Fall into FABULOUS!

CurliDiva said:
I’m off to a great start!

:yep: Wednesday, I took a friend out to dinner for her B-Day at a very swanky restaurant (I won a gift certificate, so thought I would put it to good use). I looked good (had the IT GIRL factor working) and had a great time!

:yep: Thursday (last night), I went out for drinks and dinner with a new Meet-up group I joined. I got there early, so I had the chance to have a great conversation with a hottie named Dan who also arrived early. I had fun meeting and talking (about 10) everyone, but there were two guys with “potential”. Dan got my business card and the other one- Jeff offered to be my +1 for an upcoming event.

I want to stress that my Fall of Fabulousness is not about men (it’s all about ME) - but I'm single so if I meet a man with "potential" - what’s a girl to do? :lick:
:yep: Tonight, I’m meeting friends for sushi (my favorite) at a new restaurant, and then we’re heading to a place for live music and drinks.

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Quick question, Curly and anyone else who have joined meet-up for that matter. For the meet up groups, which kinds are u a part of? Do u join the singles / dating groups or the ones based on activities / interests e.g. movies, sports etc? I ask because I joined a couple of meet ups recently (for the first time) and I went to one of the events for one of the singles groups and the caliber of people there were rather dissapointing to say the least. I, therefore, wanted to know if there are certain types of meetups to avoid / not waste your time with or if its more of a luck of the draw type thing. I am new to the whole meet up thing and as I now realize its time to expand my social circle, I wanted to find out from people with experience with meet up groups if there are certain types of groups i shd gravitate more towards. I'm looking to meet decent open minded people (female and male) who are professional (cos thats how i am). Growing up, i was never active sportswise so I cant really play any sports but i'm trying to start and learn some now.
 
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great ideas ladies! i need to be more active on the social front.. its always tricky for me because i dont drink, so when everyone wants to go for drinks after work or something like that im like :ohwell: but yes, i need to keep working on exapnding my network

keep it up ladies!
 
angelica2u said:
Quick question, Curly and anyone else who have joined meet-up for that matter. For the meet up groups, which kinds are u a part of? Do u join the singles / dating groups or the ones based on activities / interests e.g. movies, sports etc? I ask because I joined a couple of meet ups recently (for the first time) and I went to one of the events for one of the singles groups and the caliber of people there were rather dissapointing to say the least. I, therefore, wanted to know if there are certain types of meetups to avoid / not waste your time with or if its more of a luck of the draw type thing. I am new to the whole meet up thing and as I now realize its time to expand my social circle, I wanted to find out from people with experience with meet up groups if there are certain types of groups i shd gravitate more towards. I'm looking to meet decent open minded people (female and male) who are professional (cos thats how i am). Growing up, i was never active sportswise so I cant really play any sports but i'm trying to start and learn some now.
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Hi Angelica2u,

I would suggest joining Meet-Up groups of only activities that you like or enjoy doing. If you don't like or play sports, then why join a sports meet-up?

What do you like to do in your spare time? Any special interest or hobbies? Do a search of groups in your area for ideas.

Read the group descriptions and contact the organizer if you have questions. I tend not to pay attention large headcounts (many may be inactive) but check out the number, locations and types of past events.

Good luck, CD
 
beebstt said:
great ideas ladies! i need to be more active on the social front.. its always tricky for me because i dont drink, so when everyone wants to go for drinks after work or something like that im like :ohwell: but yes, i need to keep working on exapnding my network

keep it up ladies!
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Hi BeeBstt,

You don't have to drink alcohol to enjoy a happy hour (or at least the ones I attend) - many times there is music, food and just a place to talk and mingle.

My friends and I don't actually sit at a bar (......like those guys from Cheers) drinking!

Try out places offer something more other than drinking like live music.

Next time GO and order a soda with lemon or lime!

