Hey
lucky8502
So sorry to hear that you've been going through this.
I agree with
hopeful (as always lol
) and most of the other posters in this thread.
I will ALSO add, that due to my previous experience with guys in the past, now days I have come to realize that if I am ever feeling
"confused" while in a relationship, or even feeling "confused" while wondering if a guy is interested in me or not, then 9 times out of 10 that "confusion" is a
HUGE red Neon sign telling me that something is NOT right.
erplexed Usually when I have felt "confused" in a relationship or around a guy, that usually meant that he was NOT that into me.
Either that, or our goals and what we wanted out of a relationship did not match.
When a guy is
TRULY into you and (more importantly) wants a
RELATIONSHIP with you, his actions will NOT be
confusing, they will be SO transparent. His feelings for you will be easily read.
But if I'm scratching my head, twisting myself into a pretzel trying to "figure out" this dude, then that tells me right there that I better keep vigilant and observe him closely, because he may not be what I'm really looking for.
Yeah I agree with you I think that's EXACTLY what he is doing because he acts like it's too much to go on a date anymore and he only wants to do something at his house or only calls when he wants me to come over. Plus when we go out with his friends he just leaves me to fend for myself (even the first time) and clamors to stand next to the pretty girl and wont even acknowledge me until the pretty girl is gone ( even if one of the pretty girls is his best friend's girl) Thank you all I just wanted to make sure it wasn't just me. There is a lot of other things that make me go hmmm but these were the things confusing me
Oh NO...this is SO not cool.
He is straight up telling you with his actions that he doesn't view you as anything serious.
A guy who is trying to IMPRESS you and show you that he wants a serious relationship with you wouldn't do something like this.
Gosh, I really hope I'm wrong and that things improve with you and your friend OP.
I agree w/others...he sounds a little on the controlling and selfish side.
I would fall back and stop with the contact. Give him a break for a little bit. Only respond to HIS pursuit and interest for about a week. See what happens.
In the meantime, if I were you, I would check out
The Rules Thread I started a few years back. It's very eye-opening to read all of the other ladies' experiences they've had w/men. You might start to notice something.
Also, maybe (IF you haven't done so already) you might want to pick up a copy and read
WMLB. It's another "eye opener", and it shares with women more about how men think and how they perceive a woman who pursues THEM.