Discussing Weave Wearing Habits - Need Advice!

[Mane Event]

Okay ladies, how does your DH, SO, or BF feel about your weave/wig wearing habits?

My last boyfriend could careless as long as it looked good but now I'm in a fairly new relationship and of course the "hair topic" is going to come up at some point. erplexed

In so many words, how do you say "I'm not bald-headed....I wear weaves b/c I'm trying to grow my hair to fabulous lengths....thanks to LHCF"

I know he'll never believe that....Now, he may not actually say anything to be respectful but in his head he'll be thinking "Yea right...My chick ain't got no huRR."

So give me your best advice.
If you're a weave/wig wearer....How did you approach the "issue?"

 

[BroadstreetBully]

Not with anyone now. When I was they didn't care. They saw my hair sometimes, and when I wore weaves they knew it was because I wanted to change up my style/color a bit. Any guy who is THAT concerned with what's going on in my head isn't worth it. Most guys don't care about wigs, weaves, etc...as long as the finished product looks good.

 

[*~Mocha~*]

If he's seen your hair underneath in between installs I doubt he'd think your bald-headed. My daughters father use to say its not a big deal "dont all girls wear weaves"..
I use to prove to him Im not bald and show him my hair after I take them out.. Lol
I have yet to meet one of those ignorant brothers that are so against African american females with weaves.

 

[Mane Event]

Thanks for the responses....


I really don't think guys care too much about the weave, esp since it's become so Hollywood these days...I think they just want to know something is underneath..maybe it's curiosity


He's not that shallow (At least he hasn't proved to be yet). This won't make or break the relationship just needed some feedback, so thanks!

Please share more experiences!

 

[Nayna]

My ex so hated weaves! He got on my nerves about it. My current prefers me without it but it's not a big deal to him. Depends on the dude.

 

[CaribbeanQueen]

If he's seen your hair underneath in between installs I doubt he'd think your bald-headed. My daughters father use to say its not a big deal "dont all girls wear weaves"..
I use to prove to him Im not bald and show him my hair after I take them out.. Lol
I have yet to meet one of those ignorant brothers that are so against African american females with weaves.

ITA with this. Just let him see your real hair after you take out the weave. He'll probably say 'YOu have nice hair why do you wear weave?' Then you can explain...

 

[Ediese]

Lol...As soon as I got back from my trip to Dallas, my SO said, "you're back now so please take that wig off. lol He despises fake hair. He doesn't like my real straight hair either, go figure!

 

[Farida]

My Dh hates weaves. He would not ban me from wearing them, but he really hates them.

 

[MissMeWithThatIsh]

If you have anything negative to say about my hair... and you're not my DH, then f-ck you.

My DH doesn't really care... as long as I don't look like a slob. But even then, it's really NOT his business how handle my hair anyway either.

 

[butterfly_wings]

Your hair looks long to me, why don't you wear it out a few times just to show him your real hair then expalin why it will be hidden away for a while.

Lol I remember when I first started staying over at my SO's, I wouldn't wear a scarft to bed as it didn't look cute and every morining I had to keep spraying and brushing that mess, never again, haircare first cutness later

 

[SpiritJunkie]

Great thread. My new guy doesn't like weave at all either so i plan to show him that i am not bald and maybe as one of you suggested let him know why i wear it.

actually i wear wigs not weaves. He didn't make a big fuss but i know he don't like it.

 

[Kawaii1]

Dh does not mind weaves but does not like wigs. He would not condone the wigs but he's really cool about my hair and loves long hair so whatever I do to make it longer and healthy he is cool. I thought he wouldn't like stretching (he loves straight hair *sigh*) but he doesn't comment. I guess as long as I don't run around looking whooped he doesn't really care.

 

[poetist]

When I first met my DH, I was wearing lacewigs 24-7. He never really complained and actually liked how I wore my "hair," but I knew he was probably curious about how my real hair looked. I was thankful that I had found LHCF prior to meeting him, because at least I knew that my wigs were serving a purpose, rather than covering up the short, thin breaking mess that my hair once was.

