Do you find it offensive...

[angaliquew]

when someone ask you if you have a weave?
I have been asked this question when I have had a weave and when I have had my natural hair down.

Personally I find it is very offensive if I really don't know you and if you ask me in public...I feel like it's nobody's business, if it looks good what difference does it really make?

Just wanted other people's opinion...

 

[glamazon386]

when someone ask you if you have a weave?
I have been asked this question when I have had a weave and when I have had my natural hair down.

Personally I find it is very offensive if I really don't know you and if you ask me in public...I feel like it's nobody's business, if it looks good what difference does it really make?

Just wanted other people's opinion...

I used to get offended by it but then I just let it go. People are just nosey. If they ask, I'll tell them but if not I don't worry about it. I agree with you, I don't see why it matters if it looks good. Why can't they just compliment your hair? Does knowing if it's yours or not make them feel better?

 

[KiniKakes]

Not at all..... it's one of the highest forms of a compliment, to me. But maybe im just a weirdo. *shrug*

 

[Kitkat]

I think it's pretty obnoxious when someone you don't know very well asks that question, which has happened to me. Even if I wasn't certain whether someone had a weave or not, I could never fix my mouth to ask that question. I didn't mind nearly as much when a family member asked me that, though.

 

[Denim And Leather]

when someone ask you if you have a weave?
I have been asked this question when I have had a weave and when I have had my natural hair down.

Personally I find it is very offensive if I really don't know you and if you ask me in public...I feel like it's nobody's business, if it looks good what difference does it really make?

Just wanted other people's opinion...

It is offensive. Just because a black woman has long hair doesn't always mean she's wearing a weave.

I wore one for many years, and that question never ceased to offend me. To ask that question, from a stranger, especially in public, is rude, rude, rude.

 

[MizAvalon]

I don't get offended if people think my hair is a weave. I get offended if they ASK. I think that is inappropriate and rude. If you think it looks nice then just say so and keep it moving. Real or fake shouldn't matter.

Don't even get me started on people TOUCHING my hair.

 

[tenderheaded]

Why does it matter if it's real or purchased Does it make the person asking feel better about themselves if it's fake? It's not just other black people who do this. I had a former co-worker who insisted I had a weave even AFTER I parted my hair and showed it coming from my scalp These people really need to get a life!

 

[sylver2]

No one has really ever asked me. I figure that they assume that yes it is a weave, or it doesn't look good enuf for them to even contemplate.
My hubby told me that his family and friends have asked if "that was all my hair".
I wouldn't be offended. Sometimes I wish people would ask, it would make my day..sigh..they never do...lol

 

[Tee]

No one has really ever asked me. I figure that they assume that yes it is a weave, or it doesn't look good enuf for them to even contemplate.
My hubby told me that his family and friends have asked if "that was all my hair".
I wouldn't be offended. Sometimes I wish people would ask, it would make my day..sigh..they never do...lol

It funny you say that. People ask other people about my hair but only family will really ask me. I dont get offended about it. But when they wanna put their hands in my hair...NOw that pisses me off!

Oh, before I go. This is the slickest line of them. I had one chick ask...Where do you buy your weave? I really like it. lmao. WTH??? lol

 

[MizAvalon]

It funny you say that. People ask other people about my hair but only family will really ask me. I dont get offended about it. But when they wanna put their hands in my hair...NOw that pisses me off!

Oh, before I go. This is the slickest line of them. I had one chick ask...Where do you buy your weave? I really like it. lmao. WTH??? lol

Don't leave us hanging like that girl!! Please tell us how you responded and how cracked up ole girl's face was when you told her it was REAL!!

 

[*ElleB]

I think it's pretty obnoxious when someone you don't know very well asks that question, which has happened to me. Even if I wasn't certain whether someone had a weave or not, I could never fix my mouth to ask that question. I didn't mind nearly as much when a family member asked me that, though.

i totally agree....

 

[jaded_faerie]

Not at all..... it's one of the highest forms of a compliment, to me. But maybe im just a weirdo. *shrug*

Im with you on that!

 

[secretdiamond]

Not at all..... it's one of the highest forms of a compliment, to me. But maybe im just a weirdo. *shrug*

I'm the same way. Whether my hair has been short or a little longer, people have always asked me if it was a wig or weave. I laugh and smile.

One time, before I cut my hair, it was in a ponytail and I curled the ends to give it more body. I was going to a friend's house for a gathering. One of my friends came up to me, gave me a hug, and SHOVED her hand all up inside my ponytail! Then proceeded to ask me "are you sure that's not a weave?" I told her know and continued to ignore her. But all the while I was smiling inside, knowing her jealous a$$ was trying to find something to hate on me for & my hair STILL looked good. I just kept swinging it, letting her admire from afar.

 

[Healthb4Length]

This is funny, just this morning an 'OLD white lady asked me if my hair was real...I said "yes", she pulled on it and everything...I let it slide because she was so OLD but other than that I would have caught a 'tude real quick. I just let it slide off my back now because I'm asked this on a daily basis.

 

[ChocoKitty]

I don't really find it offensive... I just see it as an opportunity to educate people about hair. But it does agitate me when people start playing in my hair once they find out it's real. Pulling on my ponytail might get you clocked...

