Bubblingbrownshuga
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I am seeing this term a lot now. I have some ideas of what this means, but I would like to hear other viewpoints.
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I read this once and it fit:
1) Glibness
2) Extreme charisma,
3) The need to always be doing something
4) Feelings of high self-worth (to the point of narcissism)
5) pathological lying
6) Proneness to boredom
7) Unwilling to open up about life or past (guarded to the extreme)
Wow, this definitely describes someone I know .. well, knew
I am seeing this term a lot now. I have some ideas of what this means, but I would like to hear other viewpoints.
I read this once and it fit:
1) Glibness
2) Extreme charisma,
3) The need to always be doing something
4) Feelings of high self-worth (to the point of narcissism)
5) pathological lying
6) Proneness to boredom
7) Unwilling to open up about life or past (guarded to the extreme)
I feel emotionally unavailable men and serial monogmists go hand in hand:
My theory: these men never seem to able to be alone for more than a few months at a time if that. They seem like they are sooooooo into you but when things get are past the honeymoon stages they're ready to run. They always have these fantasies about the perfect relationships yet they are never consistent, willing to try, lie at the drop of a dime and most of them cheat in some form or another.
I've observed male friends who are serial monogomists and these guys are ruthless:
One guy I know was living with a girl loving her up talking about she is the one, a few months down the line broke up with her moved out and was shacked up with another young lady loving her up taking her on vacas and everything she moved from Westchester to Brooklyn and a yr or so later he broke up wiith her fast forward two yrs later he got married to someone he met on the train. SMH
On a sidenote: I also feel that these men really do try in the beginning but because of the excess baggage that they carry and the deep rooted emotional scars, they can't emotionally work through any issues that they might have when in a relationship. Their escape is a relationship or women in general it makes them feel wanted, needed, and reassured of their manhood and once that feeling disappears they are in too deep so to speak that's when they bounce.
SUBBING!
1. negligence
2. insensitivity
3. distance
4. undecided
5. moody (one day they are keen, next they are not)
6. untrustworthy
I read this once and it fit:
1) Glibness
2) Extreme charisma,
3) The need to always be doing something
4) Feelings of high self-worth (to the point of narcissism)
5) pathological lying
6) Proneness to boredom
7) Unwilling to open up about life or past (guarded to the extreme)
Emotionally unavailable people are afraid of the consequences of being truly intimate with someone and ‘letting them in’. They’re afraid of what they will feel if they truly put themselves out there and feel genuine intimacy and end up being vulnerable and/or the relationship doesn’t work out.
This is why a lot of emotionally unavailable people are afraid of abandonment/of being ‘left’ and so they don’t let themselves get intimate because they’re afraid of realizing their fear. Of course, in carrying a belief that people will leave, they tend to align themselves with people who will leave and who are emotionally disconnected, or end up doing their utmost best to sabotage things so that they do realize the fear of abandonment and the self-fulfilling prophecy is proved.
I read this once and it fit:
7) Unwilling to open up about life or past (guarded to the extreme)
Doesn't share his life with you (you don't know too much about him or his past)
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Doesn't like to speak about anything from his past, will elude to difficult times in his past but will never share, I go on for days...
When you’re emotionally available, you’re willing to emotionally engage on an ongoing basis. The trouble with emotionally unavailable people is that they tend to do it in short bursts or have an intense period followed by a much longer lasting stretch of lukewarm or cold followed by occasional bursts or ‘spits’ of warmth. This is why, in particular, I get a lot of women mentioning the word ‘passion’ to me because in being involved with emotionally unavailable men, they’re used to getting bursts of sexual and emotional intensity that they think equates to passion. What it equates to is that persons inability to go the distance.
Should I not want him?
Can you tell me where you found this? Let me save myself before I get caught up in something terrible.
ccd said:How does one become emotionally available....
nothing like reading something that describes yourself...the truth hurts
This seems to be a recurring theme throughout the thread. I'm wondering what the basis of this could be.
What are they hiding?
I heard that. I read a few unsettling things myself. But awareness is the first step, no?