Oh, Cantu is a good moisturizer.
It just doesn't agree with some people's hair because of the protein. Maybe if you cut out the Dr. Miracle and CD, your hair would be able to better handle it.
Ugh. Carol's Daughter. I just have serious beef with those products because they're subpar and pathetically overpriced. Before she blew up, the products were actually decent. But now? Garbage. There are sooooo many better natural lines out there. Komaza, Qhemet, Enso, Hairveda, etc. Have you tried any of those? I think you'd really like them.
As far as shampoos and conditioners... lemme think... it's almost 4 am, so my brain isn't fully functional. But off the top of my head:
Neutrogena Triple Moisture Shampoo is pretty awesome. No sulfates, either. You can find it at any drug store.
And like I mentioned before, Queen Helene cholesterols are very good. My favorite is the one with ginseng.
Sally's has a GVP conditioner that's a Matrix Biolage knockoff and it's GREAT. Their HairOne (knockoff WEN) is good too. And there's a conditioner with volcanic ash in it that I thought was fantastic... Millennia Mud Mask or something like that. Really good.
Also, any Silk Elements conditioner will do you right.
What kind of bobby pins do you use? Those could also be contributing to the problem. Ever since trying Good Hair Day Pins (also from Sally's) I've never looked back. They're so much more hair friendly than traditional bobby pins.
Have you tried baggying or oil rinsing?
When was the last time you clarified? If you have hard water, it might be time to chelate.