless someone shows up naked to the ceremony, everyone's eyes will be on YOU.

DH and I only did it because we happened to have kids in our lives who were the appropriate age at the time. If we didn't then we wouldn't have cared anything about it. No one is checking for kiddos. The two main attractions at a wedding are your gown and the food/booze.
 
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My god daughter was my flower girl. She was 3 years old. She was so meticulous and you could see that she tried hard to do a good job. She dropped one petal at a time, so I had all of 10 rose petals on my aisle runner :grin:

I skipped the ring bearer as neither DH or I had any small boys in our families.
 
I had several of each. Since we had a no kids rule, we wanted our nieces and nephews to be there and in a special way. I loved it.

You can really do whatever you want. Everyone will be all smiles regardless since it's your special day. :-) I love when people get married. lol
 
Loving said:
My god daughter was my flower girl. She was 3 years old. She was so meticulous and you could see that she tried hard to do a good job. She dropped one petal at a time, so I had all of 10 rose petals on my aisle runner :grin:

I skipped the ring bearer as neither DH or I had any small boys in our families.
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lol, I've seen flower girls do this before. So cute.

secretdiamond said:
I had several of each. Since we had a no kids rule, we wanted our nieces and nephews to be there and in a special way. I loved it.

You can really do whatever you want. Everyone will be all smiles regardless since it's your special day. :-) I love when people get married. lol
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Nice!

Side comment: I really love the spirit of our wedding board. The tone of theknot.com boards, where I lurk and post occasionally, can be very contentious. Whereas here, people share helpful information with one another without all the snark. :yep:
 
Menina Preta said:
lol, I've seen flower girls do this before. So cute.



Nice!

Side comment: I really love the spirit of our wedding board. The tone of theknot.com boards, where I lurk and post occasionally, can be very contentious. Whereas here, people share helpful information with one another without all the snark. :yep:
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Agreed. They can be really mean on The Knot. I never post there, just read but if you ask a simple question they are quick to call you low class and rude.
 
Eh... I didn't have them cause I didn't want kids at the wedding. But they really cute at weddings. And they definitely don't upstage
 
I was the flower girl in my line sister's wedding. I was amazing. Just a thought in case you don't want to have kids there.
 
SamandI said:
Those bit.ches on the knot are crazy!!!! So cranky and uptight! And judgy! Menina Preta
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MizAvalon said:
Agreed. They can be really mean on The Knot. I never post there, just read but if you ask a simple question they are quick to call you low class and rude.
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Ya, someone asked about junior bridesmaids and they went in on how rude it is to call a teen a junior bridesmaid. Um, I was a junior bridesmaid before and I didn't feel slighted in the least. Or another one where they felt it was rude to include the dress code on an invite. Or how rude it is to marry with a justice of a peace and then have a ceremonial wedding months later.

I'm like dang...let folks marry and be merry geez. Glad I wasn't the only one who felt this way.
 
Menina Preta yeah, I don't get why some are like that. When the big day comes, no one really cares about all those details anyway.

I found weddingbee to be a bit more friendlier and more active as well.
 
MizAvalon said:
Agreed. They can be really mean on The Knot. I never post there, just read but if you ask a simple question they are quick to call you low class and rude.
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I wasn't on The Knot, but I was on Wedding Wire and they were pretty brutal there too. I only posted a couple of times because they were just nasty.
 
Yeah, wedding bee is soo much nicer. You'll get the truth without the extra snark.

Their whole stance on "PPD" is completely ridiculous. If I want to do JOP and then a follow up ceremony and call it a wedding, that's my business.
 
I had two flower girls (one was young, and I knew she's need the older one to get down the aisle without freaking completely out). No ring bearer. I didn't care if I was upstaged or not, to be honest. I wasn't an actor, LOL, just a bride. But no, it's pretty impossible to upstage a bride unless there's someone at the wedding acting a donkey for some reason.
 
SamandI said:
Yeah, wedding bee is soo much nicer. You'll get the truth without the extra snark.

Their whole stance on "PPD" is completely ridiculous. If I want to do JOP and then a follow up ceremony and call it a wedding, that's my business.
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SamandI

This is completely off topic but I totally agree with you. I refuse to even use the term because it's so demeaning and insensitive.
 
cheetarah1980 said:
I was the flower girl in my line sister's wedding. I was amazing. Just a thought in case you don't want to have kids there.
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LOL, I just re-read this. You sprinkled the flowers down the aisle? Cute, lol

secretdiamond said:
Menina Preta yeah, I don't get why some are like that. When the big day comes, no one really cares about all those details anyway.

I found weddingbee to be a bit more friendlier and more active as well.
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I haven't been on wedding bee much. But ya, they're prickly on the knot. It's like the guest can do no wrong ever and you should just grin and bear it b/c you should be sooo honored that your guest even deigned to show up. To me, wedding throwing and attending are a two way street. I expect guests to dress appropriately and behave appropriately, just like they expect open bar and food.

SamandI said:
Yeah, wedding bee is soo much nicer. You'll get the truth without the extra snark.

Their whole stance on "PPD" is completely ridiculous. If I want to do JOP and then a follow up ceremony and call it a wedding, that's my business.
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I agree. Life happens. And sometimes people marry legally for insurance or immigration matters and wait for the wedding.

tmhuggiebear said:
SamandI

This is completely off topic but I totally agree with you. I refuse to even use the term because it's so demeaning and insensitive.
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Basically. But it's such a sore topic on there.
 
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