LiftedUp
Well-Known Member
... or was everything hunky dory straight through?
I ask because the older we (me and the women around me) get, I notice that the more people are settling down and getting married. Now while I'm an advocate for people "doing them", I'm wondering if these scenarios are normal.
These are some of the complaints from different women that I got in 2013. Some overlap:
*he cheated
*we haven't spoken to/seen each other in months
*he doesn't have a steady job
*he wants me to spend my money on everything
*he knows that I am unemployed and still in school but still he expects me to pay for xyz
*we don't go out, he takes me for granted
*he doesn't wish me happy birthday etc. and doesn't buy me gift for any occasion.
etc.
But this year it's, "we're engaged to be married".
Now I do not mean unavoidable things like being laid off, death in the family etc. I mean character flaws.
My question is, is it unrealistic to expect a smooth sailing courtship before marriage? I honestly do and I've unapologetically left men if they didn't meet my expectations because I believe that I deserve a great courtship. Is this realistic?
I ask because the older we (me and the women around me) get, I notice that the more people are settling down and getting married. Now while I'm an advocate for people "doing them", I'm wondering if these scenarios are normal.
These are some of the complaints from different women that I got in 2013. Some overlap:
*he cheated
*we haven't spoken to/seen each other in months
*he doesn't have a steady job
*he wants me to spend my money on everything
*he knows that I am unemployed and still in school but still he expects me to pay for xyz
*we don't go out, he takes me for granted
*he doesn't wish me happy birthday etc. and doesn't buy me gift for any occasion.
etc.
But this year it's, "we're engaged to be married".
Now I do not mean unavoidable things like being laid off, death in the family etc. I mean character flaws.
My question is, is it unrealistic to expect a smooth sailing courtship before marriage? I honestly do and I've unapologetically left men if they didn't meet my expectations because I believe that I deserve a great courtship. Is this realistic?