CD
 
I plan on going to a lot more cultural events this fall - concerts, lectures etc, and local political forums - there are a lot of handsome ambitious men involved in local politics, don't sleep ladies! Might try some networking events too but I'm not feelin those as much nowadays. I'm already socializing more with men and women of all ages from my church (it's large) and a lot of good things have come from that.
 
CurliDiva said:
Hi Angelica2u,

I would suggest joining Meet-Up groups of only activities that you like or enjoy doing. If you don't like or play sports, then why join a sports meet-up?

What do you like to do in your spare time? Any special interest or hobbies? Do a search of groups in your area for ideas.

Read the group descriptions and contact the organizer if you have questions. I tend not to pay attention large headcounts (many may be inactive) but check out the number, locations and types of past events.

Good luck, CD
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I'm trying to broaden my horizon and try new things. Usually, i hang out with family or friends and go to movies, restaurants and lounges. So far, i havent really been able to meet new people doing these things so I want to try more things that I havent to see if i'll like them and also if i can meet some new people. I'm looking for ideas on new things i can try and even getting some ideas from here as well :-)
 
What do you ladies have planned for this weekend?
I'm not going to do as much this week...I'm thinking Taste of Atlanta on Saturday, and the rest of the time studying.

I was thinking it might be "fun" to stand outside the red carpet for the BET Hip Hop Awards this Saturday, but considering the crowd, I should probably stay home. I would go to one of the parties if I had someone to go with.
 
panamoni said:
What do you ladies have planned for this weekend?
I'm not going to do as much this week...I'm thinking Taste of Atlanta on Saturday, and the rest of the time studying.

I was thinking it might be "fun" to stand outside the red carpet for the BET Hip Hop Awards this Saturday, but considering the crowd, I should probably stay home. I would go to one of the parties if I had someone to go with.
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I wish I was in ATL girl I would go with you and take fake pics on the red carpet!!
 
Okay weekend is coming - I am taking the CPA Sat morning then that night I have date with this guy I met at one of my networking functions. Then Sunday I may hang out with this girl I also met at the event as well at this jazz club. What's on your agendas for the weekend ladies?
 
panamoni said:
What do you ladies have planned for this weekend?
I'm not going to do as much this week...I'm thinking Taste of Atlanta on Saturday, and the rest of the time studying.

I was thinking it might be "fun" to stand outside the red carpet for the BET Hip Hop Awards this Saturday, but considering the crowd, I should probably stay home. I would go to one of the parties if I had someone to go with.
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I didn't even know Taste of Atlanta was this weekend...I'm so out of it! :lachen:

Friday night I'm studying and Sunday I'm going to church and meeting up with my study group afterwards.

I am planning to go to dinner and movie with several girlfriends on Saturday night...to see "Good Hair".

One more thing - I don't have class tomorrow night and my girl is making curry chicken (my FAVORITE) so I'm going to dinner at her house and we may go out somewhere afterwards.

I'm trying to get out of the house for at least one social event per week and this week I have two nights planned, so I'm happy! :yep:
 
I'm having a great week:

I went to a FREE performance of Black Pearl Sings at the Ford Theatre on Tuesday.

Tonight, I met a co-ed "cooking meet-up" group for dinner.Had fun mingling with a dozen people.

Friday, I'm going to live music/open mic poetry event with a new friend.

Saturday, I'm getting a body massage! Ok...this is not a "mingle" event, but it will put me in a GREAT mood!

I'm also invited on Sat to attend an Octoberfest event with some friends, but I don't drink beer.
 
Good luck with your exam!!! That's great that you'll end the day with a date.

RoundEyedGirl504 said:
Okay weekend is coming - I am taking the CPA Sat morning then that night I have date with this guy I met at one of my networking functions. Then Sunday I may hang out with this girl I also met at the event as well at this jazz club. What's on your agendas for the weekend ladies?
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I'm planning a weekend trip to NYC in November to see the Cirque Du Soleil show "Wintuk" at Madison Sqaure Gardens!
 
CurliDiva said:
Just "fall" in...I don't want the pressure of having a list or rules to follow!

