VelvetRain
Well-Known Member
My bf and I have been together for a solid two years but have known each other for 3 years. Dated a bit for the first year but mutually broke the relationship off for close to seven months. During that time I moved on with things and started dating others. Funny I thought he forgot my number and also moved on but out of the blue he calls me. Within of a matter of weeks of us talking again as old friend he admits that he wants a relationship with me. Before I agreed to get into this situation again I ask him what is making him feel this way because as I recall when we argued around the time we broke up he told me he didn't think he could ever be truly happy with me. So of course I had my guard up this time because I remembered him telling me this.
So of course everything is golden for a few months but as the time goes on I truly see how addicted this guy is to his work. He is beyond a workaholic. He never wants to have any fun. He never wants to go anywhere but will complain at times when I go out a lot with my girlfriends. He makes me feel guilty for going out and enjoying myself but when I ask him if wants to take a little trip on the weekends it's always no. I am so sick of always going out to eat with our random dates and talking on the phone. I guess I am feeling very bored with this relationship. I always feel deep inside that my feelings don't matter and that my wants and desires go unnoticed because he is essentially married to his work. It's just very odd for me to see someone never want to have any downtime to enjoy life. I have a very high work ethic but I do believe in giving myself a break from time to time.
It's not uncommon for me to give him a call and he calls me back two days later with Iv'e been so busy with work and I am extremely tired. Interesting because noone is that damn busy that they can't take a minute or two to give someone a return call.
Yes I have talked to him about it several times and over the course of several months but nothing never changes. I guess I should have let this one go awhile go because I can recount the number of times he has flaked out on engagements with me or has promised me help and has not come good on a promise. I am very surpised and shocked when he does come through at times. He has expressed an interest in marrying me but I doubt I could spend my life with this person gaguing how acts.
So of course everything is golden for a few months but as the time goes on I truly see how addicted this guy is to his work. He is beyond a workaholic. He never wants to have any fun. He never wants to go anywhere but will complain at times when I go out a lot with my girlfriends. He makes me feel guilty for going out and enjoying myself but when I ask him if wants to take a little trip on the weekends it's always no. I am so sick of always going out to eat with our random dates and talking on the phone. I guess I am feeling very bored with this relationship. I always feel deep inside that my feelings don't matter and that my wants and desires go unnoticed because he is essentially married to his work. It's just very odd for me to see someone never want to have any downtime to enjoy life. I have a very high work ethic but I do believe in giving myself a break from time to time.
It's not uncommon for me to give him a call and he calls me back two days later with Iv'e been so busy with work and I am extremely tired. Interesting because noone is that damn busy that they can't take a minute or two to give someone a return call.
Yes I have talked to him about it several times and over the course of several months but nothing never changes. I guess I should have let this one go awhile go because I can recount the number of times he has flaked out on engagements with me or has promised me help and has not come good on a promise. I am very surpised and shocked when he does come through at times. He has expressed an interest in marrying me but I doubt I could spend my life with this person gaguing how acts.
