PopLife
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My BF is what you would call a busy body, who is extremely active and social. I am on the other hand reserved, I like going out and being social but I also need my alone time. I have never really had a problem with my BF's lifestyle but he seems to have a problem with mine.
Based on a conversation we had a few months back, he feels like I lack passion and have no interest or hobbies...that in turn led to a huge argument.
My interest and hobbies have varied throughout the years but when I do get into something I am passionate about it. Most of them currently are things that I can't really discuss with him like skin care, makeup, and hair care (he's bald) lol.
He is really into physical activities and anytime he has asked me to go hiking, cycling, workout, etc... I have went and enjoyed it. I have even suggested we do a marathon together since he has done them before and to try to do something together, but he basically showed no interest. I feel like he compares my lifestyle to his and views me as boring just because I'm not hanging out with my friends 5 nights a week or taking some type of class or recreational sport.
It has gotten to the point now when he ask what I did that day or what I have planned for the weekend I feel like I have to have a list of things that fit his criteria of importance. I hate feeling like this.
I have never complained about him hanging with his friends, pursuing his hobbies, or looked to him to entertain me. Him having his own life is one of the things that actually attracted me to him because I like having time to myself. I can't change who I am but it really hurts to know that he feels this way about me. Any advice or suggestions?
Based on a conversation we had a few months back, he feels like I lack passion and have no interest or hobbies...that in turn led to a huge argument.
My interest and hobbies have varied throughout the years but when I do get into something I am passionate about it. Most of them currently are things that I can't really discuss with him like skin care, makeup, and hair care (he's bald) lol.
He is really into physical activities and anytime he has asked me to go hiking, cycling, workout, etc... I have went and enjoyed it. I have even suggested we do a marathon together since he has done them before and to try to do something together, but he basically showed no interest. I feel like he compares my lifestyle to his and views me as boring just because I'm not hanging out with my friends 5 nights a week or taking some type of class or recreational sport.
It has gotten to the point now when he ask what I did that day or what I have planned for the weekend I feel like I have to have a list of things that fit his criteria of importance. I hate feeling like this.
I have never complained about him hanging with his friends, pursuing his hobbies, or looked to him to entertain me. Him having his own life is one of the things that actually attracted me to him because I like having time to myself. I can't change who I am but it really hurts to know that he feels this way about me. Any advice or suggestions?