Once I reached my first goal (BSL) I got my hair done and DH commented on how nice it looked and then asked if I had gotten a new wig. When he realized that it was au naturalle, he was

 

[Mane Event]

^^^cute story....
I want to get to (FULL) bsl too...I think this is when I'll start showin out!
(crossing my fingers, I'll get the same reaction)

 

[glamazon386]

Don't ask don't tell and definitely don't touch.

 

[MiamiHottie]

My SO doesnt care. He just does like obvious looking weaves. Like Wigs and full weave in's

 

[poetist]

^^^cute story....
I want to get to (FULL) bsl too...I think this is when I'll start showin out!
(crossing my fingers, I'll get the same reaction)

your hair in your siggy looks great now. i'm sure you'll get a great response. report back n let us know

 

[Ramya]

Don't ask don't tell and definitely don't touch.

Exactly!!!

Everybody knows that I wear wigs right now. My hair is healthy but short and I can't style it right now. Me doing the BC was a choice that I made that I don't have to justify. My hair won't be 'long' for another 2 years. So it is what it is. This is what you're getting accept it or move on. I haven't met anyone shallow enough to care though.

 

[Soliel185]

Your hair looks long to me, why don't you wear it out a few times just to show him your real hair then expalin why it will be hidden away for a while.

Lol I remember when I first started staying over at my SO's, I wouldn't wear a scarft to bed as it didn't look cute and every morining I had to keep spraying and brushing that mess, never again, haircare first cutness later

I was doing the same thing when I first started seeing my SO. Then one night he was like "You know, you're the only girl I've dated that doesn't tie her hair up at night."

I pulled my scarf out from under my pillow and slapped it on right then!

 

[ilah]

My ex dissapproved of weaves all together and never let me forget about it. I wore my hair in a but all 3yrs we were together - kidding. He prefer natural non-relaxed hair on females.
I didn't put in my weave until after my current boyfriend and I started dating. He loves it. He doesn't care what I do with my hair as long as I don't come home looking crazy.

 

[wonderstar]

I was doing the same thing when I first started seeing my SO. Then one night he was like "You know, you're the only girl I've dated that doesn't tie her hair up at night."

I pulled my scarf out from under my pillow and slapped it on right then!

that's funny.

 

[missware2003]

My boyfriend dislikes weaves. He has always loved my hair, I did also b/c I went to the salon every week. But when I graduated college and started a career with bills etc. I didn't have the extra money to go to the salon every week. I was doing my hair my self and it was not growing nor was it retaining it's health .

I started wearing the weaves and he was like "Why do you were weave, you have hair" I told him that If he would pay for me to go to the salon every week I would have to wear them. He was also told not to say n e thing about my hair, unless he had next month's salon payment in his hand.

 

[LadieCrn]

My SO hates weaves/wigs. He believes you should only wear them if you have some kind of hair loss issue.

 

[weaveologist]

I have this same concern. Since I wear weave 99.999% of the time, men swear I am bald. But I wear it because the texture of my real hair is so wierd and unmanageable. What I do is after I have been in the relationship for awhile and deem them worthy, I let them see my real hair. That is a testiment of my love right there!

 

[Mane Event]

^^^^ I like that idea...Thanks for the feedback!

 

[Mane Event]

^^^MissWare2003...Another great idea (Dont say s*, unless you're paying for my appts)

 

[MissYocairis]

My Dh hates weaves. He would not ban me from wearing them, but he really hates them.

Right! I'm surprised some women haven't encountered men who don't care for fake hair. My SO doesn't like weaves nor braids. He doesn't care if a woman's hair is short or long or in between but he is not feeling the fake.

 

[darlingdiva]

I wear a wig as a protective style & my husband doesn't like the wig & he doesn't like wigs in general. He thinks wigs are for older women (like my mother's age--she's in her 50s). However, he respects my decision to wear it.

He told me how he felt about it once & that was that. He doesn't make rude comments about it or look at me funny when I put it on, and I love that.