He is not your friend anymore. And it should be final. If you don't cut him off, you are setting yourself up for side chick status down the road...I don't normally block people, but maybe I should? It would be hard to block him because we were best friends for so long and have known each other since childhood. It would just seem very final.
I don't normally block people, but maybe I should? It would be hard to block him because we were best friends for so long and have known each other since childhood. It would just seem very final.
He's already setting it up with the tired, lame-*ss what if scenarios. Don't fall for the okey-doke. He's still upset that you actually moved on and it's a hit on his ego that he wants to rectify.
He ended up texting me seven times over that night and the next morning. I still haven't responded and won't be doing so on any future occasions. I haven't blocked him yet, but I don't have a Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram so the only way he'd be able to contact me is phone or email.
I just hope he doesn't try to pop up over my parent's house or any mutual friends while I'm visiting . I doubt he'd be that extra though.
Why don't you just block him?
I just hope he doesn't try to pop up over my parent's house or any mutual friends while I'm visiting . I doubt he'd be that extra though.
If you have an android phone just send him to spam. You wont see his texts unless you look for them. You don't have to do a grand ceremony and let him know, just stop acknowledging him.
She's asking why not block to protect you from him intruding here and there whenever he feels like it, hence drawing you in once again and you feeling uncomfortable. Even if you can ignore him, you are still allowing him access to you which seems distressing to you. We are on your side. Trying to help you problem solve the situation. If he ever truly needed help he would find you. Plus, if he ever truly needed help why would he call his ex?
If you have an android phone just send him to spam. You wont see his texts unless you look for them. You don't have to do a grand ceremony and let him know, just stop acknowledging him.
Change his name to Do Not Answer and let his messages go straight to the folder. He knows the message went through. Your silence is deafening. Stay that way.
If it was a true emergency one of your mutual friends would tell you. Let him fiancee worry about him.
I have a few DNA's on my phone....works wonders. Trains your mind not to answer....& ignore. I use the block feature when needed as well. it definitely sends a message...
at the end of the day you know the man...do what you feel best. block or just ignore/DNA his behind!
I understand. I'm like that too. If I don't want to talk to you, I won't. In fact, I rather keep your number so I know it's you calling or texting so I don't even get curious (I can't identify too many numbers without seeing the name). However, If I feel like I'm the one who will try to contact you, I delete that number quick.I understand and appreciate you all's support. Like I said, I don't think at this point I need to block him.
I don't need to block someone to not speak to them, so why bother? If there was anyone I felt I needed to block to keep them from getting a hold of me I'd probably need a restraining order as well. Other than that you can text/call and I just won't answer *shrug*. But, if he ever truly needed help he'd still have a way to reach me. That's always been how I've done things. The only time I've blocked anyone was when I needed to keep myself from seeking them out. Otherwise, I live my life, ignore you unless it's serious and keep it moving.
ETA: Now if he did do some crazy ish like show up at my parent or friend's places or if continues to excessively text or call me then I'd block him. But occasional reaching out like this I'll just ignore.
He'll reach out again. They always do.I understand and appreciate you all's support. Like I said, I don't think at this point I need to block him. It's been six months since he first proposed to his fiance. When he reached out to me I felt nothing but, "Are you serious? You're engaged, move on." I posted here just to give an update (and to gossip a little in a low threat environment), especially since so many of you ladies said this would happen. But he has no bearing on my life or my feelings at this time. We live states and states away from each other now and I'm enjoying a new job, new place, and a new environment. He knows I received his messages and knows I chose to ignore him. I don't think he'll be reaching out again.
@CurlyMoo Yes to ego in the sense that it solidifies that he's no prize and I haven't missed out on anything. That he texted me that just confirms what I've told myself since letting this relationship go; he's not the one. I'm definitely not sitting here with my phone going "yes! He text me! I knew he wanted me! Mhmmm, got a fiance and still can't stay away." I don't see his attempts as a reflection of my worth. They're actually very disappointing, because I thought he knew me better than that and I'm worth FAR more than that. Also, yes, it does make me feel powerful. I have grown so much. When I started this thread that text would've made my stomach tight and spurred all sorts of introspective life musings. Now, I give no more than a courtesy ***.I think your ego loves the fact that he is texting you.
......and you still care..........
If this is a prayer circle thank you much! If it's just a frolicking circle of smiley happiness, thank you for that too!
If this is a prayer circle thank you much! If it's just a frolicking circle of smiley happiness, thank you for that too![/QUOTE
It's meant to be a prayer circle, sorry for any confusion.