Just try to get out more and mingle!
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:grin: yay! well so far this weekend I am going to a football game on Saturday~ I think me and some girlfriends are going to see the chris rock movie and to a bar on friday... :yep:
 
Hi Ladies!!

On Friday, I joined about 10 meetup groups :grin:

Not sure when I'll go to my first event, but joining is the first step. This week, I'm going to dinner with some people on Tuesday (not really social, but kind of).

I'm getting my retouch on Friday after a 26 week stretch and I have a feeling I'll be a little more motivated to go out. I'm going to work on figuring out my weekend plans. I think I'm going to a dinner/something with a friend in from out of town on Friday, and a house mixer on Saturday with an athletic club I joined a while back.
 
CurliDiva said:
Hi Panamoni,what type of Meet Up groups did you join?I'm such a big fan of Meet-Up!
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Well, I joined some women's social ones (eg "social butterfly", "ladies night out", etc.), co-ed dinner and a movie, sushi, bowling, Sunday brunch, etc. Now, I actually need to attend one. :spinning: I will though. One step at a time.
 
panamoni said:
Well, I joined some women's social ones (eg "social butterfly", "ladies night out", etc.), co-ed dinner and a movie, sushi, bowling, Sunday brunch, etc. Now, I actually need to attend one. :spinning: I will though. One step at a time.
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VERY NICE!!!:grin:

I've actually met so really cool people from Meet-Up! I was scared at first to attend events at first, but know I'm an old pro - introducing myself to everyone!:lachen:
 
So, this week, my social things are turning out to be preparation for my "photo shoot" on Saturday. lol. I'm taking some family portraits on Saturday.

So, yesterday, I got my eyebrows threaded, tomorrow, I'm getting a mani and pedi, Friday, I'm getting my hair done (so excited to end my 26 week relaxer stretch), and Saturday I'm getting made up at the MAC counter.

Saturday night, I do plan to go out though (oh, and maybe Friday after the hair). Who knows, after having my hair down for the first time in forever, I might go out every night next week!!

What are you guys planning?
 
Friday - joint happy hour event with several meet-up groups (over 100 people have revp'ed)Saturday - volunteering on for an event to encourage high school girls to consider a career in engineering.Planning to see the movie Fame, but keep going back-forth with friends about the time - ainming for .Sunday - Brunch and a potluck dinner with two separate groups. I need to make a dish for the potluck using apples.......
 
^^^^Wow! Sounds like a lot of fun this weekend.
Esp. the high school girls panel...and the potluck...
I'd like to eventually find a way to become involved with helping girls on a regular basis.
 
I shouldve read this thread last weekend..

I wanted to go to a Jazz and BBq place on Saturday but decided against bcuz i didnt want to go by myself and couldnt find anyone to go with..

At first i was just going to go and then go to the movies...but decided to stay in that night..

I truly do need to start going places along because i can meet more people and maybe even meet that one man...
 
Another great weekend is drawing to an end:

I went to a Happy Hour in DuPont Circle on Friday - it was rainy, but I went.

This types of event are helping me to refine my "mingling" skills. It is such great "practice" so to speak to meet a variety of people and discuss diverse topics.

Saturday - I volunteered with middle and high school girls to enocurage them to go to college. They were so sweet but the hair guru in me noticed that none of them wore natural hair (and most had broken off permed or bad weaves).

Sunday - I had a Brunch in the am and then a potluck dinner in the evening. Again great people and conversation at both events.
 
CurliDiva said:
Another great weekend is drawing to an end:

I went to a Happy Hour in DuPont Circle on Friday - it was rainy, but I went.

This types of event are helping me to refine my "mingling" skills. It is such great "practice" so to speak to meet a variety of people and discuss diverse topics.

Saturday - I volunteered with middle and high school girls to enocurage them to go to college. They were so sweet but the hair guru in me noticed that none of them wore natural hair (and most had broken off permed or bad weaves).

