Company party - are you bringing your SO?

[neenee280]

The company is already talking about the Christmas party. It is the party of the year they say. They are flying us all to Texas. Everyone is bringing husbands/wives. You can bring a date too. My coworker (who is also single but dates) asked if I was going to bring my SO.

Would you bring your SO to the Christmas party? I guess being single so long, I still think about me and didnt consider a date. If SO was a husband - no doubt, he better pack his bag. But SO, no ring in the near future...

So who has taken the SO to the Christmas party and who hasn't?

(Just realized I am talking about Christmas and it is still August!)

 

[Aveena]

A few years ago when I first met my SO my big boss threw a fancy party at his mansion. Everybody was going to be there and everyone I knew that was invited was excited and felt like we were going to have a good time. He knew how to throw a party.

I did not bring my SO, but rather my sister. I had only known him for a short period of time and although several years later I do not regret not taking him. I told him then and tell him now that it is work (no matter how fun). He brought it up around Christmas time last year- but I know he understands.

On the flip side, one of the young atty’s brought her bf whom she had dated for a while and whom she expected to engage her. But, to answer the question, no I did not take mine and would not even now.

 

[bLackButtaFly]

I wanted to, but it was kinda complicated b/c he was a former attorney at my job, and I was a former intern at my job who'd recently been promoted. Well, I wanted to bring him, and reveal that we were dating, but he thought it best not to, plus nobody ended up bringing anyone since it was on a weekday. I'm glad i didn't though; but it it weird like b/c coworkers kept asking if I was with anyone so they could introduce me to their cousin etc, and I was like I am , and then they start asking about my bf at the time, and I really couldn't get into details.erplexed

 

[neenee280]

I wanted to, but it was kinda complicated b/c he was a former attorney at my job, and I was a former intern at my job who'd recently been promoted. Well, I wanted to bring him, and reveal that we were dating, but he thought it best not to, plus nobody ended up bringing anyone since it was on a weekday. I'm glad i didn't though; but it it weird like b/c coworkers kept asking if I was with anyone so they could introduce me to their cousin etc, and I was like I am , and then they start asking about my bf at the time, and I really couldn't get into details.erplexed

Awww! But at least he was understanding and it was all for the best!

 

[neenee280]

A few years ago when I first met my SO my big boss threw a fancy party at his mansion. Everybody was going to be there and everyone I knew that was invited was excited and felt like we were going to have a good time. He knew how to throw a party.

I did not bring my SO, but rather my sister. I had only known him for a short period of time and although several years later I do not regret not taking him. I told him then and tell him now that it is work (no matter how fun). He brought it up around Christmas time last year- but I know he understands.

On the flip side, one of the young atty’s brought her bf whom she had dated for a while and whom she expected to engage her. But, to answer the question, no I did not take mine and would not even now.

You know what - I like that mindset. Whenever I had a business meeting/dinner I never drank because anyway you look at it, it's work. This is a pretty laid back company but I dont want to get the look for nothing.

 

[BAP28]

YES i would bring the SO if you feel like the rlp you have warrants him being introduced to important ppl at this function..

if you feel like its not quite there yet then you may wanna bring someone else...

but i woudl if i felt that he and i were in a substantial and meaningful rlp...enough to introduce him to ppl who are significant in my world....

 

[dlewis]

I don't take mine. I'm always concerned he'll cuss someone out.

We're having openhouse on one of our projects this Thurs. and I was thinking about asking him?

 

[Caramela]

It would really depend how serious things are.

 

[Aveena]

You know what - I like that mindset. Whenever I had a business meeting/dinner I never drank because anyway you look at it, it's work. This is a pretty laid back company but I dont want to get the look for nothing.

I can understand it's a tough spot to be in. It's like you protecting your image at work as well as trying to nurture your relationship on the home front. I couldn't take the chance at work and he understood.

on the flipside, that lady that brought her SO, ended up preggers (first) and then married after the baby was born all within a year and a half so everything worked out for her. This didn't seem to affect her career wise I think because everyone met him and liked him ya know? He was the only guy the office knew and we all "approved".

 

[ThickHair]

I took my SO to the company party. I took him to other station events as well. No problem.

I may or may not take my current SO to the company party. I will see. At my new job these folks are so nosey (old white ladies) at the station everyone was laid back.

 

[Keen]

It would really depend how serious things are.

Yep. If you are married then yes. If you are not, you shouldn't unless you guys are really serious. It will look bad if you take a different person to every company event.

 

[reallynow]

Before DH I never took a SO to any work related events, I would take my best friend or go solo. Once DH and I got engaged then I would ask him to come to events, but while we were just dating, nope.

 

[neenee280]

Thank you ladies for all of the responses.