Do you lie to avoid pain, discomfort, avoid facing consequences, and avoid sacrafices

[Plenty]

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[kbragg]

Just repent sister. Ask Jesus to forgive you for your sin, and turn away from it. That's all it takes. Bless you

 

[Shimmie]

(Shimme, where are you. )

I had just been praying about something that was causing me a great amount of stress. Then I thought why does this bother me. I realized that I was trying to control what others thought about me. This lead me to dig deeper.

Boy, what I do to avoid critisim.

Now that I recognized this, what do I do? I do this all the time, and I swear to you I never realized it.

Do I go back and fix every wrong I made.

Every mistake I have made was me trying to dodge pain/discomfort, and judgement. I'm I the only one?

ETA: I think my mother has tried to cause those around her as much pain/critisim/discomfort so that she could get her way. I'm not mad at her though, I believe she was just always scared.

ETAO: This is the hugest break through I have ever had in my life, I swear. I was really hoping and praying for it. Identifly this characteristic changes everything, but do I get forgiveness for this lifelong behaviour? I have been lying all this time, not ya'll but, in general. What happens now?

TIA

Plenty!

ETA: I have attracted people in my life who treat me just like my mother, isn't that a hoot!

Hey there.... (((( Hugs ))))

You're being too hard on yourself.

There's an old saying....We cannot unscramble eggs. Why is that? It's an example that as humans, we have to allow ourselves to surrender to what can and cannot be changed.

The Serenity Prayer...

[FONT=Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif]God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference. [/FONT]

Plenty, you are a beautiful, enriched and blessed woman...of God. Whatever is past is past. And God is no longer holding you accountable for any past sins. He did this for you over 2000 years ago when Jesus died on the cross.

Honey, you can't possibly go 'back'...only forward. This is why we have Jesus to look to...'forward'...not back.

As for dodging, pain, discomfort, and judgement.... Be at peace. Put on the whole armour of God instead. For He gives you the 'Shield of Faith' which quenches every dart of the enemy (Ephesians 6).

Dear one, nobody can judge you...only God can. No one has Heaven or hell to put you in....therefore, what they think doesn't matter. For God's judgement of you is 'Not Guilty." And loving you until end which is never an end of loving you with Him.

Feel better now? I hope so.

(((( "mommie hugs" ))))
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[Shimmie]

Btw: I lie about 2 things...my age and my weight

I'm 21 and I weigh 105 lbs. ....

 

[cocoberry10]

Hey there.... (((( Hugs ))))

You're being too hard on yourself.

There's an old saying....We cannot unscramble eggs. Why is that? It's an example that as humans, we have to allow ourselves to surrender to what can and cannot be changed.

The Serenity Prayer...

[FONT=Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif]God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference. [/FONT]

Plenty, you are a beautiful, enriched and blessed woman...of God. Whatever is past is past. And God is no longer holding you accountable for any past sins. He did this for you over 2000 years ago when Jesus died on the cross.

Honey, you can't possibly go 'back'...only forward. This is why we have Jesus to look to...'forward'...not back.

As for dodging, pain, discomfort, and judgement.... Be at peace. Put on the whole armour of God instead. For He gives you the 'Shield of Faith' which quenches every dart of the enemy (Ephesians 6).

Dear one, nobody can judge you...only God can. No one has Heaven or hell to put you in....therefore, what they think doesn't matter. For God's judgement of you is 'Not Guilty." And loving you until end which is never an end of loving you with Him.

Feel better now? I hope so.

(((( "mommie hugs" ))))
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I agree. I think everyone has told a lie in their lives. I know I've told my fair share.

It sounds to me like you've lied to protect yourself, or at least to "appear" a certain way...whatever that is (to appear happier, wealthier, more of something than you feel you are).

Repent to God, as earlier posters said. But also, look inward. I suspect that the reason you are telling lies to others, is because the first person you lied to is yourself. This has to come from a place of shame, and it sounds like the things you said about your mom could be the source. Maybe you told yourself that you are not good enough or worthy enough, so you feel the need to lie to protect yourself. I knew a girl once that lied about her parents profession and socio-economic status, b/c she felt like she did not belong in the group of friends she had (all from upper class backgrounds). Of course they found out, and some were pretty upset. But all told her that she never had to lie. They didn't choose to be her friend b/c of "who" she was in terms of status. They chose to be her friend b/c they liked her.

Yes, I know people get caught up in those kinds of things, but do you really only want friends b/c of who they "think" you are (the way you present yourself)? I suspect not.

Also, I read this article that discussed people's lying, and it explained that most of the time we learn this in childhood from parents or early influences. So, know you aren't alone. Parents believe they instill honesty in their children, but do "little" things that may influence that child. For example, many parents have their children answer the phone or the door and tell them to tell the person "he/she's not home," when they are sitting right there. Or parents will tell "little white lies," to others. Children pick up all things their parents are doing.

Sorry post is so long, but remember, we are all human and make less than perfect decisions. Put it this way, if we were always perfect, 100% of the time, than what would we need God for?

I believe that Adam and Eve's fall was always in the plan. If they had just lived in Eden in perfect peace, they never could have understood the magnitude of who and what God is. I choose to see my bad decisions as learning experiences, not mistakes, and try not to repeat them. Sorry so long, and hope this helps.

 

[Plenty]

Just repent sister. Ask Jesus to forgive you for your sin, and turn away from it. That's all it takes. Bless you

Thanks, I need that inspiration.

 

[Plenty]

Hey there.... (((( Hugs ))))

You're being too hard on yourself.

There's an old saying....We cannot unscramble eggs. Why is that? It's an example that as humans, we have to allow ourselves to surrender to what can and cannot be changed.

The Serenity Prayer...

[FONT=Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif]God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference. [/FONT]

Plenty, you are a beautiful, enriched and blessed woman...of God. Whatever is past is past. And God is no longer holding you accountable for any past sins. He did this for you over 2000 years ago when Jesus died on the cross.

Honey, you can't possibly go 'back'...only forward. This is why we have Jesus to look to...'forward'...not back.

As for dodging, pain, discomfort, and judgement.... Be at peace. Put on the whole armour of God instead. For He gives you the 'Shield of Faith' which quenches every dart of the enemy (Ephesians 6).

Dear one, nobody can judge you...only God can. No one has Heaven or hell to put you in....therefore, what they think doesn't matter. For God's judgement of you is 'Not Guilty." And loving you until end which is never an end of loving you with Him.

Feel better now? I hope so.

(((( "mommie hugs" ))))

I feel alot better! Thank you ladies.

 

[Guyaneek]

I'd be lying if I didn't say yes. I do this occasionally. Keep me in prayer