Confused..

[bluediamond0829]

I'm trying not to make it out to be more than what it is. The guy ive been knowing since i moved to ATL came up to visit after going on 3 years this weekend. Yea we keep in touch thru texting and sometimes talking and the last time i saw him was last year in February.

I dont want to think too much into this but its just kind of confusing because he doesnt talk to me and we never were open about putting our feelings out there to each other about how we feel about each other. Even when i was down in Florida.

Ugh men can be so confusing. I dont want to believe he wasted the money he did for a round trip ticket and he hates flying just to come up here.

When i asked him what took him so long to come up he just says he finally got sometime off, but its just like he came Friday evening and is leaving late Sunday.

What do u ladies think?

 

[Divine Inspiration]

I'm confused about what you're asking. Do you like him? Are you asking if he likes you?

I think 3 years is more than enough time for him to have made a move if he were truly interested. I wouldn't put any energy or thought into it - he'll do what he wants to do.

If he wants to have something more than sporadic communication, his words AND actions will align and it will be crystal clear to you what his intentions are. No deciphering necessary.

 

[BrooklynSouth]

I'm trying not to make it out to be more than what it is. The guy ive been knowing since i moved to ATL came up to visit after going on 3 years this weekend. Yea we keep in touch thru texting and sometimes talking and the last time i saw him was last year in February.

I dont want to think too much into this but its just kind of confusing because he doesnt talk to me and we never were open about putting our feelings out there to each other about how we feel about each other. Even when i was down in Florida.

Ugh men can be so confusing. I dont want to believe he wasted the money he did for a round trip ticket and he hates flying just to come up here.

When i asked him what took him so long to come up he just says he finally got sometime off, but its just like he came Friday evening and is leaving late Sunday.

What do u ladies think?

Bluediamond, I don't know what to think. He did not waste money because he 'got ' to see you and as far as discussing feelings, why don't you tell him how you feel?
Best to get it in the open and not keep guessing. What happened during his stay, did you two go out,kiss, etc., talk a lot..what? Not knowing the details but based upon my reading I say just maintain it as a friendship with no limitations on your dating anyone else.

 

[Bunny77]

What everyone else said.

Also, I think you'll know all you need to know based on his behavior after your visit. Does he call you? Does he plan another visit? Is he trying to see you again?

If he's not doing any of that, then all you have is a nice friendship and I would move on mentally from wondering if there's something more.

Question... did he come to ATL SPECIFICALLY to visit you, or was he coming to ATL anyway and decided to see you in the process?

 

[NYAmicas]

Um, I just watched the movie "He's Just not That Into You" and it was an enjoyable film. Now I didnt read the book but I'd say stop wasting time on this guy, it certainly doesnt sound like the attention is reciprocated. Life is too short to be guessing on a man's "actions" when he's taken none. Enjoy ATL!

 

[bluediamond0829]

Bluediamond, I don't know what to think. He did not waste money because he 'got ' to see you and as far as discussing feelings, why don't you tell him how you feel?
Best to get it in the open and not keep guessing. What happened during his stay, did you two go out,kiss, etc., talk a lot..what? Not knowing the details but based upon my reading I say just maintain it as a friendship with no limitations on your dating anyone else.

We did go out, we would talk but not about us or this, play Wii game, watch movies, just basically chilled thats why im not trying to go too deep into what and why. But he has always been the type tht just seemed like well ok hes doing him and basically thats it. So thats why i was surprised when he told me he was coming up.

No im still in the dating pool im not letting this stop me because i need someone that can communicate im not a psychic and cant read minds and little actions.

 

[bluediamond0829]

Thank you ladies. Usually i dont do much posting but i just needed someone to talk to and nobody to pump my head up about whats going on and put blinders on.

 

[CAPlush]

I think he sees you as a friend, wanted to get gone for the weekend, and thought it would be cool to chill with you and play Wii. Are you sure he is straight? Does he mention other women to you?

 

[bluediamond0829]

I think he sees you as a friend, wanted to get gone for the weekend, and thought it would be cool to chill with you and play Wii. Are you sure he is straight? Does he mention other women to you?

Yes he is straight. Has when i first left he did mention other women but now he doesnt really talk anymore about other females. I know he had some issues with some that he tried dating.

Yea you're probably right about the first part.