karezone
Well-Known Member
I just realized that I am in an emotionally abusive relationship. For the past year or so, he has criticized me to the point were I don't believe that I can do anything right. He routinely witholds affection as some sort of weird punishment.
http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/21
We haven't spoken since Sunday because of a slight disagreement we had in the car on the way to the movies. He lives about 45 minutes away and I am practicing for my license, so when he gets to my home, I drive us both in my car so that I can practice. This Sunday he was late (as has become his routine) the movie started at 7pm and he did not arrive until 7pm. He literally began criticizing me before I was out of the driveway. He continued all the way up the road, until I finally told him to stop. I honestly don't know what possessed me. I guess I was just fed up. You would have thought that I hit him in the mouth or something because he did not say anything else the entire night. In fact he got angry because I would not go through the Cook Out Drive Thru. I am not comfortable enough in my driving to do it yet.
We ended up not seeing the movie because we were too late. I honestly think that he was late on purpose because he wanted to see Quarantine and I wanted to see Eagle Eye. He knows that I don't watch scary movies. If we had been on time, we would have only had time to see EE as we had previously agreed.
As I said before we have not talked since Sunday. I honestly don't plan on calling him, because he always manages to turn everything around and make it seem like my fault.
How would you address someone you feel is emotionally abusive? How would you handle the situation?
http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/21
We haven't spoken since Sunday because of a slight disagreement we had in the car on the way to the movies. He lives about 45 minutes away and I am practicing for my license, so when he gets to my home, I drive us both in my car so that I can practice. This Sunday he was late (as has become his routine) the movie started at 7pm and he did not arrive until 7pm. He literally began criticizing me before I was out of the driveway. He continued all the way up the road, until I finally told him to stop. I honestly don't know what possessed me. I guess I was just fed up. You would have thought that I hit him in the mouth or something because he did not say anything else the entire night. In fact he got angry because I would not go through the Cook Out Drive Thru. I am not comfortable enough in my driving to do it yet.
We ended up not seeing the movie because we were too late. I honestly think that he was late on purpose because he wanted to see Quarantine and I wanted to see Eagle Eye. He knows that I don't watch scary movies. If we had been on time, we would have only had time to see EE as we had previously agreed.
As I said before we have not talked since Sunday. I honestly don't plan on calling him, because he always manages to turn everything around and make it seem like my fault.
How would you address someone you feel is emotionally abusive? How would you handle the situation?