 

[so1913]

Not at all..... it's one of the highest forms of a compliment, to me. But maybe im just a weirdo. *shrug*

Same here... I like saying "nope, all mine!" and then it's another way to show woman we CAN grow and have healthy hair!

 

[KiniKakes]

Same here... I like saying "nope, all mine!" and then it's another way to show woman we CAN grow and have healthy hair!

RIGHT!!!

 

[ThickHair]

Doesn't bother me. I say yes it is mine very proudly.

 

[Shine-On]

I find it offensive when it is a weave. ESPECIALLY when the person asks the question and doesn't follow it with a compliment. For instance, "I hope you don't mind me asking, but is that a weave? If so who does your hair? It looks really nice." Or something to that effect. That sounds like a honest and respectful inquiry. I DESPISE people who do otherwise. I have had people ask me where I purchased shoes, purses, accessories, etc. and AFTER I tell them, they just walk off. EXCUSE ME??? First off, I'm not your friend. Secondly, how dare you ask information of me without saying thank you for my response and/or telling me why you're asking? Some people are RUDE!

 

[cocosweet]

Yes, it does offend me. I think its rude. I think it does make some people feel better to find out that the hair they're admiring is fake. Jealousy is a trip.

 

[carolina_belle]

I think it's rude especially when asked in a group. Sometimes it could be just innocent, but I've felt there was an agenda behind the question. Maybe it's just me, but that's a loaded question. I wouldn't think to ask someone "What size pants are you wearing right now? or Is that a push-up bra?" That's my personal information and really none of your business.

 

[seeminglysweet]

I don't really find it offensive, I think it's childish when the question isn't posed directly to you but to your significant other, friend, sibling, etc.

What I do find extremely rude is when someone decides to just put their hands in your hair to find out for themselves.

 

[SweetCaramel1]

no i don't find it offensive. it's just clarification for all the doubters that we can grow long hair. i've never had a non-black person ask me that question though

i have had guys rub thier nasty hands through my scalp. digging for tracks ewww! now that's another issue

 

[Curlee_lurker]

I guess since I've been fielding this question for as long as I can remember, it doesn't bother me when someone asks.

What does bother me is when I answer that it's all mine and they insist on asking other people about it as if I'm lying. A girl I went to school with asked me in private, I told her it was mine, she complimented me. Then come to find out she's drilling my friends about where I get my weave from, who does it, etc. A grown woman once told me when I was 11 that she could have hooked my weave up better and to call her when I was ready for a more natural looking style.

I take it as a compliment when people ask.

 

[Bublnbrnsuga]

I don't get upset with the question itself, it's HOW and WHERE they ask me.

 

[Zeal]

I have a twa... But I think that is just trifling and ignorant to ask such a question. When my hair was to my Chin a lady asked me. Is that your hair? I asked her, Why? Did you lose some? My Mom cracked up.

 

[blackbarbie]

I've had it from all spectrums and it really doesn't bother me, just as someone else said, just another opportunity to educate people that we can grow our hair. But whether a person has a weave or not is a personal choice and I do think it would be rude to call someone out and ask them if their hair is a weave; just compliment the style and move right along.

I've had women to compliment me and just say that my hair looks nice and I take the compliment graciously and keep it moving and I have also had women that look like they want to fling it out of their mouths, but won't dare ask. Strangely enough, I have had more guys to assume (dunno how guys know the difference b/c I am not even a good weave detector ) that it is real and compliment me on my hair. White people just look at my hair really strange and just smile; I guess they don't what to say (don’t know what that’s all about)

BB

 

[glamazon386]

I think guys are getting hip to the weave game. I thought most of them wouldn't know unless someone had like a track glued to their forehead or something but this guy I was dating a year and a half ago caught me off guard. He asked was that all my hair. I was wearing a straight streaked weave at the time and I said no why? He was like I didn't think it was. You can tell by the front of it. I don't care that it's not your hair, it still looks nice but I was just curious. I was like . I wasn't offended when he asked at first but his explanation offended me. I knew my weave was immaculate so IDK what the giveaway was. How did he know that? I can only assume that he dated someone with weave before and they told him how to tell. I actually knew his last gf and she had short chin length hair. I never saw her with weave except for braids. Her aunt used to do both of ours when we were younger. Go figure? Outside of him, I've never really had any dudes hip to it. They'll ask if I'm mixed (usually when I'm wearing a curly weave) before they'll ask if it's my hair. Now that actually offends me. Idk why but it does. I guess they just assume that its my hair and because it's naturally wavy/curly looking I must be mixed. What a crock of bull. I mean would it turn you on if I was mixed? Sorry, guess I just bursted your bubble. They usually get a stare and a "Are you Black? What don't I look black? " I did once tell this guy I was mixed with Yaki when he asked. I wonder if he ever found out that yaki was a type of weave...

 

[so so chic]

I do not find it offensive AT ALL. It actually makes me feel good . I've never worn a weave before so maybe that's why. I've gotten this all of my life, and basically it tells me that my hair looks good and that it's so pretty, long, and healthy looking that it doesn't even look real. Now if I actually had a weave in my hair, whether my real hair was short or the same length it is now, I would probably find it offensive erplexed .

 

[Sweetcoco82]

It never bothered me that much if people asked me if my hair was a weave or not. It's annoying at most. But what did tick me off was after i told them it was all mine, they would ask what i was mixed with. I am part indian, but still why do you have to assume that if its all my hair then i am automatically mixed.