Fine 4s
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When someone initiates affection, I reject it.
Unless I'm initiating, I feel extremely vulnerable in the moment. I feel the same way about compliments.
As you can imagine this affects all my relationships but mostly with SOs.
As you can also imagine, foreplay also makes me uncomfortable. I feel very self-conscious and afraid that I might do something wrong or something that will be judged as "wack" later. Doing any romantic activity like sensual massages, dancing for someone or taking a shower together (the latter is easier) makes me uncomfortable. I believe I'm being judged and that I'm not doing it right.
I hardly ever invited friends or SOs to a dance show (when I danced). When I'm comfortable enough to invite you to a dance performance, you KNOW I'm comfortable with you and open and vulnerable.
The only time I can give affection is when it's superficial (lying).
I'll tell someone I don't REALLY love that I love them in a heartbeat! I'll show affection when I don't really mean it in a heartbeat. But when it's real, that's when I shy away from it. When I was 16, I told a boy I liked him and then ran away. Like ran, did a sprint
Do any of you have any tips or suggestions on how I can overcome this?
Please do not quote
When someone initiates affection, I reject it.
Unless I'm initiating, I feel extremely vulnerable in the moment. I feel the same way about compliments.
As you can imagine this affects all my relationships but mostly with SOs.
As you can also imagine, foreplay also makes me uncomfortable. I feel very self-conscious and afraid that I might do something wrong or something that will be judged as "wack" later. Doing any romantic activity like sensual massages, dancing for someone or taking a shower together (the latter is easier) makes me uncomfortable. I believe I'm being judged and that I'm not doing it right.
I hardly ever invited friends or SOs to a dance show (when I danced). When I'm comfortable enough to invite you to a dance performance, you KNOW I'm comfortable with you and open and vulnerable.
The only time I can give affection is when it's superficial (lying).
I'll tell someone I don't REALLY love that I love them in a heartbeat! I'll show affection when I don't really mean it in a heartbeat. But when it's real, that's when I shy away from it. When I was 16, I told a boy I liked him and then ran away. Like ran, did a sprint
Do any of you have any tips or suggestions on how I can overcome this?
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