Tolle
Team Fluid
So the lies I started noticing were not really about women, but small seemingly insignificant things. I never mentioned anything I noticed, just made mental notes. @caribeandiva You were right about me not being able to open up to him for some reason but couldn't put my finger on it. I feel relieved because I was really wondering why I couldn't accept this "nice guy". So much so, that I never revealed where I lived or much about myself.. and this was starting to get to him.
We were out to dinner one night and below is our exchange:
Waiter: Sir, how would you like your duck prepared?
Him: Just below well done
Me: No sir, he'll take it well done
Him: O K, yea what she said (Waiter agrees and leaves)
Me: (Jokingly) How you sitting there promising to grow old and stay with me forever but your'e over there tryna off yourself with salmonella poising, its poultry for Christs sake.
Him: (All serious and ish) You want me to stay with you forever?
Me: (All cute and flirtatious like.. I thought) Maybe
Him:
Why is everything a maybe with you?! I can never get a solid yes like never. Everything is always so vague with you.
Me:
Him: Like I tell you everything about me but I dont know anything about you. Like damn! Am I making sense to you? I never hear you mention your mom, your dad, nothing. Outside of your job and your son, I don't know anything about you?
Me: You are absolutely correct sir. You don't know anything about me which is why it is impossible for you to love me. (Summons waiter for check and to go) What you know about me, is exactly what you should at this point.
The conversation carried on a lil further but the night ended with him being upset that I ended the night. This was Friday night and I intended to just never speak to him again. I had gotten the items I put on my checklist and really had no more use for him. I don't do drama so I didn't need a messy ending but clearly he did.
I ignored all calls/texts and went on about my life. Monday at about 11am he came to my job with gifts and pleas for me to hear him out. My assistant was termed 2 weeks ago so I work alone, with the exception of field staff who come and go at various times of the day. Now, I am super annoyed at this pop up visit but decide to get one last day of service..I asked if he would mind doing a few tasks (Put together my new desk, vacuum, and clean the bathroom). He eagerly obliged, and asked if there was anything else he could do to make my life easier. But of course..
I was going to restock my makeup after work so I gave him the list and sent him to the mall. He was more than happy and said he wanted to know all the "make up stuff" I needed anyway and stored the products in his phone. Sounds strange but he did the same with my toiletries and created a basket for me at his house. He brings back my ish and lunch and goes on his way.
I know its long yall, but its closing out.lol
That evening he calls and ask if we could do dinner. I declined.. He began going on one of his tangents about something or other and I just got tired of his voice and said "Why do you lie so much?" "You have a story for every topic under the sun and its quite disheartening that a man who always speaks about uplifting the black community and family is living a life which is counterproductive to the gospel you preach."
He didnt expect that.. He starts talking about how he was sorry for not telling me the whole truth about back door beauty but he swears blah blah blah.
I interrupted him and ran off at least 3 lies that I am certain of but never mentioned. He tried to speak but I kept talking over him, Cant remember my words verbatim but it was something to the gist of "do better, you're too old for this mess, this was not a situation where you ever had to lie about anything, it wasnt that deep, better luck next time, good life and good riddance. click
He called twice. I didnt answer. Then a text (Im thinking here he goes groveling... wrong
) and another, and another.
Text 1- A pic of him hugged up with a girl (a different one from that night). Caption- "Ain't she cute"
Text 2- Same girl selfie. Caption - "She's only wearing lipstick"
Text 3- Different girl, car selfie. Caption- "Flawless, maybe a lil eyeliner"
Text 4- The back of a girls head with beautiful hair. Caption "All hers"
Text 5- "Soon as you knew I was lying why not call me out on it, Trust me if I wouldn't have smashed in Charlotte you were gonna get dismissed anyway and get your hair done that **** is matted" ( He wanted to take a trip to Charlotte next weekend- clarification- He did not get my goodies. )
Me: draw dropped. He came for my throat yall!! I never responded. I DONT DO DRAMA
30 minutes later- baby baby please texts. Im sorry, I was hurt.
