"The power of persistent is greater than the strength of your resistance..." Is there any truth to this statement? Is it possible to wear somebody down strategically in a way that leads to a long term loving relationship?
Case in point: I've got a friend who met this dude on a bet "we dare you to go _____" and she did. And their relationship was PURELY physical after for the next 3-5 months. She knew he was dating other people (and parading other folks) but she was convinced she could "lock it down".
She put together a plan of attack, that started by being a person who comforted him to a person he came to rely on. They went from "being physical" to having conversations about work/careers, spirituality. He would casually talk about what was lacking, and she would show him that she possessed those qualities. Soon, they were having dinner together - she used the excuse that she liked trying new recipes, and slowly but surely they were cooking together (all while dating other people). And 2 years later. He put a ring on it.
At their engagement party, he stood up and said "I wasn't ready for a relationship but she showed me, little by little, that I didn't want to live without her. That me being afraid to love and be loved could keep me from the greatest gift I've ever received".
We always talk about how men will not buy the cow if they get the milk for free. But what about those 30-day risk free trials and 90 day money-back guarantees?! They work. She showed this man what she could be, as a girlfriend, strategically and pointedly, and it worked! I mean, it really worked!
Can you change how a man perceives you? Or can a man do things to change how you perceive him?
Case in point: I've got a friend who met this dude on a bet "we dare you to go _____" and she did. And their relationship was PURELY physical after for the next 3-5 months. She knew he was dating other people (and parading other folks) but she was convinced she could "lock it down".
She put together a plan of attack, that started by being a person who comforted him to a person he came to rely on. They went from "being physical" to having conversations about work/careers, spirituality. He would casually talk about what was lacking, and she would show him that she possessed those qualities. Soon, they were having dinner together - she used the excuse that she liked trying new recipes, and slowly but surely they were cooking together (all while dating other people). And 2 years later. He put a ring on it.
At their engagement party, he stood up and said "I wasn't ready for a relationship but she showed me, little by little, that I didn't want to live without her. That me being afraid to love and be loved could keep me from the greatest gift I've ever received".
We always talk about how men will not buy the cow if they get the milk for free. But what about those 30-day risk free trials and 90 day money-back guarantees?! They work. She showed this man what she could be, as a girlfriend, strategically and pointedly, and it worked! I mean, it really worked!
Can you change how a man perceives you? Or can a man do things to change how you perceive him?