I love everyone in my life unconditionally
putting up with abuse, enabling a person to be destructive towards themself and you isn't love and speaks alot for how you feel about yourself...to confuse it with love is guaranteed diaster
of course I had to get to this "point" , my experiences in life are what helped me get here....if i had a mate who I found out was a child molester or a killer I wouldn't act like i was "okay" with these actions, I wouldn't defend these actions, I wouldn't hide these actions, I wouldn't step in the way of consequential outcomes however I would forgive him because I know that if he's that dark inside that he has no love within, the worst thing I could do is add more darkness to his life...I can't make him reach out to me or talk to me or get all his demons out, I can't make him feel remorse or apologize to those he hurt and whose lives he severely affected, I can't make him "repent" or accept responsibility for his actions if he wants to blame everybody else but himself, I can't make him do anything he doesn't choose to consciously do and still I would forgive him and accept that he's pretty friggen f'ed up and if he chose to shut me out I would let him be and just leave him to his life with a
Love Bless You and all those you hurt or have taken away and I pray everyone involved will eventually heal their hearts
If he wants to get better...even if he has to spend the rest of his life in jail if he reaches out for help I will help him....I would try to help him heal himself, help him try to mend the hurt of those he affected....
that doesn't mean I would marry him, or stay married to him or not live my life, my love isn't based on if im having an intimate relationship with him or not or used to be or not, that doesn't mean I will spend all my time and energy on him but it also means I wouldn't completely turn my back on him....I would do what I was capable of doing and nothing more, and do it from a place of love....
loving somebody doesn't mean u have to be in their lives, their presence and it definitely doesn't mean that you have to be "okay" with any of their actions that are unhealthy, esp if they affect you nor put up with them
however in this world we live in where hate, anger, unforgiveness, lack of love, aggression, repression, unacceptance, judgement, condemnation and the sort are what we live by......one day people will have to realize you can't fight fire with fire.....all of the above leads to more of the above
the people who deserve love the least
need it the most and we refuse to do it
and the vicious cycles continue and only get worse and worse, people get worse and worse and they act out worser and worser...and people respond worser and worser
I do it because I can, and I will to any and everybody mate or stranger on the street, even if its simply sending out blessing of love and healing to those as I move on with my life
I have conditions and rules that must not be broken! 
If they are I'm out! 
ITA Good post.
