kayte
Well-Known Member
I had a male friend who told me... when he once asked about my relationship and how it was going...(he did have a hidden agenda... he was trying to date me himself w/out success) anyways when he asked me..how things were going...and I hesitated as my bf and I were going through a rocky period.
...."well, he cares very much for me,blah-blah-blah"
my friend interrupted....does he talk dirty to you
that stopped me in my tracks and before I could answer he said
If he's not talking dirty to you ..then he doesn't love you
I wonder... .....is there is any truth in that...is it a barometer of.... anything...whether that talk is even present or constant or never emerged... or has stopped? I never examined it before... it always comes within the larger context of relationship via other acts of caring so there is a balance.
I bring it up now cas the current relationship,he always talked to me in terms of sweet or tender language and he does say I love you...just never generally crossed that line voluntarily..he's kind of conservative...and now.......he's more graphic.... w/out 4 letter words... and it's even poetic...but very very graphic
I do not know why I squirm
I've sometimes said I'm getting uncomfortable and he will stop immediately on a dime...but lately ....he 'll go on and on with this ....narrative... of what he plans to do ..with me ...and it's not..awful ...it just feel like outtakes from an amateur soft porn dvd....
I like being desired....but I get so confused....Just wondering about others take on this...
...."well, he cares very much for me,blah-blah-blah"
my friend interrupted....does he talk dirty to you
that stopped me in my tracks and before I could answer he said
If he's not talking dirty to you ..then he doesn't love you
I wonder... .....is there is any truth in that...is it a barometer of.... anything...whether that talk is even present or constant or never emerged... or has stopped? I never examined it before... it always comes within the larger context of relationship via other acts of caring so there is a balance.
I bring it up now cas the current relationship,he always talked to me in terms of sweet or tender language and he does say I love you...just never generally crossed that line voluntarily..he's kind of conservative...and now.......he's more graphic.... w/out 4 letter words... and it's even poetic...but very very graphic
I do not know why I squirm
I've sometimes said I'm getting uncomfortable and he will stop immediately on a dime...but lately ....he 'll go on and on with this ....narrative... of what he plans to do ..with me ...and it's not..awful ...it just feel like outtakes from an amateur soft porn dvd....
I like being desired....but I get so confused....Just wondering about others take on this...