GraceJones
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I've been friends with a couple for a few years now. I like to hang out with them because we have the same interests and we generally have fun together.
You never really know all the details of someone's relationship, and I've never had one before so I didn't think it was right to judge. But now I'm starting to notice certain things about their dynamic. I noticed it before tried to give it the benefit of the doubt.
However I noticed that the bf will often bring up certain conversations as a way to embarrass the gf in public. We've talked about dating before and sometimes I like to get dating advice from the both of them. I don't have any male friends so I like to get his perspective at times.
I've dated A LOT of guys. Because I know I'm not promiscuous, I'm not ashamed to admit that. Plus, I just see dating as practice.
For example, one night we were at dinner and he asked me how many guys I've gone on dates with. I gave an estimate like 30-40. He turns to his gf and asks her how many bfs she had before him. Then he proclaims he has had 10 gfs during college.
I feel like they probably have frequent arguments about other things and this is his way into scaring her out being single again. It's as though he's saying, "Well Grace has dated 30 men and she still hasn't found a man. You don't really have that much dating experience. You might as well stay with me because it will be much easier for me to move on."
He also tells her about other women's horror stories in dating as if to say, "There are much worse men out there. Most men in my position would treat you badly so you may as well stay with me because I'm the best you can do. I'm the only man that can love you. "
He talks about how easy it was for him to pick up girls when he was single in front his gf. It's like he wants her to feel lucky.
He always finds some type of way to brag about himself and how great he is. Once I saw him at the gym and he was bragging about how fit he used to be and how great he would like if he wanted to make the effort. I was looking at him like . He's about 40-50lbs overweight and nowhere near fit.
I'm really starting to dislike him. I just feel like it's control and manipulation. It's also passive control and manipulation towards me as well because I started to internalize his negativity. I think they have a codependent relationship.
Or IDK. Maybe I'm thinking too much. I've been doing a lot of work on my family issues and daddy issues in therapy and now I'm starting to see certain things that weren't as clear to me as before.
You never really know all the details of someone's relationship, and I've never had one before so I didn't think it was right to judge. But now I'm starting to notice certain things about their dynamic. I noticed it before tried to give it the benefit of the doubt.
However I noticed that the bf will often bring up certain conversations as a way to embarrass the gf in public. We've talked about dating before and sometimes I like to get dating advice from the both of them. I don't have any male friends so I like to get his perspective at times.
I've dated A LOT of guys. Because I know I'm not promiscuous, I'm not ashamed to admit that. Plus, I just see dating as practice.
For example, one night we were at dinner and he asked me how many guys I've gone on dates with. I gave an estimate like 30-40. He turns to his gf and asks her how many bfs she had before him. Then he proclaims he has had 10 gfs during college.
I feel like they probably have frequent arguments about other things and this is his way into scaring her out being single again. It's as though he's saying, "Well Grace has dated 30 men and she still hasn't found a man. You don't really have that much dating experience. You might as well stay with me because it will be much easier for me to move on."
He also tells her about other women's horror stories in dating as if to say, "There are much worse men out there. Most men in my position would treat you badly so you may as well stay with me because I'm the best you can do. I'm the only man that can love you. "
He talks about how easy it was for him to pick up girls when he was single in front his gf. It's like he wants her to feel lucky.
He always finds some type of way to brag about himself and how great he is. Once I saw him at the gym and he was bragging about how fit he used to be and how great he would like if he wanted to make the effort. I was looking at him like . He's about 40-50lbs overweight and nowhere near fit.
I'm really starting to dislike him. I just feel like it's control and manipulation. It's also passive control and manipulation towards me as well because I started to internalize his negativity. I think they have a codependent relationship.
Or IDK. Maybe I'm thinking too much. I've been doing a lot of work on my family issues and daddy issues in therapy and now I'm starting to see certain things that weren't as clear to me as before.