Je Ne Sais Quoi
Well-Known Member
Op did you call or not?
Do you call or do you ignore it?
- Thread starter Lisa
- Start date
CurlyMoo
Well-Known Member
OP, that's not why you are single. Chasing men who don't put in enough effort to leave a simple message may be why you are single. Let men court you!! Which would include a few calls from him that you have missed. First, check to see if your VM is full; if not return the call from the guy who left a message. Actually, whether we know it or not; there are courtship rules. Full Stop!
Last edited:
CurlyMoo
Well-Known Member
It's never wrong to be old fashioned. If you want a guy to leave a message when he calls; don't return the call until he leaves a message. My philosophy is this, if you really want to talk to me; you let me know. Leave a message. Let him court you. If he's not the courting type, guess what; there are courting types out there.
Last edited:
babyt87
Well-Known Member
I feel like this is a USA specific problem! NOBODY leaves voicemails in the UK! Only my mum n even then I think "why?".
I'm all for letting a man make an effort and show he cares BUT if you wouldn't stress yourself out like this when a friend calls and doesn't leave a message then I wouldn't start now.
I also agree with a previous poster, if you like this guy and you see him and he asks "why didn't you call", are you comfortable saying "you didn't leave a message and I was testing you to see how much you cared!". If yes then go for it and hold out!
Either way I'm sure he will call you but was it worth this?
I'm all for letting a man make an effort and show he cares BUT if you wouldn't stress yourself out like this when a friend calls and doesn't leave a message then I wouldn't start now.
I also agree with a previous poster, if you like this guy and you see him and he asks "why didn't you call", are you comfortable saying "you didn't leave a message and I was testing you to see how much you cared!". If yes then go for it and hold out!
Either way I'm sure he will call you but was it worth this?
Highly Favored8
Well-Known Member
Co-sign....
ingenious_mind
New Member
Call him back...
I'm not one to leave voice messages...I hardly even check them.
I'm not one to leave voice messages...I hardly even check them.
LivingDol1
Well-Known Member
If you call him back, don't you dare leave a voicemail.
hopeful
Well-Known Member
CurlyMoo
Well-Known Member
Ok so I guess that solves this then. I'm glad you waited, therefore letting him put more effort. How do you feel about the communication thus far? Good luck to you OP.
Last edited:
Lisa
Well-Known Member
I'm confused! He made a point of saying in his text that he missed his friend and to hurry back. (I went home for Christmas) Ummm...OK... but I found that weird. Usually we see each other once a week but we don't talk very much only a few words in passing. He's called a couple of times and we've had a few good conversations but when I see him we really don't talk much so what exactly did he miss about me? Seeing me?
It was just kind of weird! I think my infatuation is fading!!
It was just kind of weird! I think my infatuation is fading!!
ScorpioBeauty09
Well-Known Member
Not a lot of people leave messages these days so if someone does I make the effort to call them back. Texts, not so much. I don't like getting to know a guy through texting. In most circumstances I assume if he really wants to talk to me, he'll call.
