Datig Game- Spin off from Making the man work harder

[prettypuff1]

Does it really have to be all that? I was thinking about this.. I am currently talking to someone that i am totally interested in... He is interested in me as well... I tried to get him to pursue me, but that didnt turn out so well... It ended with the both of us secretly lusting after each other, but not together... We finally started talking when one of us took initiave to talk to the other, and we have been talking ever since. I came out and told him that i liked am and wanted to know if he felt the same. It turned out well. But i have been told by other women that it isn't good to do something like that because men want to pursue us. I just want to know why it is frowned upon to come out to a man and say, I like you and i want to get to know you. I mean i am 23 years old and i am already finished with playing little cat and mouse games of " make him pursue me" and " getting the upper hand"," act like an bytch and get him" most of the time that doesnt end well anyways..... Where do you ladies stand on dating? Be up front and stay what you want, or game playing..... Just wondering if being up front is dead.....

 

[Syrah]

Playing games and acting like you're not interested in a man you want is dead.

• Thats how you end up married to man while in love with someone else - and pissed when a female who is half the woman you are ends up with your man and you are thinking "What???"

Being 100% totally over-available for a man is dead.

Find the balance (which it sounds like you have).

I think what those ladies are trying to say is that everything worth having is worth working for. Things that come to easy, aren't as appreciated once their attained if they were easy to come by. And on the flip side, truth be told - men's egos are as fragile as we think they are. And they like to know that they're wanted.

You can let a man know you're interested, and still "make him work".

 

[poetist]

I think you should do whatever works for you, but in general I find that men know what they want and have no problems pursuing you, if they really want you. I do have male friends who choose to let women pursue them, but to me its a turn off. I do not like timid men. I like assertive, outspoken, confident men. At the end of the day, I expect my husband to die for me...if he cant so much as approach me and go all out to pursue me, then Im not really expecting him to jump in front of a bullet for me.