ChasingBliss
Well-Known Member
Before marrying, one of my biggest fears about getting married was actually finding out that a dh is cheating. It scared the crap out of me because unlike a relationship, walking away is far more difficult --but doable. But more than that, the pain of deceit, dishonor and disrespect of vows.
As a married woman I see how much closer you can feel to a man because he is your husband and you are his wife. It's so much different that a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. There is not only a deeper love (or should be) there is an obligation to the other. You in a sense do answer to him and he to you. You allow yourself to be vulnerable now because this is your husband. You no longer have to act tough and protected --if that's understandable.
On that note, I find myself fearing things that have not happened. My vulnerability has left me feeling a little more open than I want to be. The thought of my husband cheating on me...just the thought is very painful. He gives me no reason to feel like he is doing this, but I still have these fears.
Is this normal? Was/is their anything you feared in your marriage that you had to come to terms with? Does the fear ever go away?
I need to get my head together because at times it makes me act insecure and I hate it.
As a married woman I see how much closer you can feel to a man because he is your husband and you are his wife. It's so much different that a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. There is not only a deeper love (or should be) there is an obligation to the other. You in a sense do answer to him and he to you. You allow yourself to be vulnerable now because this is your husband. You no longer have to act tough and protected --if that's understandable.
On that note, I find myself fearing things that have not happened. My vulnerability has left me feeling a little more open than I want to be. The thought of my husband cheating on me...just the thought is very painful. He gives me no reason to feel like he is doing this, but I still have these fears.
Is this normal? Was/is their anything you feared in your marriage that you had to come to terms with? Does the fear ever go away?
I need to get my head together because at times it makes me act insecure and I hate it.