Sunday - I had a Brunch in the am and then a potluck dinner in the evening. Again great people and conversation at both events.
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Would you mind giving us a sample "script"? Say you're at a mingling event with a group you've never met before. What are the top 5 things you might do or say?
 
panamoni said:
Would you mind giving us a sample "script"? Say you're at a mingling event with a group you've never met before. What are the top 5 things you might do or say?
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Depending on the event (.....social setting, work networking, school or some type of group like meet-up), you should be able:

:yep: 1. to introduce yourself (this might be your company/role for a work event…….. your major and year for a school event…..it may be your user name and about your experience with like a meet-up group……… or it may be how and how long you know the "host" for a social event like a party)

:yep: 2. Be able to comment on at least one current news event (nothing too deep of controversial like politics, crime or religion) but something like the "balloon boy" hoax or something light like the latest movie or new restaurant or hotspot in town.

:yep: 3. People like to talk about themselves and so ask questions to find out info about the person you are talking to, and also have follow-up questions that will show your interested, but not hard (…….you can’t handle the truth type of) interrogation questions. If someone mentions a topic that you are unfamiliar about, ask they explain it and then compliment or thank them for sharing.

:yep: 4. Use the other person’s name during the conversation and try to introduce them to someone else and repeat one of the facts that you learned about them…this will establishes an instant “bond”.

:yep: 5. At some point, someone will always ask “What do you do in your spare time?” (……hobbies, interests, etc.) and you need to have a response. The more creative, passionate or unusual, the better…even talk about what you like to do in the future (……. like take tango lessons or travelling).
 
CurliDiva said:
Depending on the event (.....social setting, work networking, school or some type of group like meet-up), you should be able:

:yep: 1. to introduce yourself (this might be your company/role for a work event…….. your major and year for a school event…..it may be your user name and about your experience with like a meet-up group……… or it may be how and how long you know the "host" for a social event like a party)

:yep: 2. Be able to comment on at least one current news event (nothing too deep of controversial like politics, crime or religion) but something like the "balloon boy" hoax or something light like the latest movie or new restaurant or hotspot in town.

:yep: 3. People like to talk about themselves and so ask questions to find out info about the person you are talking to, and also have follow-up questions that will show your interested, but not hard (…….you can’t handle the truth type of) interrogation questions. If someone mentions a topic that you are unfamiliar about, ask they explain it and then compliment or thank them for sharing.

:yep: 4. Use the other person’s name during the conversation and try to introduce them to someone else and repeat one of the facts that you learned about them…this will establishes an instant “bond”.

:yep: 5. At some point, someone will always ask “What do you do in your spare time?” (……hobbies, interests, etc.) and you need to have a response. The more creative, passionate or unusual, the better…even talk about what you like to do in the future (……. like take tango lessons or travelling).
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Thanks Curli,
All great tips - Thanks! I'm pretty good at remembering and using a new person's name -- I'm going to try to remember to use it more in conversations.
I'm feeling a little down this week, so I don't have anything planned except for a gala I'm going to for a nonprofit organization I'm involved with.
 
Thursday I went to a mingle thing my new complex had and met some neighbors -- glad I went. It's a small world. Went to my first meet-up group on Saturday -- a games night at someone's home. I had a nice time. Went to a gala on Sunday. Fun weekend.

This week, I'm going to do a pre-halloween party on Friday and a halloween party on Saturday (after handing out candy of course).
 
Its been a rough work week, but I went to a "trivia" happy hour (a first for me) and comedy show at the DC Improv.

Tonight, I may go out to dinner but I'm tired - so it may be a "pizza/ghost whisperer" nite instead. Tomorrow, I'm dressing up for Halloween and hanging out all evening!


My first month (October) of my personal "Fall into Fabulous" challenge went GREAT :grin::grin::grin::grin::grin::grin: I actually had to pare down my social calendar because there was too much to do once I started to look. I glad I didn't WAIT ON my friends - going out by myself and trying different activities was not as scary as I thought it would be

Any weekend plans ladies??????????
 
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