I'm talking to my girl about her first date Saturday night. She's giving me the play by play. "He picked me up at ____. We went ______. He had great conversation and we talked about everything." So I started asking questions about they're conversation. "We talked about traveling, and books, and an ideal concert line up and we talked about sexuality because I asked him if he'd ever been sexually involved with another man?"
Wait, what???
And here's the thing - I've heard that on this board before. Don't get me wrong, I know DL behavior is a problem in the black community, especially in certain parts of the country. We've all heard stories of men and women living duel lives, playing the role of the Good Black (Heterosexual) Man while harboring and acting on other feelings. But, damn...
Do people really ask this on a first/early dates? Is this something people are only asking Black men? And is it naive of me to not be concerned with this??
Wait, what???
And here's the thing - I've heard that on this board before. Don't get me wrong, I know DL behavior is a problem in the black community, especially in certain parts of the country. We've all heard stories of men and women living duel lives, playing the role of the Good Black (Heterosexual) Man while harboring and acting on other feelings. But, damn...
Do people really ask this on a first/early dates? Is this something people are only asking Black men? And is it naive of me to not be concerned with this??