CurlyMoo
Well-Known Member
I work for an organization composed of people from 17 different countries (none African). I work/live in a country with no local black people. I work/hang out with another Black American female who has natural BSL unstretched hair. So you would think that between the two of us we would have a lot of experiences like that right? NO! People who are curious about our hair (or any other aspect of Blackness) know how to ask in a respectful, tactful way. Because its always a positive experience I am happy to be the 'representative for all things Black'.
That woman was deliberately being catty with the "normal" comment because she felt threatened by you (as demonstrated by her clinging to her husband when you came around). Don't be fooled! That was bad behavior and I would have stopped her immediately at "normal" while we were alone in the Ladies' room.
And yes, your eyelashes are FAB!
Plain and simple! Thank you. I don't know why Asians and other non-Whites get a pass on this site. I guess because our beef is usually with White folks that we just think everyone else is nice, innocent and usually a fellow victim of the Man.
Everyone knows that you don't say someone is not normal even if you are curious and don't know much of other cultures. This woman was being insulting, mean and pretending to be clueless to soften the blow; because she knows how insecure Black women are about our hair. She was trying to make her feel self counsious and knock her down a peg. I've seen it done by many women of all races but Asian women make an artform of manipulation. Remember these are suppose to be the smart people. Right then and there I would have called her mean and ignorant!
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