MummysGirl
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Any of my close friends will easily say I'm an extrovert, always smiling, etc BUT when I meet new people I am the complete OPPOSITE. I remember being a teenager and finding out a guy I had a massive crush on thought I was a snob. Why? Because everytime I saw him I *never* made eye contact... I was shy!
Same thing yesterday (I'm 30 later this year) - I was done teaching a class (I'm an instructor) and was signing out at reception. I saw this really cute guy, made eye contact with him and looked away immediately. I knew he was looking at me the whole time I was there but I couldn't look back up anymore cos I was shy
I've noticed that the only time I maintain eye contact is if the guy strikes up a conversation - this happened a few weeks ago at the same gym where a couple of guys asked me if I was gonna come back to work out with them. Then I was confident enough to maintain eye contact and decline in a friendly (and hopefully flirty) manner.
Sorry for the long post, my questions are:
Same thing yesterday (I'm 30 later this year) - I was done teaching a class (I'm an instructor) and was signing out at reception. I saw this really cute guy, made eye contact with him and looked away immediately. I knew he was looking at me the whole time I was there but I couldn't look back up anymore cos I was shy
I've noticed that the only time I maintain eye contact is if the guy strikes up a conversation - this happened a few weeks ago at the same gym where a couple of guys asked me if I was gonna come back to work out with them. Then I was confident enough to maintain eye contact and decline in a friendly (and hopefully flirty) manner.
Sorry for the long post, my questions are:
- Is there anyone else like me? Tell me I'm not alone
- What's the best way to change what seems like a lifelong habit? (It really isn't as easy as it should be because I always say I'll make eye contact, maintain it and smile... but I don't)