Did marriage improve your financial situation?

StarScream35

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Did going from a single income to a dual income improve your financial situation or make it worse? I'd like to hear from you ladies. I've heard people jokingly say things like they need to find a husband so they can have the benefit of a dual income. But is it all that it's cracked up to be?
 
It would have been an improvement if he didn't have child support. It still worked financial speaking. We lived way below our means, so when we did finally seperate and divorce my lifestyle did not take a hit. His did a bit, but he bounced back quickly.

Two close friends of mine, their financial situation got worst because their new spouse's really raised the income in the home, BUT they started spending more and one couple went into bankruptcy. So it can be a double edged sword if you don't handle it correctly.

For me, even though I have been receiving nice raises, I am still basically living on what I earned in 2007. I may have added an extra $25 a paycheck into my hand, but most of my additional salary increases have been going to investments, emergency money, etc.

ETA: Backin 2011 when I was going to remarried. We thoroughly discussed how we were going to handle finances. We were going to do daily living on his income, which was nice and my income was going to be saved, invested, vacations and used for emergency purposes. The extra positive thing is that he was going to return to school to get his PHd. The awesome thing about it, is that he was currently teaching at that university, so the costs was going to be mininal, a few fees is all. He really wanted me to pay off my student loan and if I would have married I would have been able to pay off my student loan in 3 years instead of the remaining 10 years I had.
 
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I was an unemployed, full-time student when I married DH, so marriage definitely improved my financial situation.:lol:

Why marry someone if they are going to make your financial situation worse?:spinning:
 
Yes and it was a big part of my decision to marry dh---keeping it all the way real!!! our pre-nup was also created by us in a way that i would walk away with a decent amount if ish hit the fan...i didnt go into my marriage broke I was doing ok by ny standards--really ive had financial support from my family in general all my life..but he did upgrade me financially!
but when a man makes alotta money---alotta other variables are involved with you directly reaping benefits from that money...money..property..revenue..profit...dinero...chedda lol is a very interesting thing---and trust most smart ppl protect it--esp if one has financial advisors and has generational family money etc
 
it has definitely improved my situation..i wouldn't knowingly go into a bad financial relationship...having more income can backfire on some women, though...some women go HAM on the spending when there is extra money...thus, leaving them in the same situation as they were in before...or worse
 
A lot of people start living above their means when they combine incomes. Having another income even if less than yours should be beneficial.
 
This is a very interesting topic, I hope more people chime in. I really liked this advice I read on blackloveandmarriage.com:

1. Just because you increase from 1 income to 2 doesn’t mean you’re balling.

Unless you are Dave Ramsey or Suze Orman, chances are the minute you merged incomes you’re expenses increased. Why? Because you mistakenly have the mindset of “yea, we can buy it because on paper we make more money.” But guess what? It’s not so. And don’t even think about adding kids to the mix! Tip: Spend the first 3 years of marriage in a 2 bedroom apartment and live off 50-75% of your income and stash the rest in savings. For your first home, buy a duplex. Live in half and rent the other half. Stay there for 2 years. Then buy your dream house and rent out both sides of the duplex. Tada! You’ve just established generational wealth.
 
For most people, two incomes are better than one!

Make sure you live off of one salary and save the other.

I'm not married, but live with my SO and it's great!
 
There can be more of a financial burden if you marry someone with a child support obligation, an alimony obligation, someone with poor credit, tax debt, etc. In some situations, those things could make it much worse - such as preventing you from buying a house (with that person), etc. If you have to exclude their income because they can't qualify for say...a home loan with poor credit, that could reduce the amount of loan you qualify for, etc. Also, if the person is a spendthrift of otherwise financially irresponsible, you can easily end up in debt and depending on the state, the debt can sometimes be considered joint even if the account is not joint on the credit report.

I remarried in 2008, both of our lives improved financially because we went from paying our bills with one income to paying with two. We maintained separate residences prior to marriage so when we married, all of the bills we paid separately became one bill. It allowed us to take what we were saving on bills and purchase a nice home. We both have similar thoughts on managing finances and we do not tend to live beyond our means. We upgrade when we can afford to upgrade, travel when we can afford to travel but bills and saving always come first.
 
Here's an example of what can happen when finances go bad and there's a divorce:

http://www.ftc.gov/bcp/edu/pubs/consumer/credit/cre08.shtm

People should learn these things prior to marriage so they can understand how to protect themselves.

Facts for Consumers PDF Format Email
Credit and Divorce
Mary and Bill recently divorced. Their divorce decree stated that Bill would pay the balances on their three joint credit card accounts. Months later, after Bill neglected to pay off these accounts, all three creditors contacted Mary for payment. She referred them to the divorce decree, insisting that she was not responsible for the accounts. The creditors correctly stated that they were not parties to the decree and that Mary was still legally responsible for paying off the couple's joint accounts. Mary later found out that the late payments appeared on her credit report.

If you've recently been through a divorce - or are contemplating one - you may want to look closely at issues involving credit. Understanding the different kinds of credit accounts opened during a marriage may help illuminate the potential benefits - and pitfalls - of each.

There are two types of credit accounts: individual and joint. You can permit authorized persons to use the account with either. When you apply for credit - whether a charge card or a mortgage loan - you'll be asked to select one type.