Officially blocked and ignored. Dodged a true bullet ladies.
We were out to dinner one night and below is our exchange:
Waiter: Sir, how would you like your duck prepared?
Him: Just below well done
Me: No sir, he'll take it well done
Him: O K, yea what she said (Waiter agrees and leaves)
Me: (Jokingly) How you sitting there promising to grow old and stay with me forever but your'e over there tryna off yourself with salmonella poising, its poultry for Christs sake.
Him: (All serious and ish) You want me to stay with you forever?
Me: (All cute and flirtatious like.. I thought) Maybe
Him:
Why is everything a maybe with you?! I can never get a solid yes like never. Everything is always so vague with you.Me:
Him: Like I tell you everything about me but I dont know anything about you. Like damn! Am I making sense to you? I never hear you mention your mom, your dad, nothing. Outside of your job and your son, I don't know anything about you?
Me: You are absolutely correct sir. You don't know anything about me which is why it is impossible for you to love me. (Summons waiter for check and to go) What you know about me, is exactly what you should at this point.
The conversation carried on a lil further but the night ended with him being upset that I ended the night. This was Friday night and I intended to just never speak to him again. I had gotten the items I put on my checklist and really had no more use for him. I don't do drama so I didn't need a messy ending but clearly he did.
I ignored all calls/texts and went on about my life. Monday at about 11am he came to my job with gifts and pleas for me to hear him out. My assistant was termed 2 weeks ago so I work alone, with the exception of field staff who come and go at various times of the day. Now, I am super annoyed at this pop up visit but decide to get one last day of service..I asked if he would mind doing a few tasks (Put together my new desk, vacuum, and clean the bathroom). He eagerly obliged, and asked if there was anything else he could do to make my life easier. But of course..
I was going to restock my makeup after work so I gave him the list and sent him to the mall. He was more than happy and said he wanted to know all the "make up stuff" I needed anyway and stored the products in his phone. Sounds strange but he did the same with my toiletries and created a basket for me at his house. He brings back my ish and lunch and goes on his way.
I know its long yall, but its closing out.lol
That evening he calls and ask if we could do dinner. I declined.. He began going on one of his tangents about something or other and I just got tired of his voice and said "Why do you lie so much?" "You have a story for every topic under the sun and its quite disheartening that a man who always speaks about uplifting the black community and family is living a life which is counterproductive to the gospel you preach."
He didnt expect that.. He starts talking about how he was sorry for not telling me the whole truth about back door beauty but he swears blah blah blah.
I interrupted him and ran off at least 3 lies that I am certain of but never mentioned. He tried to speak but I kept talking over him, Cant remember my words verbatim but it was something to the gist of "do better, you're too old for this mess, this was not a situation where you ever had to lie about anything, it wasnt that deep, better luck next time, good life and good riddance. click
He called twice. I didnt answer. Then a text (Im thinking here he goes groveling... wrong
) and another, and another.Text 1- A pic of him hugged up with a girl (a different one from that night). Caption- "Ain't she cute"
Text 2- Same girl selfie. Caption - "She's only wearing lipstick"
Text 3- Different girl, car selfie. Caption- "Flawless, maybe a lil eyeliner"
Text 4- The back of a girls head with beautiful hair. Caption "All hers"
Text 5- "Soon as you knew I was lying why not call me out on it, Trust me if I wouldn't have smashed in Charlotte you were gonna get dismissed anyway and get your hair done that **** is matted" ( He wanted to take a trip to Charlotte next weekend- clarification- He did not get my goodies. )
Me: draw dropped. He came for my throat yall!! I never responded. I DONT DO DRAMA
30 minutes later- baby baby please texts. Im sorry, I was hurt.
Officially blocked and ignored. Dodged a true bullet ladies.
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. You did that like a boss
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