Individual or Joint Account

Individual Account: Your income, assets, and credit history are considered by the creditor. Whether you are married or single, you alone are responsible for paying off the debt. The account will appear on your credit report, and may appear on the credit report of any "authorized" user. However, if you live in a community property state (Arizona, California, Idaho, Louisiana, Nevada, New Mexico, Texas, Washington, or Wisconsin), you and your spouse may be responsible for debts incurred during the marriage, and the individual debts of one spouse may appear on the credit report of the other.

Advantages/Disadvantages: If you're not employed outside the home, work part-time, or have a low-paying job, it may be difficult to demonstrate a strong financial picture without your spouse's income. But if you open an account in your name and are responsible, no one can negatively affect your credit record.

Joint Account: Your income, financial assets, and credit history - and your spouse's - are considerations for a joint account. No matter who handles the household bills, you and your spouse are responsible for seeing that debts are paid. A creditor who reports the credit history of a joint account to credit bureaus must report it in both names (if the account was opened after June 1, 1977).

Advantages/Disadvantages: An application combining the financial resources of two people may present a stronger case to a creditor who is granting a loan or credit card. But because two people applied together for the credit, each is responsible for the debt. This is true even if a divorce decree assigns separate debt obligations to each spouse. Former spouses who run up bills and don't pay them can hurt their ex-partner's credit histories on jointly-held accounts.

Account "Users"

If you open an individual account, you may authorize another person to use it. If you name your spouse as the authorized user, a creditor who reports the credit history to a credit bureau must report it in your spouse's name as well as in your's (if the account was opened after June 1, 1977). A creditor also may report the credit history in the name of any other authorized user.

Advantages/Disadvantages: User accounts often are opened for convenience. They benefit people who might not qualify for credit on their own, such as students or homemakers. While these people may use the account, you - not they - are contractually liable for paying the debt.

If You Divorce

If you're considering divorce or separation, pay special attention to the status of your credit accounts. If you maintain joint accounts during this time, it's important to make regular payments so your credit record won't suffer. As long as there's an outstanding balance on a joint account, you and your spouse are responsible for it.

If you divorce, you may want to close joint accounts or accounts in which your former spouse was an authorized user. Or ask the creditor to convert these accounts to individual accounts.

By law, a creditor cannot close a joint account because of a change in marital status, but can do so at the request of either spouse. A creditor, however, does not have to change joint accounts to individual accounts. The creditor can require you to reapply for credit on an individual basis and then, based on your new application, extend or deny you credit. In the case of a mortgage or home equity loan, a lender is likely to require refinancing to remove a spouse from the obligation.
 
Brighteyes35 said:
Did going from a single income to a dual income improve your financial situation or make it worse? I'd like to hear from you ladies. I've heard people jokingly say things like they need to find a husband so they can have the benefit of a dual income. But is it all that it's cracked up to be?

Marriage definitely upgraded me. :lol: Dh was (still is) working a full time salaried position when we met and I was working part time.
 
^^^ Right.
A grown man that is broke and knee deep in debt is such a turn-off.
I gave a broke guy with 4 kids a chance once......perleese....dude was bringing me discounted desserts from his job in Tesco Supermarket. Staff discount you see. He was happy too
in that little job bless him.

After a long 2 months i let him go. Long story short, he cussed me out calling ME a gold digger. Me thinks he was digging for my gold!!!
 
Absolutely!

We're going through some financial snags right now because of some medical bills, life, and poor financial choices on our part, but we both got upgraded by being together.

The key is that we are both on the same financial page. No overspending, No keeping up with the Joneses, No arguments, just "get er done!".
 
Yes. It really helps that DH has a similar mentality as I do when it comes to multiple streams of income. So he came in with his multiple streams and I came in with mine, between the two of us well pull in money from 6 to 7 different sources every month. Definite upgrade for me and he's making out better than before as well
 
ETA: Backin 2011 when I was going to remarried. We thoroughly discussed how we were going to handle finances. We were going to do daily living on his income, which was nice and my income was going to be saved, invested, vacations and used for emergency purposes. The extra positive thing is that he was going to return to school to get his PHd. The awesome thing about it, is that he was currently teaching at that university, so the costs was going to be mininal, a few fees is all. He really wanted me to pay off my student loan and if I would have married I would have been able to pay off my student loan in 3 years instead of the remaining 10 years I had.

This is what we did. :yep: Our cars/house were all purchased with only his income factored. I always recommend if someone wants to run their life into their ground by getting married, make sure their husband-to-be pays ALL of the bills with his check alone.
 
Made me worse... but it was totally expected.... DH lived outta the country and had to move into the US.. had to go to grad school.... Good thing is lived very comfortably on half of my income. So even with supporting 2 heads, and paying grad school tuition, my standard of living didn't suffer. Now i've quit my fancy job to follow my dreams, DH has graduated and is hunting for a job to support the both of over the next 5 years... No complaints so far.
 
Summer_Rain said:
Yes. It really helps that DH has a similar mentality as I do when it comes to multiple streams of income. So he came in with his multiple streams and I came in with mine, between the two of us well pull in money from 6 to 7 different sources every month. Definite upgrade for me and he's making out better than before as well

I didn't know you got married. Congratulations
 
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